The two are afraid of having a second child and will separate their love for Qian Yuan. Moreover, having more children will increase family expenses, so the money that should have been spent on money should also be distributed.
So they only have one daughter, Qian Yuan.
Qian Yuan, under the education of Qian Zhongshu and Jiang Yang, Qian Yuan is really excellent. He graduated from the University of Caster, England, and later taught at Beijing Normal University as an English doctoral supervisor. He founded English "Stylistics" and compiled the English version of the course "Using English Literary Style".
Although Qian Zhongshu and Jiang Yang are both top figures in the literary world, they are both novices in parenting. The way to educate their daughter Qian Yuan is actually gradually explored, just like us ordinary people.
Then their educational methods, in fact, parents can copy as long as they have the heart.
1, parents give their children a good family style and role model.
Both Qian Zhongshu and Jiang Yang are enthusiastic readers. In Tsinghua, Qian Zhongshu is the person who borrows the most books. From the living room to the bedroom, there are almost all bookshelves and books, and the couple are even reluctant to move because the house is close to the library.
Jiang Yang said in "The Three of us" that her daughter "saw that Zhong Shu and I both like reading, but also learned from monkeys and read this book according to the model, and gradually became enlightened."
Children are born with the ability to imitate, and in the children's world, parents' behavior is the benchmark for children, so parents' behavior is particularly important for children's growth.
This is also one reason why children whose parents are teachers learn better. Because parents are constantly learning, children are influenced by the environment and have good study habits.
So many parents really don't have time to study. Then, as a model of educating children, Huang Lei once said: If you can keep reading friends every day, you can keep reading every day.
Reading ability is closely related to children's future study and development. Especially for children in primary school, reading ability is learning ability.
Because children's understanding ability, vocabulary, writing ability, logical ability and expression ability will be developed in the process of reading, which is of great help to children's learning.
Teacher Yin Jianli once said that the focus of primary schools is not on grades, but on reading. In primary school, it is easy for children to get high marks, but if there is no reading foundation, their grades will decline to varying degrees after junior high school.
2. Give children full autonomy and stimulate their inner enthusiasm.
Qian Yuan had a difficult word when she was learning English, but she didn't look it up in three dictionaries. She came to ask her father, but Zhong Shu didn't tell her, so she kept looking. She found it in the fifth dictionary.
When she wanted her father to tell him ancient poems, Zhong Shu said, "What is there to tell about ancient poems? See for yourself! "
When friends and relatives suggested sending money to study piano and dance, Qian Zhongshu's relatives also said, "I don't care, don't ask me, just ask Qian Yuan".
Daughter Qian Yuan does something more because of love than because of parents' requirements. This is Qian Zhongshu's educational method. Then you will be more conscious when you do something.
After growing up, Qian Yuan dropped out of school twice because of illness. It is because of this powerful self-study ability that he taught himself various subjects at home, including algebra, and achieved excellent results.
On the other hand, it is precisely because parents are always too strict with their children that children lose their autonomy. Once the outside supervision is lost, children will have no motivation to learn, indulge themselves and have no self-discipline.
Because children's thinking has changed from "I want to learn" to "parents want me to learn" in the process of parental care.
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