First, establish a correct view of parent-child and family education.
Parents should learn to respect young children. Parents can't regard their children as their attachments or private property, but expect their children to realize their unfulfilled wishes and ideals and make up for the shortcomings in life. Children are independent, conscious and thoughtful individuals and should be respected and treated equally by their parents. Respect for children is the deepest love of parents.
Parents nowadays should pay attention to their children. Children's development is natural, phased and regular. What parents should do is to follow this rule, and on the basis of respecting children's interests and personality, gradually guide their children's all-round development in morality, intelligence, physique and beauty, and promote their intellectual development. However, what many parents consider most is what their children will look like tomorrow. Many parents who are too worried and impatient spend a lot of energy and financial resources to fill their children's time with interest classes in exchange for the so-called "better tomorrow" at the expense of their children's today.
In fact, this practice is very unwise. The growth of children depends on today first. If children's today is sacrificed for tomorrow, the consequences will only be as Rousseau, a French educator, said, "Some fruits will be premature, not full, not sweet, and will soon rot." Therefore, caring for children is not the "satisfaction" of dressing children beyond their means, nor is it oppressing children with all kinds of so-called knowledge and ability training. But according to the law of their physical and mental development, we should give them scientific guidance, give them full respect and freedom, let them enjoy happiness in their natural growth, and form independent will quality and sound personality in their daily life.
Second, study hard and constantly improve your cultural quality.
Many parents think that their cultural knowledge level is poor, and some even don't know a few words, so they give up the responsibility of family education and equate their parents' responsibility with babysitting, just taking care of their children's daily needs such as food, clothing, housing and transportation. In fact, parents are children's first teachers, and family education plays a vital role in children's growth.
Parents should strengthen their own ideological, moral and cultural cultivation, learn professional knowledge of preschool education, strengthen communication with kindergarten teachers, form a strong educational combination between family and kindergarten, and enable children to be edified and cultivated in all directions and through multiple channels. Relevant research has proved that the quality of children's family education is related to the quality of parents and their education level.
Third, improve educational methods and properly solve specific problems in the process of children's growth.
Parents will inevitably encounter various problems in the process of preschool education. To solve these problems properly, parents must adopt scientific and reasonable educational methods. For example, when children ask some difficult questions, parents can't help pretending to understand and talk nonsense. What's more, they can't use words like "Go and go, you are too busy and boring" to suppress the enthusiasm of children to ask questions. For those children who love asking questions, doing activities and exploring, if they can be guided correctly, they are the seedlings of creative talents. Parents should tell their children realistically and tell them after reading a book or consulting others. They can also find answers with their children, or encourage them to find answers themselves. When children do make mistakes, parents' attitudes and practices should be consistent. They should explain the truth to children, analyze mistakes and guide them with correct behaviors and thoughts.
Fourth, optimize the family environment and create a good family cultural atmosphere.
Parents should set an example for their children. When children come to this world, they first learn to know the world from their parents. Every word and deed of parents and the atmosphere of family environment will have an impact on children's mood, temperament, behavior, morality and personality at all times. To educate children well, parents should be strict with themselves, always pay attention to their manners, influence and infect children with their exemplary behaviors in thought, life, study, work, labor and society, and guide children with moral examples, so that children can form a correct outlook on life and develop good moral behaviors in a subtle way.
In a family full of democracy, relaxation, consideration and care, there will never be disputes over trivial matters and hurt feelings. Parents have a harmonious emotional relationship, love their children but are not arrogant, which makes them feel relaxed and have no mental pressure. This kind of environment will make children spontaneously intoxicated with fun-filled creative activities, and play a certain role in promoting the formation of children's unique personality and the germination of innovative consciousness. Therefore, parents should learn to induce young children, which is more effective than intimidation, cajoling and beating.
Five, the education of young children is mainly praise, supplemented by criticism.
Since ancient times, our early childhood education has been such a principle, but now some of us have developed to an extreme, allowing only praise and not criticism. It is against dialectics to criticize. Children certainly need praise and encouragement. But not only praise, but also criticism, because some things children do are not all right, so praise is praise, criticism is criticism, and criticism is also a means to promote children's progress.