Of course, parents may feel wronged when they say they don't know their children: don't I know my children? I gave birth to the child, and I gave my whole heart to the child. I know exactly what children like and dislike. Some parents even said: I raised my child myself, and I know where there are scars on him.

Indeed, it is absolutely believed that parents love their children. As we all know, parents' educational level is improving year by year, which are the conditions to help parents understand their children. However, many things in real life are also regrettable to find that parents' social status and educational level are not exactly the same as their educational level. Although some parents are full of love and high education, some parents have high positions in the workplace.

Many parents put a lot of effort into their children, giving them the best living conditions and learning conditions, giving them all the nutrients they can buy and wearing the best brand-name clothes, but they can't really understand them.

Parents don't understand their children, mainly because there is a certain gap between them.

The primary gap is that parents and children have different levels of psychological development. Children's sensory' perceptual' thinking is not yet mature, and their feelings about the outside world are different from those of adults. For example, parents take their children to shopping malls. Legal persons think shopping malls are very lively and fun, while some children feel bored because they can't see a wide range of goods, only the legs of adults who keep walking. Parents and children went to the zoo, and the children enjoyed themselves. Parents think animals have nothing to see. In addition, there are great differences between the two generations in life experience, cultural background, values and family status. In life experience, some parents went to the countryside to catch up with the Cultural Revolution, and some parents are being laid off. Under the background of the times, today's children live in the era of knowledge economy and information age, while most of our parents grew up in the era of planned economy. Different life experiences and background make parents and children have different values and different ways of looking at problems.

Moreover, most of the parents' generation grew up in the era of reading and writing, while today's children are the generation that grew up in front of the TV. They can be said to be living in the' Internet Age' in the audio-visual era, and the great influence of the media will undoubtedly bring great differences to the two generations. These differences are an important reason for the intergenerational gap.

Therefore, mature parents should be good at communicating with their children, that is, parents who are good at discovering what their children are thinking and doing. When children do things that adults can't understand, parents don't immediately reprimand or question them, but talk to them calmly to understand their true thoughts.

How can we really understand children and communicate with them better? Put forward the following suggestions:

@ Improve your own quality first. Parents can listen to more lectures, read more family education books and learn more about their children's psychology and pedagogy. With the knowledge base, parents can understand the psychological characteristics of their children at different stages of growth and truly communicate with their children.

@ Find a common language to communicate with children. Being friends requires a lot of common language. In order to have the same language as children, parents should spend more time with their children, play with them and watch TV together. Of course, they should be more concerned about their children's worries and help them solve problems in time. In this way, you can understand their innermost thoughts in life and know what kind of help their children need.

Be a child's lawyer. Because parents and children have different values, some parents always want to be children's judges, and always want to find problems in their children's lives and let them make mistakes. But in fact, simply judging children's right or wrong can easily cause children's disgust, making them feel that their parents are always uneasy about themselves and always looking for opportunities to clean themselves up. If children feel this way, do you think they are still willing to listen to their parents? Can you still understand their thoughts? Therefore, parents should be lawyers before they become judges. When you want to criticize children, you might as well defend them in your mind first.