Mr. Tao Xingzhi, a great people educator, said, "Instead of treating children as Tianjin ducks to fill in fragmentary knowledge, it is better to give them some keys so that they can freely open the treasure house of culture and the treasure house of the universe." We guide children to learn to learn and cultivate their learning ability; Cultivating friendship, courage, overcoming difficulties, politeness, observing discipline and a series of educational behaviors ignore a core issue that can affect children's personality development-self-confidence. Self-confidence is an important condition for children's personality and mental health. The cultivation of self-confidence is also the most important part of mental health education. The so-called self-confidence is a positive self-evaluation, and a positive self-affirmation emotional tendency arising from the expectation of respect from others, the collective and society. Self-confidence is a full understanding and evaluation of your own strength. Children with strong self-confidence can actively participate in various activities, actively communicate with others, establish good relations with their peers, and bravely face difficulties and make bold attempts. In kindergarten, there are also quite a few children who lack self-confidence and think that they are inferior to other children in some aspects or even many aspects. They often dare not take the initiative to ask for team competitions, put forward their own opinions and suggestions, and dare not show themselves boldly in front of everyone. In the face of new things and activities, I often fear and shrink back. What causes children to lack self-confidence? First, some bad environmental factors in the family are important reasons for children's lack of self-confidence. 1, overprotective of the family. Since the birth of the child, it has become the center of the family. The family is very concerned about their children. No, everything is arranged. Take eating as an example. When children can eat by themselves, they should be allowed to eat by themselves. Although children will eat at sixes and sevens at first and eat for a long time, this is the process of learning to eat. At this time, the adults on the side were anxious and couldn't help feeding him. Another example is washing hands. The mother often helps her children wash because she thinks she can't wash them clean. Examples like this abound in life. It is necessary to know how a child's ability can be developed if he is not given a chance to try and learn a skill. His parents frequently deprive him of learning opportunities, and of course his self-confidence is getting less and less. Another manifestation of transitional protection is intimidation. Parents sometimes don't let their children go out to play, but if the children don't listen, parents will say, "There is XXX outside, you will be in danger ..." This trick is very useful. Most children will stay at home and stay there, but their self-confidence is scared away. 2. Parents criticize too much. Many parents have high expectations of their children, and always like to compare their children with other children, regardless of their actual situation, blindly "high standards and strict requirements" for their children. However, because it is difficult for children to meet their parents' requirements, they often encounter failure, lack successful experience, and gradually have the fear of shrinking. Every child has his own advantages and disadvantages. When children find that their parents always only see their own shortcomings or weaknesses and turn a blind eye to their own advantages, how can children have confidence? Many parents ignore that "other children can do it, but my children may not be able to do it", and it is actually very difficult for children to demand the same standards. Doing so is bound to ask for trouble and ruin the child's self-confidence. Second, the difference in children's development level will also lead to children's lack of self-confidence. Every child has different abilities, behaviors, personalities and intelligence. Because of the differences in genetic quality, family, environment and education, there are individual differences among children. Children can't get timely compensation because of some shortcomings, which leads to lack of self-confidence. Third, the negative comments and attitudes of adults are another important reason why children are not confident. First, create an environment conducive to the development of self-confidence for children. 1 Understand children's psychological characteristics, respect and trust children. Teachers should adopt the method of less criticism and more encouragement, listen to their voices, satisfy their curiosity and give them more imagination. Allow them to communicate freely and talk freely, and let them express their inner thoughts in various ways. When their ideas are affirmed, children's self-confidence will be formed unconsciously. On the contrary, if teachers and parents reprimand their children too much, they are rude and indifferent, and their children will be depressed and lack initiative and self-confidence in the things around them. 2. Create a free, relaxed and harmonious environment for children. The environment here focuses on the psychological environment, so children should feel a free, relaxed and harmonious atmosphere, which can only be obtained through the efforts of teachers. We often hear oral words such as "sit tight" and "don't talk nonsense". This imperative language puts children in a passive position of "must obey" and lacks opportunities to dare to express themselves and give full play to themselves. For example, in a painting activity, a child painted the sun green. At that time, I told him that it was wrong and asked him to repaint, but he cried because his relationship class failed to go on well. I didn't know until after the fact, because we learned a poem called Green World, which was colored according to the content of the poem. Therefore, we should respect some decisions of children, affirm some practices of children, and treat children equally; Creating a free, relaxed and harmonious environment for them is an important condition to cultivate their self-confidence. 