Last week, I participated in the children's school family Committee, and the school garden reported some improvements this semester. The last link is the time for parents to make suggestions, and many parents are very active. Made a lot of useful suggestions.

Some parents said that several parents in the class are worried about their children eating at school, and see if they can, for example, sit next to their children at breakfast and urge them to eat.

Some parents say that children drink milk and the teacher only gives one bowl at a time. Our children drink more milk at home. Can you give me more? Because children don't know how to find a teacher to supplement at school.

Some parents also say that my children are spoiled. I'm afraid he can't play well with other children at school. Some parents also said that I want to know the children's every move at school. Can teachers send more videos and photos instead of just a few every day? Wow! I'm really preoccupied. After the children are sent to kindergarten, parents can't see them for a day. They don't know whether they eat well, sleep well, have fun well, and worry about all kinds.

I can understand, but I think children can actually integrate into the big family of kindergarten more than they thought, and they can easily accept some rules of kindergarten. As long as parents are willing to let go, children will grow up soon.

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The last time I took my child for vaccination, it was past ten when I sent my child to kindergarten. I saw two classes of children queuing up to exercise in the playground. There are a row of tires on the playground, as well as sports equipment that cross obstacles. Children should do physical cycle training, which is much more fun than at home. At home, I basically fool around with my children, but at school, the teacher plans to take the children to do sports, and the meals I eat are also mixed with vegetarian dishes and have comprehensive nutrition. At home, we mix all kinds of oil, meat and vegetables. So for me, children in kindergarten are better than at home, with regular life and colorful activities. Parents need not worry too much.

Some parents also suggested that the school often has transfer students, which is not good. I wonder what kind of environment we should create for our children to protect them from all kinds of harm, and to what extent is it perfect. What are the benefits of such a perfect environment for children? Won't they have to face all kinds of strangers when they leave society?

It is true that some kindergartens are irresponsible to their children and the quality of teachers is uneven. Therefore, I suggest that when choosing a kindergarten, parents can ask some parents what this school is like when their children are waiting to pick up their children after school. Parents themselves can also observe their children's sports on the playground. Choose kindergartens carefully.

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Why these kindergartens? Because sometimes the more I contact my parents, the more I feel that many parents are very anxious. I am afraid that my children will be wronged, that they will not have enough to eat and wear warm clothes, that they will lose at the starting line, that they will pay too much, but they will not be grateful, and they will lose their temper easily, feeling that their good intentions are not appreciated at all.

Recently, Dad Xi and I have also answered many questions from our parents, and I am really worried.

Some parents said that they had reported many interest classes to their children since childhood, and they liked it just like playing, but now they are in primary school, and their children are not interested in any interest classes, nor are they interested in learning, and they are unwilling to do their homework.

Some parents said that children were spoiled since childhood, and some behaviors were condoned by themselves. Now the children are old and rebellious, and even scold their parents and beat them. I can't listen to any preaching, my study is a mess, and I can't discipline it.

Some parents said that when a child was young, he always gave him everything, leaving him no chance to show his abilities and not delegating power to him. Nowadays, children depend on their parents for everything, even their parents accompany them in their homework, and they won't do it without them. Every day when he comes back from work, he is extremely tired. He didn't start to do his own thing and housework until the children finished their homework. He stays up late every night and gets up early for work the next day.

Some parents beat their children when they say their grades are poor. Their academic performance is not good. What can they do when they grow up? What can they do without spiritual energy when they grow up?

Some parents say that children are shy and afraid of things. How can we make them a lovely and generous child?

There are many, many, I understand all these. Because I am also a mother, I am very anxious and anxious when I see my child's poor performance. But when I found myself slowly changing the way I talked to my children, the children began to lose their temper less, be less arrogant and less unreasonable. I feel very gratified.

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Fortunately, some parents themselves have been able to realize that many times the problems are their own, but there are also some parents who strongly refute when we euphemistically point out that their parents need to change slowly, as if poking her where it hurts. Because I think this is my true feeling, I didn't treat him the way I used to scold him when I didn't like it. Now my children also say that they are very happy. If my parents don't quarrel, I won't punish me. I am no longer lonely and afraid.

How sad, lonely and scared I am. She has never told me these words before. But some parents said that you know all this, but this is a child's problem. Did I have a bad talk with him? Did he listen? I'm not anxious. Can this society tolerate him doing this? If he is not allowed to learn more interesting skills, other children can do it in the future, and he knows nothing, then how can he face the future competition? Yes, these parents are right, and the competition is cruel, but have you ever thought about what kind of children you want to raise, a bird that can never spread its wings under your wings or an eagle that can soar in the sky?

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Then how to do it?

Dad Xi and I summed up eight words: "Combine leniency with severity, and let go of the big ones."

We usually talk to our children now, and try our best to communicate with her in positive language, admit her feelings or ideas, and support many of her decisions.

Try to teach her some skills slowly in life. We delegated power to her, and she has absolute sovereignty over many things. We don't interfere. For example, what clothes to wear, how to match, sometimes pink with red, pink with brown and so on. , all by him! I sometimes remind you that maybe red with black and pink with white will make people look more comfortable! But she didn't like it, so I gave up.

For example, when she goes back to her hometown, she packs her own clothes and toys. It is much easier for us adults. We won't allow things that we don't agree with. Therefore, children know where our bottom line is and will not challenge our bottom line again and again. We will not use punishment or severe prohibition or threat, we will say so, and we disagree. What are our fears? If you have a better solution, you can always come to me! We can discuss it.

Therefore, children have control over their own lives and confidence in their own abilities. We must believe that children are more capable than we think. They have many ways to solve the problem. As long as you trust your child and cultivate his ability, he will be able to control himself well in his later study and life. We don't need to worry too much. If we always be helicopter mothers or helicopter fathers, children can only be as shiny as strawberries and fragile inside.

Especially cruel and loving, give him freedom and give him rules. This is the true love of parents.