What do you think is a failed way of education?

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Parents need to bypass these three educational pits if children want to become talents.

1, comparative education.

Many parents like to keep up with the joneses when educating their children.

For example, your child signed up for two remedial classes, and I signed up for four remedial classes.

If your children learn guzheng, I will let my children learn piano.

If your child learns a foreign language, I will apply for two foreign languages. ......

Parents always think that if they invest more money in education than others, they will certainly gain more.

Actually, this is a misunderstanding.

Whether children can attend remedial classes depends on their own children's situation.

Children don't like the piano. In order to compare with others, you have to drag your children to learn. In the end, it will only backfire and end in a hurry.

By the same token, there is no need for children to attend various remedial classes because of their excellent grades. However, if you drag your child to the remedial class, it will only make him tired and bored, and it will not help his study.

We often say that teaching students in accordance with their aptitude.

If children want to study well and become talents, they must first understand their actual situation and specify a training plan according to their situation.

In this matter of education, don't compare with others, the more you compare, the more you fail.

2. Stocking education

Some parents think that stocking education is good, and they think that children's nature should be respected. If they like to play, they should have fun and can't study every day.

Some parents let their children make trouble willfully, regardless of teaching, and cultivated a bear Haizi that everyone hates, and even cultivated a child who violated the law and committed crimes.

The concept of stocking education is wrong.

You know, children are like saplings and parents are gardeners.

If the sapling still grows by itself, it is impossible to become a talent.

If saplings want to grow tall and strong, they need careful care and pruning by their parents.

Parents must teach their children the discretion of speaking and doing things, and they must teach their children to manage their own desires and not be willful.

3, only pay attention to the results, not the education of emotional intelligence.

Some parents only let their children study hard, only value their grades, and don't let their children participate in anything or do anything.

Slowly, the child becomes a bookworm, who can say nothing and do nothing except get good grades.

This kind of child doesn't know how to deal with his relationship with others, and his interpersonal relationship is in a mess.

Such children leave the campus, whether they are in work or in love, many problems are not handled well and it is difficult to succeed.

Therefore, parents and friends should not only let their children study, but also let them do housework, properly handle some things and learn to get along with others.

As long as we can bypass the three pits I mentioned above, education can play its greatest role and children can become better and better.

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Combined with some practical cases around me, I think this phenomenon should be avoided:

"For your own good" is an excuse, but it is actually the compensatory psychology of parents.

Sometimes parents themselves can't tell whether the development path planned for their children is to make up for their regrets or to fully consider the current social needs. After all, they are ordinary people and will not deeply introspect.

My neighbor's mother has been throwing money and energy at all kinds of extra-long classes since her daughter was three years old. Because she and her husband didn't go to college, they want to go to college. Because they are incapable of education and guidance, they have to scrimp and save. However, the child has been failing grades. They began to hire one-on-one tutors when they were in primary school, but it didn't work. As neighbors, they often hear their children's mothers say, "We are all for your own good. We can't go to college to see what you are doing?" "How much did you spend since childhood? Why are you so disappointing? "

Money, energy and expenses are not less, and children are not less involved. In fact, as we all know, as far as learning ability is concerned, the influence of parents on children is acquired, just like congenital factors. Parents' genes determine their children's IQ, and the scientific guidance the day after tomorrow is icing on the cake. Just like my neighbor, although the children have made up so many classes, their parents rarely follow them, or accompany their grandparents, or go shopping after school, and come back soon after class. Children never know what they have learned in class and never urge them. If the homework is not well done and criticized by the teacher, parents will reprimand the children together and say, "My parents didn't have such good conditions as you when they were young. Now you haven't worked hard to create such good conditions for you. Who do you deserve? "

Children's scores in the senior high school entrance examination this year are basically not up to public high schools. The teacher's suggestion is to go to a higher vocational school, but the children's parents resolutely refuse to do so, and send their children to private middle schools for the purpose of entering universities.

-I'm mother cat, the mother of a second-grade pupil. I look forward to discussing with you how to cultivate Xiong Haizi.

