"Yes, yes, I recently found that my daughter always pinched her leg. It's no use stopping it. What should I do? "
Then the question is, why do children like to touch or play with their reproductive organs? When there are behaviors such as friction and leg pinching, how should parents guide them correctly?
1. Why did the child do this?
-"Playing with penis, touching private parts and pinching legs", this is the child exploring the body.
From the perspective of baby's sexual development, children aged 65,438+0-3 are in the stage of gender cognition and recognition. They learn and explore themselves through vision and touch, and realize whether they are boys or girls and whether the people around them are men or women. For example, children will realize that a boy's penis is different from a girl's little sister.
Children over 3 years old are not only interested in their own bodies, but also like to touch their genitals and buttocks, and even explore other people's, such as parents' and other children's.
Touching yourself and pinching your legs will bring comfort to your child, so keep trying; And secretly observing other people's bodies will let children know the difference between adults and children, boys and girls, which is their way of exploring the body.
2, these two wrong practices, never step on the pit.
-Rough stop and repeated emphasis will only have a negative impact on children.
In the face of these behaviors of children, there are many parents' meetings, which are very shameful and shameful. Especially in this period, children need more active guidance. Even if parents are impatient, they should pay attention to the following two points.
Don't stop it rudely: Many parents think it is a shameful thing and directly attack and scold their children. "Take your hand away, it's a shame", which is actually not good for children. It will make children afraid of sexual organs and think that a certain part of the body is dirty and bad, and even affect their sexual cognition.
Don't repeatedly emphasize: constantly reminding children not to touch, don't touch, it will only have a negative effect. Repeated language emphasis will stimulate the child to remember the importance of this "touch", and as a result, he may be tempted to try it secretly.
3. Five positive ways for parents to get twice the result with half the effort.
-guide children correctly and spend the enlightenment period smoothly.
When children are found to be "ashamed", parents can get twice the result with half the effort with such correct guidance:
1, eliminate the cause: in the face of these behaviors of children, we must first determine whether the children have physical discomfort, such as eczema, dermatitis, pudendal rash, and whether the underwear size is appropriate.
2. Observe and make records: Parents should pay attention to their children's "self-touching", such as children being bored, tired, lonely and nervous? Has the number of "self-touching" increased? You can write these down, find the pattern, and communicate with the doctor when necessary.
3. Distraction: When the child can't help but start "exploring the body" again, try to attract his attention with things or toys that he likes to do.
4. Necessary sex education: Sex education picture books can be used to teach children the difference between themselves and the opposite sex, thus gradually eliminating TA's curiosity about reproductive organs; For babies over 3 years old, you can also take a "reasonable" way to educate children not to explore their bodies in public, pay attention to protecting their privacy, and don't show others the parts covered by underwear.
5. Do a good job of supervision: make sure that children don't touch other people's genitals, and open the door when children play in a room.