The first time I saw such a scene, I was also curious. Why does grandma feel anxious when a boy runs?
I remember when we were young, no one was in charge at home, so I wouldn't have a big problem wandering around from morning till night. Sometimes I go home with a bag on my face and Qing Wu on my leg, and I may even be reprimanded by my parents. How can these children be spoiled and have nothing to say now?
0 1, it is important to care about children moderately, but it is harmful to care too much. Of course, in the minds of some elderly people, they always think that the outside environment is particularly dangerous. If they don't pay attention to protecting their grandchildren, their lives may be threatened.
Especially when going out to play, if the cement road in the park accidentally falls down, it is inevitable that the legs will bleed and scab. In addition, if you are not in your own field of vision, your child will feel extremely worried.
However, we should be clear that it is more important to care about children moderately, but it is not correct to care too much about children and hope that they will never get hurt or make mistakes.
Everyone's growing environment is dangerous, and even if parents protect them in all directions, they can't give their children a completely safe environment.
If you can't guarantee the safety of your child's environment, why don't you let your child face yourself? Imagine if one day a child falls on the road, will the child never walk again? If a child accidentally bumps his head when riding a bike for the first time, will he never have to study again?
When children have ideas and are interested in trying, parents' prevention may make them weaker and weaker. When children grow up slowly, the weakening of these learning abilities will also lead to children becoming more and more timid.
In addition, their panic after danger implies that children may become more and more depressed, and they are more vulnerable to physical and psychological harm.
02. Don't let children always rely on their parents and grow up under their protection. My child has been a naughty Xiong Haizi since childhood. No matter what he does, he will always be the first to fight, rob and rush.
Sometimes when I get home, I get black and blue. When I asked the reason, I knew that the child was climbing a tree and then fell. But seeing this situation, my husband didn't say anything, just said to pay attention next time.
Later, I asked my husband what he really thought. He said that children don't know whether their environment is safe until they have tried it themselves.
If you put your child under your own protection, it will only make your child more and more stupid and unable to understand the unknown dangers.
I wonder if it's beautiful to see it for the second time in recent days. I believe many parents like the role of Doudou in this TV series, and even say that it would be nice if their children were so smart and sunny. Indeed, we can learn the characteristics of peas from TV dramas.
I never panic when I meet something, I know how to take care of others in my heart, and I know how to express my thoughts in the process of communicating with my parents.
I am willing to talk to my parents when I meet something that makes me sad. In my life, there are many kinds of patterns, and my imagination and creativity are obvious.
Most importantly, when encountering difficulties, they will not choose to rely directly on their parents. When parents educate peas, they don't over-suppress, but let their children choose freely. Such a child will have an infinite future, because we never know what he will bring us that we don't know.
Whether it is children's own creativity, imagination or intelligence, it is worthy of our envy. When it comes to the quality of peas, of course, it is inseparable from his mother.
Children must have been educated by their parents. If we want our children to look like peas and men, and at the same time show high IQ, we should actually understand the corresponding education methods.
Therefore, we should make it clear that if we want our children to be in a safe environment, we should carry out corresponding education, instead of keeping them under the protection of their parents.
Imagine, children grow up slowly, can parents' ability really give them a sense of security? If children are not strong enough, they will face more and more dangers and problems.
Perhaps the strongest umbrella for boys is "sunshine education". Of course, many parents haven't understood what we call sunshine education here. In fact, from the observation in daily life, we can understand that sunshine education mainly refers to maintaining a more optimistic attitude when getting along with children.
When you see a child doing something, try to actively encourage it, not passively stop it. In addition, when getting along with children, try to let them feel the beauty of the world in a sunny, positive and optimistic state.
1) Encourage children to explore and gain something.
As we said above, some parents are always afraid that their children will be hurt in the process of continuous exploration, especially some naughty children.
After three years old, you can run and jump, and you may explore the unknown world by yourself. If parents are too free and loose, it may hurt their children's health.
For example, if a child runs alone on the road and suddenly falls down, it may cause the child's leg to be injured and bleed. But in this case, should the child stop running? Obviously not. The problem is not the reason why we are afraid of it. After a problem occurs, solving it is the most correct way.
Keep practicing if you can't eat. Parents should never feed their children all the time, or even show coquetry.
Children have never sharpened pencils by themselves, and parents don't need to help them all the time. They should be allowed to keep trying.
Children never leave their parents before they are three years old. It is wrong for children to go to kindergarten with their parents.
Children should constantly try to get in touch with unfamiliar environments. Only in this way can they ensure their own safety, instead of relying on their parents blindly.
In the process of children's growth, in order to make children safer, in fact, the most important way is to face up to difficulties, solve this difficulty and problem, and let children become the best people, which naturally ensures their own safety. Of course, the most important thing for children is to gain something and understand what they should do. Knowing the unknown difficulties is also the most important way to protect yourself.
2) If you want children to bear it, you have to carry out frustration education.
As the saying goes, "men are men", many people in the society have high hopes for men, hoping that they will become stronger and stronger. In a family, parents also want their children to be strong enough to protect themselves and others. But now some parents spoil their children too much, making them more dependent on their parents, and even some parents blx have poor endurance.
Perhaps it is understandable that girls will cry when they encounter problems, but boys will be laughed at for showing such a situation.
Therefore, if you are worried that problem children can't bear it, you should continue to carry out frustration education, so that children can feel the problems they may face bit by bit.
Whether it is accidentally breaking a vase, having to pay compensation, being at a loss, or breaking a friend's expensive pen at school, it is actually a setback for children.
In the process of getting along with children, parents should also consider avoiding paying too much attention to children and let them know how to solve them.
Frustration education is more important to cultivate children's anti-frustration psychology, and every family with boys in it should continue to use it.
3) If boys want to succeed, independent education is necessary.
It is said that "raising children to prevent old age", in fact, many parents have high hopes for boys, hoping that they can hold up a sky and become the pillar of the family.
But in fact, many children are used to relying on their parents. How can they become the pillars that can support the whole family?
As parents, it should be clear that their own growth is closely related to their parents' education. If parents now spoil their children too much, they will either love or harm them, and their children will not grow up better. Therefore, it is also one of the most important factors for children to become better and learn to be independent.