Personally, I think the biggest mistake in educating children is to spoil them. Spoilers don't know the insatiable. For example, there is such a thing in my hometown. My child is about 16 years old. He likes playing games and asks his mother for money, but she won't give it. Later, he stole grandma's money from dozens to hundreds. Grandma didn't say anything when she knew it, fearing that her grandson would be beaten, and then she continued to put the money in the old place for her grandson to steal! But the grandson's appetite is getting bigger and bigger, and grandma has no money to put it there. Then the child went to steal money from his aunt. Later, his aunt found out and told his mother. Instead of blaming his son, his mother got into a fight with his sister-in-law. Since then, the two families have stopped seeing each other. A few years later, the child had a girlfriend, and the two had a good relationship. In order to spend more money for his girlfriend, he began to steal things. One neighbor stole thousands and another neighbor stole thousands. Later, when a person steals, all the neighbors know about him. He knelt down and begged the owner to let him go and promised not to steal again. The master also twisted his temper and insisted on taking him to the village Committee. He said, "I can't go. I have a girlfriend. If she knows, she will break up with me. " The master just won't let go. When two people pulled him, the child took out a knife and stabbed his master, and then ran away. The owner of this family bled to death. Later, the police caught him in three days, and later sentenced him to death and shot him. His mother cried and regretted it! Her son is gone, and she knows that she is wrong, and she has restored relations with her sister-in-law's family.

This is too spoiled for children. Both mother and grandmother made the same mistake, which ruined the child's life.

I think it is a failure to force children to study blindly without considering their characteristics. There is such a case around me that these children have no interest in learning in the end.

(1) Neighbor's children

My family lives in a neighbor's house in a mountainous rural area. The child was forced to study at home since he was a child. Finally, his parents found that he was not very interested in learning, so they gave up the mandatory requirements for him.

Their young parents worked in a factory in Zhejiang for more than ten years, and later earned money by working and went home to engage in aquaculture. When young parents work in Zhejiang, their children are all taken by their parents, and of course the management is relatively loose. However, after returning home, the young couple paid more attention to their children's education. However, when they educate their children, they do not talk about scientific methods, but only force them to study blindly. In addition to the learning tasks assigned by the teacher, children also need to complete the learning tasks assigned by their parents. Sometimes I even see her practicing calligraphy and writing posts there. By observing the performance of this child, I found that this child actually loves to play, but because of the deterrent of his parents, he can't go out to play with his peers.

Later, when the child was in the second and third day of junior high school, I saw that she sometimes went out with her parents to herd sheep. In contrast, children were forced to study by their parents when they were young. I am curious to ask his parents why the requirements for him are so low now. From his parents' mouth, she found that the child was not interested in learning, so she gave up her demands on him.

I think it is a good idea to let children learn independently. This method of forcing children to learn blindly is not a long-term solution.

(2) Children of relatives

I have a child on Tuesday, and my parents forced me to study since I was a child.

Children go to primary school and junior high school, and they often need to participate in various remedial classes and interest cultivation on weekends and holidays. It is precisely because her parents forced her to attend various remedial classes and interest classes that her children basically did not have a complete childhood.

When the children took the senior high school entrance examination, they were not admitted to the key high schools in the county. I think it may be because children are forced to study by their parents since childhood. When the power of parental supervision is relaxed, children's academic performance will immediately decline.

First of all, thank you very much for answering this question here. Let me take you into this question. Now let's discuss it together.

Parents need to bypass these three educational pits if children want to become talents.

1, comparative education.

Many parents like to keep up with the joneses when educating their children.

For example, your child signed up for two remedial classes, and I signed up for four remedial classes.

If your children learn guzheng, I will let my children learn piano.

If your child learns a foreign language, I will apply for two foreign languages. ......

Parents always think that if they invest more money in education than others, they will certainly gain more.

Actually, this is a misunderstanding.

Whether children can attend remedial classes depends on their own children's situation.

Children don't like the piano. In order to compare with others, you have to drag your children to learn. In the end, it will only backfire and end in a hurry.

We often say that teaching students in accordance with their aptitude.

If children want to study well and become talents, they must first understand their actual situation and specify a training plan according to their situation.

In this matter of education, don't compare with others, the more you compare, the more you fail.

2. Stocking education

Some parents think that stocking education is good, and they think that children's nature should be respected. If they like to play, they should have fun and can't study every day.

Some parents let their children make trouble willfully, regardless of teaching, and cultivated a bear Haizi that everyone hates, and even cultivated a child who violated the law and committed crimes.

The concept of stocking education is wrong.

You know, children are like saplings and parents are gardeners.

If the sapling still grows by itself, it is impossible to become a talent.

If saplings want to grow tall and strong, they need careful care and pruning by their parents.

Parents must teach their children the discretion of speaking and doing things, and they must teach their children to manage their own desires and not be willful.

3, only pay attention to the results, not the education of emotional intelligence.

