The reason for lying
1, caused by incorrect adult education methods. When children do something wrong, parents don't teach them by persuasion and patience, but simply preach, beat and scold, and punish them by force, which leads children to lie in order to escape the punishment of adults; In addition, it is easy for children to lie because of their parents' doting and conniving at their mistakes.
2. In order to get praise from adults, if you can't find something from adults, ask the child if he has it, saying that as long as you admit that you are still a good boy, the child will say against his will, "I took it, broke it and threw it away."
3, caused by vanity. When children interact with their peers and play games together, it is inevitable that they will compare and compete with each other. Some children will boast that they have more toys than their peers, clothes are more expensive than others, and their parents are more capable than others. Children sometimes exaggerate the facts and make up lies to show that they are superior to others.
4. Lying in order to achieve a certain wish. If the weather is not very hot and the child wants a cold drink, he will deliberately wipe his sweat, indicating that it is very hot, and he will keep saying "so hot" in his mouth to ask his parents for money to buy a cold drink.
5, because the child is young, the memory is unclear or because the concept of time is vague, the speech is not true. For example, a month ago, my mother bought Tingting a lovely doll. When someone asks her when she bought it, she will say that she bought it yesterday. Children will confuse imagination with reality, and even regard imagination and desire as reality.
How to deal with children's lies
1. Parents don't have to make a fuss about children's unconscious lying caused by their low intelligence and knowledge level. With the growth of age and the development of children's memory, imagination, discrimination and analytical ability, these lying phenomena will naturally disappear. Parents can kindly point out what is contrary to the facts, help children to separate hope, imagination and reality, and don't scold them rudely, and don't attribute them to moral problems, otherwise they will make children feel puzzled and panic.
2. Children have bad behaviors of lying, so adults should be patient to persuade them. Parents should not blame their children first, but find out the reasons. If they consciously lie, they should help him analyze the harm. You can use vivid examples to help children understand that lying is a bad behavior, which will lose others' trust and friends, encourage him and help him correct it. When children make progress, they should praise and give trust in time. Children should be encouraged to summon up courage, be positive and strive to be a noble person.
3. Set an example. The power of example is infinite, and teaching by example is better than teaching by words. Adults should not tell lies, but match their words with their deeds. You can also set an example for children through stories, movies and literary works. Parents must not make irresponsible wishes to their children, such as "if you are good, I will buy it for you" and then fail to cash it. Over time, children will follow you to tell lies.
Lying can be divided into conscious lying and unconscious lying. That kind of purposeful lying is called conscious lying. Sometimes the motivation for lying is positive or negative. For example, when a child has an injection, an adult asks him if it hurts. In order to show his brave spirit, the child repeatedly says "no pain, no pain at all". This kind of motivation is positive.