Today, about 750,000 people around the world become novice parents every day. They not only feel the joy brought by their parents, but also bear the educational responsibility as parents, and because their children experience confusion, anxiety and frustration. Educating children needs not only love, but also scientific skills and methods. Education is an art, which needs to integrate love and beauty.

Parents are not only important roles in the family, they should experience it as a career.

Gorky once said, "loving your children is something that even hens know." 」

It is instinctive to take care of and raise children, but parents should learn to educate their children. Many of our parents love their children very much, but there is something wrong with the way they love their children and they have great hopes for them. However, due to wrong understanding and improper methods, the direction of children runs counter to that of parents, and even leads to many tragedies.

The education level of parents directly affects or even determines the future development of children.

In the process of family education, the growth of parents is the premise of children's growth, and growing up with children is the most beautiful scenery of family education and the best attitude of parents towards life.

In family education, ideas are more important than methods.

But the method is a means and needs to be applied to children by means. There are good ways to make good ideas really land. Children of different ages need parents to educate them in different ways.

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Children's Three Life Nodes

The infant period of 0-2 years old is the first important node in a child's life. The study found that before the age of two, it is a critical period for children to form a sense of security, empathy and deep attachment to people. The most important family education in this period is the companionship and love of parents.

If children have no chance to be with their parents since childhood, they may not be able to form a complete and sound attachment relationship. Such children will have poor empathy when they grow up. Because of the chaotic object relationship in childhood, it is difficult to form a stable relationship with others in the future, and it will also lack the ability to love and be loved.

Therefore, before the child is two years old, parents should express their love for their children through their own actions, so as to realize the enlightenment education for their children.

2-7 years old is the second node of children's life, and it is also the first period of resistance, because two-year-old children are full of curiosity and eager to know their children. This is the initial stage for them to know the world and gain the ability to develop and create, and it is also an important stage for them to start to have independent personality.

Family education should pay attention to training children's vision, touch and hearing from the age of two. To fully develop children's senses, we should also start with education from the aspects of interpersonal norms, basic living ability, right and wrong concepts and so on.

12- 18 years old is the third important node in a child's life, and it is also the second period of resistance in a child's life. According to China's educational system, this stage is from the sixth grade of primary school to the high school stage. Therefore, after entering junior high school, children's autonomy will become stronger and stronger, and the requirements for independence will become stronger and stronger.

From ignorance of the world in infancy to 12 years old, they begin to feel that they have grown up, so their self-awareness is gradually improving. At this stage, parents and children need to have good communication. If they can't do this, their independent development will be hindered and various contradictions and conflicts will arise.

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In 20 17, when Alpha Dog finally defeated human chess player Ke Jie, it also declared the coexistence of human wisdom and ai wisdom, and the era of artificial intelligence finally entered the historical stage.

But for all things related to emotion and temperature of life, machines have a long way to go to replace human beings, and they will never replace human beings.

For example, Ke Jie will cry when he loses chess, but robots won't be happy when they win chess. Therefore, our education for children must return to the essence of education, that is, education full of love.

Light up children's hearts with love, improve their social skills and cultivate their various potentials, so that children can have lifelong learning, global vision, independent personality, proactive, outgoing, good at communication and good popularity.

Love is on the left, control is on the right, and children will be around happiness.

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Understanding is the foundation of love, understanding children's various psychological states. As mentioned above, it is a scientific discovery that children have different development laws at different ages during their growth. Therefore, it is a very effective educational concept to apply understanding to parent-child communication.

For example, when communicating with children, kneel down more and take them to the mall when they are very young. Why do parents enjoy it, but children find it boring?

That's because children are very short, and many counters in shopping malls are designed according to the height of adults. For children, adults see a wide range of goods from a parallel perspective, but for children, it is a boring counter and countless people's legs. He can't see anything on the table at all.

So sometimes we have to look at things from the perspective of children and understand things.

For another example, when the child locks himself in the room after a conflict with him, when the parents sit alone on the sofa in the living room, they are actually uneasy and afraid that the child will do something extreme in the room.

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Sometimes the contradiction between parents and children hurts not only children, but also parents. All this is caused by mutual incomprehension. Understanding and communication are two magic weapons in getting along with people. Whether it is parent-child relationship or any other interpersonal relationship, these two points need to be mastered.

Every individual in our life deserves respect, and everyone is equal before life.

Just because you are a parent, you can't treat your children as their possessions, let them do everything according to their own wishes and order them to do things.

Because people are not obedient by nature, the more they ask for orders, the more they will resist, and the more anxious their parents are, the more painful their children will be.

If parents and children can feel the same way, there will be no orders, everything will be discussed, and children can communicate effectively, so that children can accept their parents' suggestions and education very happily.

Therefore, kneeling down more is also to remind parents to communicate with their children with an equal and peaceful attitude.

Happy children and happy themselves will naturally have a happy family and life.