Some parents only let their children study hard, only value their grades, and don't let their children participate in anything or do anything.

Slowly, the child becomes a bookworm, who can say nothing and do nothing except get good grades.

This kind of child doesn't know how to deal with the relationship with others, and the interpersonal relationship is in a mess.

Such children leave the campus, whether they are in work or in love, many problems are not handled well and it is difficult to succeed.

Therefore, parents and friends should not only let their children study, but also let them do housework, properly handle some things and learn to get along with others.

As long as we can bypass the three pits I mentioned above, education can play its greatest role and children can become better and better.

The answers to this question shared above are all personal opinions and suggestions. I hope the answer to this question I shared can help everyone.

Meanwhile, I hope you like my sharing. If you have a better answer to this question, please share your comments and discuss this topic together.

Finally, here I am. I wish you all a happy life, good health, a prosperous family and everything, a big fortune every year and a prosperous business. Thank you!

I think it is a failure to force children to study blindly without considering their characteristics. There is such a case around me that these children have no interest in learning in the end.

(1) Neighbor's children

I think it is a good idea to let children learn independently. This method of forcing children to learn blindly is not a long-term solution.

(2) Children of relatives

I have a child on Tuesday, and my parents forced me to study since I was a child.

The most failed education is that you can't see your children in the process of educating them.

1. When we can't see children's needs, we can't give them timely satisfaction. For example, if a child is frightened, he hides behind you, and you can't see its needs, you will pay more attention to your face, and you will take her to say hello to others; The child was depressed because of his poor exam results. I blame myself, too I can't see my children, and I am eager for comfort and encouragement. You scold him and compare him with other children. At this time, the child's heart is extremely hurt. His trust was destroyed. The world is slowly losing trust.

When we can't see the characteristics of children, we will ask all children to be the same. Just like asking for an assembly line product, we ask our children to be like others. We will compare the advantages of others with the disadvantages of our children. We will use the strengths of other people's children to demand our own children, regardless of our own growth pace. Does his characteristics meet this requirement? Therefore, wheat must be planted in rice fields. So that the child finally doesn't know what his specialty is. Instead, I learned to compare with others, and the more I compare with others, the more I feel inferior. At the same time, it has also entered vicious competition, which has caused great pressure on work and study.

When we can't see children's independence, we will deprive them of their sense of autonomy. Putting our unfulfilled ideals or inner regrets on children's heads, thinking that this is good for children, is actually depriving children of their own independent thoughts. People are different, and they all have their own specialties and dreams. Even if he is your child, he doesn't belong to you, and he's not who you used to be. Therefore, don't put your unrealized ideals above your children's heads, but look at what kind of ideals and pursuits your own children have to support them to achieve.

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The most tragic failure of primary and secondary education is to make all students become schoolmasters. But no more than 5% are proficient in learning, and others are not talented enough. This is the reason why Hengshui model can't be popularized. The exam-oriented teaching in primary and secondary schools must be reformed, with new ideas and new forms. As long as you learn, how to learn is bullying; Other students still can't become schoolmasters according to the model of schoolmasters.

For students and parents, they can't learn the learning style of Xueba.

Every year, when the college entrance examination is over, the number one scholar comes out, which is admired by everyone and warmly welcomed by the media. This is how the tyrants learn, and this is how the tyrants learn, endless and dazzling. What do you remember? How many points did you get in the exam? Remember the things you don't worry about in the exam. Parents have asked their children to imitate, but what is the result? Disappointed, disappointed again.

Look at the real learning process of the schoolmasters. Test idioms, almost remember the idiom dictionary; Archaeological texts, 48 function words are clear to the chest; English test, 10 thousand words just started; Test mathematics, familiar with hundreds of questions; Test physics; Full marks often appear; In the chemistry exam, super-class learning is the norm; Candidates take physics, history, geography, politics ... I took the college entrance examination, and as a result, I can go to any university in China.

According to statistics, every year, there are no more than 500 students in each province and city who have the ability to compete for "clearing the North". The memory talent of these students is a bit exaggerated if God helps them, but it is worthwhile to divide three times five by two. What you can't remember in an hour, he can do it in a few minutes; You do a problem, and he does 10 problems, or even more. No contrast, no harm, prick? If you don't have Jin Gangzuan, don't engage in porcelain work. If you are not talented enough, don't imitate Xueba.

