1, control your emotions. When you can't control yourself, please take a deep breath first. Parents' yelling counseling will only make children feel scared and even simple questions will be at a loss. For adults, it may be just a temporary emotional anger, but for children, it may be the collapse of "security". Without their parents' affirmation, they easily fall into the confidence of "I know nothing" and "How can I be so stupid".
If you really can't control yourself to get angry, stop immediately when you are about to get angry, shut up and stay away from the crime scene. Go to the bathroom and wash your face with cold water, or stand on the balcony and look at the distance calmly, then take a few deep breaths, and your mood will gradually calm down. When you calm down and think back on what just happened, you will find that you will not respond with shouting, but will slowly convince him with gentle words.
2, let go of anxiety, patient guidance, the baby's performance will exceed your imagination. In fact, your temper and anxiety, under the ear, the child may also be a little monster who loves to get angry. Often disagree with each other, they will scold each other. Not only do you yell at him, but he also yells at you. The more noisy and angry the two sides are, the more vicious they will gradually become, which will affect the parent-child relationship between you. Try to accept the imperfections of children and make the parent-child relationship more and more harmonious.
Recently, a little girl wronged her parents. The little girl was criticized for not being able to teach a simple topic. The child cried unconvinced and said, it is easy for you adults to learn. Later, she also argued: didn't you say you want to compare with yourself? You're such an adult, and I'm just in the big class ... This kid is methodical and impeccable.
Yes, which child doesn't want to be praised for doing his homework? Can't parents be more patient and more understanding? Almost every parent has a history of blood and tears accompanying their children to do homework, which is really hard. But so are children.
3. Lead by example and guide children to learn to be independent. As my friend's daughter is in the third grade, she never has to worry about her homework. She has hardly encountered the challenge of helping her children with their homework.
She said that her secret is that when her daughter was a child, every time she helped her homework, she would guide her child to independently make a study plan and arrange a study and rest schedule. Try to make your child independent and try not to have direct conflict with your child.
Guide him to arrange his own time. Maybe his arrangement is not very reasonable, but he is willing to abide by what he has set. In this way, he can do well without parental supervision, and both sides save effort.
Haha, did you get these secrets? Being a parent is a kind of practice. Why not help children with their homework?
Don't be angry, don't be angry. In this way, we should not stand on the opposite side of children. Instead, let go of anxiety, see the child's efforts, and overcome the difficulties in learning with the child.
After all, suffering is only temporary, and victory always belongs to parents!