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What golden sentences do your parents have to share about the concept of marriage and love between men and women?
1. Be sure to find someone with emotional stability!

The benefits of emotional stability are really too much. First of all, it is not easy to quarrel. Secondly, even if a very serious unpleasant thing happens, there should be a lower limit for disputes or quarrels, and it will not be impossible to say irreparable hurtful words on impulse, or even develop into physical injuries.

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However, everyone here must distinguish that emotional stability is not the same as honest people. On the contrary, many honest people are depressed and emotionally unstable.

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People with stable emotions do not suppress their emotions first, but are good at expressing them in a soft tone when they are unhappy; Secondly, it is not easy to get angry and will not be unhappy because of trivial matters; The most important thing is to respect others, without control and obsessive-compulsive disorder.

2. Don't marry dead love!

How can I put it? Just like the story in fairy tales, it is indeed a very happy thing that the princess and the prince fall in love and grow old together. But ... but ... remember that you are addicted to love and you are still addicted to death. How can I put it? Normal and ordinary love may be more a little bit lucky, a little bit lucky, a little touched, and more a plain and simple innocence.

But there is a kind of love that is very dangerous, that is, the love that makes you have a strong heart, a strong impulse and a strong sense of addiction, such as the love that longs to get rid of the shackles and die together, or the love that makes you feel that you are in heaven for a while and in hell for a while. Will produce that kind of strong feeling, indicating that this kind of love is abnormal. Either it is a love that violates ethics, or the other person knows how to control his emotions.

At the same time, you also have very abnormal expectations for this love. The final disappointment, loss and even deep love are painful feelings, which will come sooner or later. Being in this mood for a long time, you can easily become the "emotionally unstable" person; And "emotional instability" is the beginning of all misfortune.

It's best to find someone who loves you flatly, but it's better to marry someone who loves you more than you do than to marry someone who gives you a strong impulse.

3. Require both parties to maintain economic independence and personality independence.

Economic independence is the foundation of the foundation, and how much money you can earn varies, but you must ensure that the money you earn is enough to pay your own expenses, and you can leave enough savings for the future to tide over the difficult times. The best money for both men and women can cover both their own expenses and the expenses of raising children alone.

In this way, whether you are raising children together in the future or being forced to divorce and take care of your baby alone for various reasons, you can ensure a normal and healthy life. The importance of maintaining personality independence is self-evident. I hope everyone is a little cute who has many small things, lives well and is not sticky.

4. About the temptation after marriage

I saw in the praise above that I want to find someone I like so that I can resist the temptation after I get married. But I think, as long as you grow up and get better and better after marriage, the probability of meeting the opposite sex that excites you after marriage is 100%. Please note that this is unisex, regardless of age.

Of course, whether you will choose to cheat or give up your original marriage, everyone will have different choices. Don't want the other party to choose loyalty because of your efforts; Don't expect yourself to refuse temptation easily because of your initial heart.

Anyone will make different choices for any reason, and the only thing you can do is to be responsible for the present situation. So in the final analysis, the third point is to maintain economic independence and personality independence, which can calm you down.

Whether you love each other deeply or not, please respect each other.

Respect is the basis of harmonious communication between people. Even if the other person is your closest person, please keep the same respect as friends, colleagues and leaders. Both men and women, please respect each other's dress tastes, hobbies, academic knowledge and living habits, and influence each other, but don't force each other to change. Obsessive-compulsive disorder is difficult to get along with people.

I have advised many girls not to do it. It can be a little troublesome, but it's really speechless every day ... no one will change anything for anyone, he can't, and neither can you. Even if it looks changed, it's probably just depression or disguise, and it's more painful to bite back.

Everyone keeps the most natural state to get along with each other, so that even if they encounter difficulties or even divorce in the future, they can communicate in harmony and friendship.

Please accept that raising children is a difficult thing.

I love children very much, but I have suffered a lot in the process of raising children, so I often lose control of my emotions. We all have to accept that raising children is a very difficult thing, not a family happiness.

Everyone should be mentally prepared to overcome all kinds of difficulties. Nothing is taken for granted. Nothing is taken for granted, such as Lunar New Year, Moon Festival, school district, parents-in-law taking the initiative to raise children, children being bullied, and even having a competent father or mother. Please accept the reality and overcome the difficulties together.

If the other party is really not so cooperative, please bear it independently. If you are disgusted, you can consider divorce, but don't torture your child.

To sum up, marriage, divorce and raising children are not terrible. The terrible thing is that there is no ability to love, no independent personality, no economic independence, and even no control over one's emotions, but thinking about how to control each other's behavior all day. You are always the key to your happiness, not a man or a child.