1. In daily life, we should put forward tasks and requirements suitable for children's level according to their age characteristics and individual differences, and set a suitable goal for children to accomplish through hard work. Cultivate children's ability and pay attention to teaching them some necessary skills, such as racket ball, paper-cutting, painting, dancing, tying shoelaces and so on. We should praise and fully affirm children's little progress, let them feel the joy of success, let them know that teachers believe in their abilities, and affirm that they "I can do well" and "I do well". 2. Encourage children to try boldly and experience the joy of success. For example, in a sports activity, XX children, due to their poor physical fitness and weak ability, balked at jumping on one leg and found it difficult to complete the activity. In order to let him experience success, in every activity, the teacher consciously reduced the difficulty, let him try to jump with his feet first, and gradually establish his self-confidence. We should believe that children have the ability to solve problems. Let children complete tasks independently in activities. When problems arise, teachers can use methods such as discussion and entrusting children to complete tasks. Listen to their opinions, respect their reasonable demands, and let children believe in their own strength. For children with weak self-confidence, teachers must pay more attention to create conditions for their success and gradually form strong self-confidence. Third, promote children's self-affirmation and cultivate self-confidence. 1, cultivate the spirit of frustration and teach compensation methods. In life, no one can be perfect and smooth sailing. How to evaluate yourself and how to treat failure, different attitudes will lead to different results. Therefore, in the process of education, we should correctly analyze the situation of young children, help them correctly treat their shortcomings and failures, and cultivate their bold, brave and determined will. If some children only feel sad when they fail, adults should take the initiative to approach him, help him analyze the causes of failure, and encourage him to make up for his weaknesses and gain confidence through other compensation methods. Adults should educate their children to see that they and others have their own strengths, strive to foster strengths and avoid weaknesses, care for and help the weak when they succeed, and not feel inferior when they fail. 2. Help children develop their own strengths, establish good peer relationships and cultivate self-confidence. Every child has his own unique place. Some children draw well, some children sing well, and some children have good hands-on ability. They are very devoted and confident in their favorite fields. Teachers should understand the characteristics of each child, help children succeed in some activities, build their self-confidence, and thus promote other aspects of development. If some children have average intellectual development, but good social development, they can care about the collective and love labor. Teachers should praise and affirm these practices in time, so that they can feel their loveliness, thus promoting their self-affirmation and enhancing their self-confidence. At present, kindergartens advocate the development of children's communicative competence. Some children are rejected and rejected by peer groups because they can't communicate, so they feel lonely and lack self-confidence. Therefore, teachers should teach children correct communication skills, encourage them to communicate with their peers, and educate their peers to accept them, care for them and cherish them. Fourth, cultivate self-confidence in clever ways. 1. Psychological suggestion method 3. Children are imitative and especially like to imitate the behavior of adults. Therefore, don't blame children when they can't do it or can't do it well. Teachers can make them feel that these things are not difficult through demonstrations, thus enhancing their self-confidence and daring to try. 5. Let the children choose for themselves. This method allows children to make simple choices, such as saying to him, "Do you like to wear white socks or striped socks?" "Do you want apples or bananas for lunch today?" When there is no choice, we must adhere to the correct requirements. As long as your requirements are reasonable, the child will have confidence in what he has to do. For example, say to him, "You can still play for ten minutes." Fourth, teachers and parents should do a good job of family contact together. Parents also play an important role in cultivating children's self-confidence. Teachers should publicize the necessity and methods of cultivating children's self-confidence to parents, get their approval and cooperation, and discuss the ways and methods of cultivating children's self-confidence in combination with their feedback. Parents should know how to respect and trust their children and make demands according to the actual level. They can't be too hasty and expect too much, which will dampen children's self-esteem and self-confidence. Psychologist Bernard said: "Good methods enable us to give full play to our talents and abilities, while poor methods hinder them." . Self-confident education is a complicated and long-term job. To truly realize the value of this kind of education, it is necessary to start from the specific problems of children's lives and let children experience their feelings and changes in specific lives.