How to evaluate students' talents? Usually grade five, grade two and grade one are three evaluation time points. If there is a decline in test scores caused by non-human factors at these three time points, it means that your talent node has arrived. As far as the content and requirements of the exam are concerned, more than 80% students can't rely on their own memory talent to achieve first-class results in the college entrance examination. Practice has proved that hard work is a necessary condition for success, but it is not a sufficient condition, which shows that "crazy" struggle can not guarantee the success of junior high school and senior high school entrance examination. However, the data show that talent and exam-oriented teaching are sufficient conditions for the success of the exam. Remember: sufficient conditions are the guarantee of results.

Can talent be changed the day after tomorrow? Difficult, man cannot conquer nature. What about teaching? Yes, it is not difficult to change teaching artificially. It is natural that talent is not enough to teach. The students are all "model workers" Usually, I brush the questions until eleven or twelve o'clock, and then brush them in the cram school on weekends and holidays, making everyone like "learning tyrants", but learning tyrants is still learning tyrants, and you are still you.

In an exclusive interview with me, Shui Junyi, a famous host of CCTV, said, "You want to subvert ...". Yes, if you don't learn bullying, you must find another way and forge ahead. Otherwise, you can only become a poor "lamb", being rubbed by others, acting as the "denominator" and squandering your feelings about love. New concept of exam-oriented teaching: copy learning, not thinking about learning. The word difference surprised the students and then cheered. There are standard courses and open classes to implement new ideas (online, any student and parent can watch and learn). The new teaching form greatly reduces the students' memory, perfectly matches the level of most talents, and achieves a qualitative leap in examination efficiency and achievement (doing mathematics casually in primary schools, getting full marks in the senior high school entrance examination, and grading the senior high school entrance examination), changing memory learning into wisdom learning.

Scientific training can fully display talents. Those students with high talents but lacking talents due to improper training can win major exams (senior high school entrance examination and senior high school entrance examination) like "learning tyrants". You are still you. Find another way and you will be a different person.

Tell the truth, do practical things, believe that the truth is in the hands of a few people, and innovate to change the results.

The answers to this question shared above are all personal opinions and suggestions. I hope the answer to this question I shared can help everyone.

Meanwhile, I hope you like my sharing. If you have a better answer to this question, please share your comments and discuss this topic together.

Finally, here I am. I wish you all a happy life, good health, a prosperous family and everything, a big fortune every year and a prosperous business. Thank you!

Now all kinds of psychological problems of parents come from growing families, so many parents begin to think about their children's education model. The education under strong guidance advocated by the state has been concerned, but has the education of children been solved? However, this is not the case. Moreover, with the reflection of parents, education is becoming more and more urgent for parents, the status of "mother" is becoming more and more important, and the requirements for mothers are getting higher and higher.

When I got up for work in the morning, I heard my daughter talking to her mother. My mother said, "Do you know? You are worse than a dog? Do you know that?/You know what? Do you know that?/You know what? You just stand here, I'm going to eat, you just stand here and stay still until noon, and if I don't see you when I come back, I'll kill you. " I don't know how much it hurts girls. Why are you still giving birth?

The best education always leads by example. Parents at home and teachers at school should give up the carrot and stick method of taming animals. Children are real people, not your pets or animals! Educate and influence children in a more humane way.

The mission of education is to respect children's growth and development laws and personality differences, awaken children's inner consciousness, help them establish themselves and determine their relationship with the world, instead of killing his nature, suppressing his thoughts and shaping his soul through control, indoctrination and coercion.

It is not terrible that parents can't educate, and it doesn't matter if they don't understand education. For children, what ta needs is not luxurious material enjoyment, but companionship when lonely, guidance when confused, encouragement when successful, and understanding when failed. And it is precisely every parent who can give them the most. Therefore, please busy parents spend more time with their children.

Companionship is the best influence, and example is the best education!

My parents only care about my grades, and I only study in my world. It is conceivable that my life skills are poor. How can such a child be confident? I hide too much inferiority and loneliness behind my quiet!

When I entered marriage and started a family, I got along with everyone in my husband's family carefully. I can't even cook. Should I be able to scoop rice? Otherwise, it is difficult for me to scoop the noodles from the pot into the bowl. As you can imagine, I am extremely uncomfortable in this big family.

Now I take care of the children and let them do everything I do. I always thought that one day, my children would not be as clumsy as me after entering the family, but I was surprised to find that children not only learned to do things, but more importantly, learned to think. Good living habits and thinking habits also bring great benefits to children's learning, making them extremely sunny and confident.

Although the education I received from my parents failed, I made some compensation for my children.

Failure is success. Damn it, it makes sense to think about it ...