First, the wrong view of children does not know how to respect children and the law of their growth. Some people say that the most selfless parents in the world are China's parents, who are willing to give everything for their children. The most selfish parents are China parents. Many parents regard their children as their parents' private "property" or a tool to realize their adult ideals or honor their ancestors. They don't know how to respect children, don't consider or rarely consider their feelings and needs, and only educate their children according to their parents' wishes and experiences, ignoring the factors of family education ecological environment and the influence of parents' own words and deeds, ignoring that children are also important members of the family and growing people, and can't adjust their education according to the changes that have taken place in their growth.
Second, the wrong view of education is reflected in the educational thought and behavior that values wisdom, despises morality and despises emotion. Often manifested as "more than ten but less": ask more and think less; Jiao is more fond of and loves, and the requirements are not so strict; More material satisfaction, less mental effort; Expect more and teach less in accordance with their aptitude; Care more about the body and less about the mind; Care more about learning and less about being a man; More nagging, beating and cursing, less inspiration and induction; There are more exam assignments and less outdoor activities; There are many family conflicts and less unity; Individuals think more, but society thinks less. The logic of exam-oriented education is that as long as you do well in the exam, you are a good student, and as long as you study well, you are a good boy. Parents pay too much attention to their children's study and research, and only use a ruler to measure their children, ignoring their education in life, work, communication, personality and psychology. I often hear some parents say that as long as you get your grades up, you don't have to worry about anything else The children "raised" in this way are not only low in ability, but also difficult to cultivate family responsibility and social responsibility.
Third, the wrong concept of parenting, excessive doting, doting and overprotecting of children, ignoring the cultivation of children's autonomy, self-care, self-reliance, self-improvement ability and spirit. When students enter school, go to school and leave school, there are vehicles to pick up and drop off children at the school gate. Some children have to stay with their parents until they go to college. Such parents are the best parents in the world in taking care of their children's material life, physical health and study. They are thrifty and can give everything for their children. But for children's spiritual or emotional life, they are
"Wolves", they don't know what their children need emotionally at all, but impose their wishes on their children. Their idea is that as long as it is "good" for children, they can take all means. Just like farming and fertilizing. You don't know what crops need, just pour sulfuric acid and hydrochloric acid into the ground. As a result, the crops were destroyed.