Common things take turns, and there are exchanges between ancient and modern times. Good family education is a seamless teaching, but also a "tangible" charm. Family education is the spiritual bond for the Chinese nation to inherit 5,000 years of history and culture. The following are my comments on the lecture on family education, I hope you like it!
Comments on Family Education Lecture 1 I am a post-80s mother. As an only-child generation, I am inevitably selfish and willful in my own character. After giving birth to a daughter, it is more like a big child with a small child, but as the saying goes: "Family education is no small matter, and education is everywhere in life." Therefore, in educating my daughter, I should start from small things, and at the same time, I should start from myself and be a good example for my daughter.
As a small mirror of parents, if you want your daughter to become better, you must first improve your self-cultivation. How do parents who export dirty clothes educate polite children? Parents themselves have no good habits, how can they ask their children's morality and quality; How can children be honest and trustworthy when their parents break their promises? These three points are also what I have been reflecting on myself when educating my daughter.
Respect for our daughter is also a very important thing in our family, and we don't treat our daughter as a child. I believe that even if my daughter is young, she will have her own ideas and opinions. Although she is young, she is also an independent individual. Respect my daughter, give her a chance to express her thoughts and listen to her opinions. I believe that a respected daughter will become more and more sensible.
In order to supplement my daughter's nutrition, I chose Mead Johnson Dutch version A+ in the choice of milk powder, which has always been my daughter's favorite. It is important that milk powder contains DHA in a scientific proportion, which is also commonly known as brain gold, and it is also the main component for the growth and maintenance of nerve cells in the system. Sufficient DHA can fully develop a daughter's head. Only when the head is well developed can all aspects of education achieve the best results. In addition, milk powder contains a unique (PDX+GOS) prebiotic formula, so there is no need to worry about getting angry in summer.
Although novice mothers have many problems to overcome in parenting, I believe that with my continuous efforts, I will be able to change my bad habits and better educate my daughter.
Comments on Family Education Lecture 2 Many people around me have always asked me why your children are so good and easy to take care of. I always answer with a smile: she was born so well, so easy to take! In fact, there is a causal relationship between the two!
Since Dora was born, I have been holding her in my arms under the pressure of public opinion. Everyone says let her go, let her go, or I won't let her go in the future. But I just want to hold her. As soon as she cried, I immediately picked her up and made others think that I spoiled her too much and wouldn't let her cry. Actually, I want to enrich her heart. Sometimes parents don't need certain financial strength to meet their children's inner needs. A baby who has never left her mother since birth, a baby who has never been refused and delayed to feed, and a baby who has never been forced to feed, can she not take care of it?
Dora is now 18 months old. She doesn't know strangers and greets people. If she knows someone, she will let others hold her. If you meet her for the first time, after greeting, you will look at people smiling and talking to people "ah, ah", but she just doesn't take the initiative to let people hug. She has a good memory. People she knows today will see you tomorrow, and others will start yelling at her 30 meters away. Consciously put on your shoes. Although the shoes are upside down, they will pick them up and put them on their feet.
I have always felt that children will develop real self-control without parental control, so Dora is crawling all over the floor and tossing around the house, and nothing can be put down. She opened the cupboard, rummaged through the clothes, carried the pot, covered the empty box on her head, pushed the bench and ran around the house, never stopping except sleeping. I just want to make sure her life is not in danger, and I'll leave the rest to her.
Reflections on Family Education Lecture 3: Children are naturally curious about the living environment and things around them, eager to participate in it and gain the pleasure of experience and success. We might as well give him such an opportunity appropriately. My children learned to eat by themselves when they were over one year old. When I was two years old, I would wear simple clothes and pants by myself. They performed better than ordinary children in the nursery and were praised by the $2 teacher. Although the child didn't finish these things well at first, I always gave her a chance to try and encourage her until she succeeded. My children and I have been sleeping in separate beds since childhood. When she was four years old, she said that she was a big child and offered to sleep in a room alone. I was not sure at that time, but I agreed to her request. In the first few nights, I always got up in the middle of the night to watch it several times, and occasionally I found her kicking off the quilt, but most of the time she wrapped herself tightly. Later, I usually don't get up to check her quilt. I have complete confidence that she can take care of herself. I'm relieved. This is also her proudest place. She often proudly tells her children that she sleeps alone in a room.
