Of course, this is out of parents' love and responsibility for their children. Because children are young and immature, parents have the responsibility and obligation to guide their children and point out the direction for their lives.
Mingming is in the third grade of primary school, and has recently become addicted to playing mobile phones. Perhaps influenced by my classmates, I clearly have a strong interest in mobile phones.
Of course, Mingming's parents strictly stopped this. They told Mingming a lot about the dangers of playing mobile phones, hoping that children can understand their difficulties and pay more attention to their studies.
However, Yao Ming asked his parents, since mobile phones are so harmful, why can they be held every day?
A word made my parents speechless and didn't know how to answer. Finally, dad can only say that you are a student and your task is to study. How can you compare with us adults?
Mingming's parents are obviously not confident to answer the questions inside, because they obviously adopt the policy of double standards in the process of educating their children.
When they are lenient with others and strict with themselves, children will inevitably be unconvinced and even become a double-standard figure like their parents.
The adverse effects of double standards on children 1, affecting children's socialization.
When children grow up, they will meet their own friendship. The happiest thing for children is to make good friends at school.
However, if children are accustomed to double standards, it will naturally make friends around them feel unfair and there will be some pressure, so such friendship is not what everyone wants, which will of course lead to the lack of friends around children.
2. Too many negative emotions
People who are used to double standards will always have higher requirements for others and will ask them to be what they think they are. Of course, this is more difficult to achieve.
Therefore, children will feel lost, which will seriously affect their mood and make them lose their eyes to discover beauty. Whether it is the beauty that can be seen everywhere in life or the bright spot in others, children can't find it.
It is difficult to make progress.
When children are not demanding of themselves, it is naturally difficult to really know themselves. This will lead to children's blind self-confidence, so that they feel better than others, so that they will lose the motivation to move forward like frogs in the well and be satisfied with the status quo.
When others are making progress, children are standing still, naturally falling behind others and unable to make real progress.
Suhomlinski, a world-renowned educator, said: "Whether children grow up healthily depends on what their parents look like in front of them, and also on how children understand the relationship between people in their parents' behavior. "
Many times, the double standards of children are caused by parents. If parents can't set an example for their children in life, they always impose their own ideas on their children, or the requirements for their children are obviously different from others, which will inevitably cause children's resentment.
Therefore, the behavior of parents is very important, which determines how far children can go.
What if parents refuse to double-bid? 1, change your behavior
Parents are children's first teachers and the most admired objects, so in children's minds, parents' images are very tall, and even all their behaviors are correct.
This will lead to children not selectively imitating their parents. If parents always show double standards in front of their children, it will naturally bring adverse effects to their children.
Therefore, parents should strive to change themselves, stop double-standard behavior in front of their children, set a good example for their children and show them positive energy.
When such children imitate their parents again, they will naturally regulate their behavior and will not demand others with double standards.
2. Don't blindly compare with others.
Nowadays, when parents get together, the most talked about topic is children. Whether natural or unnatural, everyone will eventually develop into their own children.
For example, whose children have good academic performance and whose children are more obedient, those who win in comparison will often be recognized and praised by other parents.
But this comparison is unfair, because every child is an ordinary individual and has his own advantages and disadvantages.
If we compare the shortcomings of children with the advantages of others, it will only hit children and make them feel inferior. Not comparing with children is the true love of parents for their children.
3. Learn to respect children.
Children will have their own ideology, especially as they grow older, their opinions will become stronger and stronger, and their desire to control things will become more and more obvious.
At this time, parents should learn to respect their children, instead of forcibly suppressing the development of their thoughts and behaviors, and they should not impose their own consciousness on their children, which makes them unwilling to accept it.
Respecting children is a heartfelt behavior, allowing children to freely choose what they want to do.
Because children are not the accessories of their parents, they have always been independent individuals. In this case, parents have no right to be the masters of their children's lives, but to let their children know that my life is my master.