Will have an impact on children's mental health. To put it bluntly, gratitude means that you are kind to me and I will be grateful to you. I am the subject and others are the objects I want to thank, but now many elders seem to be confused about the concept of this word. According to the thinking of the older generation, I was kind when I gave birth to you, and you were my accessory. Always listen to me. If you dare to resist me, you are a "baiwenhang". This will only make the child more rebellious and make him feel disrespected.

But then again, if the elders regard their children as part of themselves, why should their "bodies" be grateful to themselves? So sometimes people's ideas are funny. Gratitude is not a concept of being coerced into obedience, but a heartfelt reward to the other party.

But now the biggest problem of the elders in the family is that they only have one side of the child's cognition, but they don't understand the child's real inner needs, just like the moral kidnapping of "I am for your own good", thinking that I gave my child the best, forcing him to accept it and let him repay it. If it were you, would you?

Today's children need respect, not only the companionship of their parents, but also the companionship of their hearts. If they want to educate their children to be grateful, they must find the right way, and don't force them to do something in their own emotions, which will do great psychological harm to them. First of all, parents should change their mentality, don't follow tradition, and take the initiative to communicate with their children.

Don't do everything for your child, it will make him lose himself. He doesn't feel the hardships of life and takes everything for granted. How do you want him to learn to be grateful? Furthermore, don't let school test scores become the standard to measure children, don't talk about traditional Chinese virtues one-sidedly, and learn to discover children's "way of gratitude".