We can usually let our children wash some small things, such as their own rice bowls and handkerchiefs. When it is not clean, we can secretly wash it again later, but in front of the children, we must praise it. After a long time, children can do what they can do better. Appropriate encouragement and appreciation can strengthen good learning behavior and prevent the formation of bad behavior. As the saying goes, "one word of encouragement is better than a hundred words of scolding." Indeed, compared with criticism and accusation, "encouragement" has more unexpected effects on younger children. Usually, you should use a magnifying glass to discover your child's good habits and give encouragement and praise in time.
The formation of good behavior habits was not built in a day. It requires children's long-term efforts, constant supervision and guidance from parents, perseverance, bit by bit, dripping water wears away the stone, and accumulated over time until a good habit is formed.
I am ashamed to say that my friends around me recommended Mr. X's lecture very early and never had a chance to learn. Thanks for the study organized by the school. Today, I was lucky enough to hear Mr. X's _ _, which benefited me a lot.
Parents always blame their children for disobedience, but do we really understand the motives behind their bad behavior? Whether he wants to seek excessive attention, power or revenge, we need to learn how to read children. Being a parent is never a natural thing. We really need to study hard. It's not too late to start education. As Teacher X said, we should be glad that our children are still in the wrong primary stage and everything is still there. In case of conflict with children, we should take care of their feelings, pay more attention to their mental health and avoid excessive behavior. At the same time, we should also reflect on ourselves and learn how to control our emotions and solve problems calmly. As a mother of two children, I am also introspection, trying to change from a terrible big tiger to a docile little white rabbit in the eyes of children. I really want everything to start over.
What is the best education? I like kohut's famous saying that the most important source of a well-functioning psychological structure is parents' personality, especially their ability to respond to their children's needs, determination without hostility, affection without temptation.
The real "for your own good" looks at the smiling faces of the babies, as if they were children again. The difference is that as parents, we have the pressure and responsibility. In the face of all kinds of intrigue in society, we think they are always so naive and carefree.
I was lucky enough to listen to Teacher X's class yesterday, and suddenly I found that the distance between me and my children was so far. I thought I had done my best. Who ever thought I was not qualified to really understand what my children need and how they feel? Looking at the questioning eyes of children, I never take it seriously. I always thought I was right and good. Companionship is the best bridge between parents and children, and the growth of children is a trip for parents. In the face of children who make mistakes, we should not just be angry and punish them, but control our temper and help them peacefully. Only when you are really strong enough can you accept and guide your children to bear the consequences.
If children are kites, parents are strings; If children are arrows, parents are bows. Letting go properly is both fulfillment and respect, and it is really "for your own good".
Comments on Family Education Lecture 5 Qian Zhongshu once wrote a book Fortress Besieged. He warned us that marriage is like a besieged city. People in the city want to escape, and people outside the city want to rush in. Once you escape, you will find that the city is closed and no longer open to you! No, my friend almost ran away the other day. Only under the persuasion of three or five relatives did I make a rational decision-this saved the originally happy family!
The reason for the emotional crisis between us is that alcohol is at work, drinking too much to vent on the TV at home, the TV suffers, and the husband and wife turn against each other. Then there was the cold war, divorce. They take it out on themselves, and it is their relatives who suffer. I went all the way to talk, and my relatives were worried about not talking. Everyone is also involved in each other's negative energy, and it is inevitable to break up with each other on impulse. Being attacked by emotional garbage is as uncomfortable as encountering poop on the road. For a long time, the stench and ugliness always lingered. Confucius' evaluation of his student Yan Hui is "Never get angry and never fail". People who reach this state are saints, and it is never easy to really achieve it. They need to constantly improve their personality, restrain negative emotions and realize the harm of losing their temper! Lighter, damaged goods, broken marriage, difficult to protect the family! Many people divorce because they can't tolerate each other's temper. The famous cat-kicking effect warns everyone that the mood of the day, the performance of work and whether things go smoothly depend on the ability to manage emotions in the morning.
A person's ability to control emotions determines your social circle. (cultured people don't choose people who love to lose their temper and complain) decide your family happiness index and children's education (your cultivation is children's education), and decide the peak of your career (good character cultivation will bring you wealth and business opportunities). Take self-cultivation as a compulsory course in life! More rational, more calm; More tolerance will broaden your horizons!
Many people encounter unpleasant things, and pets, children, wives, husbands and even colleagues at home have become ta's punching bag. It leads to the intensification of family conflicts, children trembling with fear, feeling unstable, losing their sense of security and belonging to the family. There is such an article on the internet that "no matter who wins the quarrel, the children will lose in the end"! If you want to build a harmonious and warm family, you must start by controlling each other's emotions! Let the family be full of songs and laughter, turn the family into a castle of love, and let the children grow up surrounded by love!