1. Never fail to face setbacks.

Mother Lin has a 1 year-old daughter. Little ones are learning to walk, and it is common to fall several times a day. The general practice of parents is to follow behind them step by step in case she falls. Mother Lin's point of view is that in order to improve children's resilience, parents should not hold up an "umbrella", but should have the courage to put their children in difficulties and hardships, dare to let them participate in various activities, and let them know that setbacks in life are inevitable and learn to overcome difficulties and setbacks through experience, so she always lets her daughter learn to walk by herself.

When a child accidentally falls, parents usually rush to help him up, and then point to the floor and scold: "This floor is really bad, which makes the baby fall." And mother Lin thinks that this will only make children blame external factors for their falls. In the future, when they encounter setbacks, they like to put the blame on others, but they refuse to find reasons from themselves. Therefore, in the face of her crying daughter, she never reached out to help and always said seriously, "It's all the baby's own fault. If you walk carelessly, you will fall. " At the same time, he smiled and encouraged: "But it doesn't matter if you fall, just pay attention later. Now be brave and get up by yourself! " After this several times, my daughter fell down and not only stopped crying, but also got up quickly.

Comments: It is also a part of frustration education to let children recognize the facts and ask them to bear the consequences bravely.

2. Run to treat Jiao.

Children who can't stand setbacks are afraid of difficulties, and that's what Dad Chen started from. His son is in the fifth grade. He looks big, but he is as delicate as a girl. He doesn't want to go to school if he feels a little sick. Physical education class often hides in the shade, saying that he is afraid of basking in the sun. Chen's father is determined to defeat him by running to cure his coke. So every day after school, father Chen took his son jogging together. At first, his son ran like a snail, and in a few minutes he went on strike. Father Chen insisted on not letting him have a rest and encouraged him all the time. Slowly, my son ran farther and farther, and he also signed up for the 800-meter run of the school sports meeting these days. Chen Faxian, the father, not only improved his physical fitness, but also reduced his fear of difficulties.

Comments: Now some people have put forward the concept of "psychological environmental protection" education. Both teachers and parents need to establish a harmonious relationship with their children and create a good educational environment. Children can't directly face setbacks, mainly because teachers and parents underestimate their abilities, or regard their strengths as shortcomings, which makes children psychologically dwarf themselves. In daily life, parents should first take their time. When children encounter setbacks, they should help them analyze and put forward reference suggestions, so that children can feel that they are not alone.