The purpose of solving the problem of children's connection is to let children improve their physical and mental development level before entering school and master some knowledge and skills, which will help reduce the slope of children's connection and thus reduce their burden after entering primary school. Eating for all is not only a matter for kindergartens and primary schools, but also the role of parents. Because children's living habits, self-care ability, physical fitness, learning attitude and ability, and social adaptability are all inseparable from the influence of parents' attitudes. Keywords: young cohesion; Policy; The connection of family education refers to the educational interconnection between two adjacent educational stages. The transition period of children refers to the transition from a large kindergarten class to the first grade of primary school. This period is the beginning of ending kindergarten life and starting to receive formal primary education, and it is also a turning point in children's psychological development. Education in this period is the connection between teenagers. The Guiding Outline of Kindergarten Education clearly points out:! Kindergartens should work closely with families and communities, join hands with primary schools, and make comprehensive use of various educational resources to create good articles for the development of young children. ? The purpose of studying this problem is to avoid the disconnection between kindergarten and primary school, so that children can improve their physical and mental development level before entering school, master some knowledge and skills, and overcome and resolve their maladjustment after entering school. Let parents realize that family education also plays an important role in transitional education, and let parents know how to help their children cope with the maladjustment of study and life in this transitional stage. This will help to give full play to the important role of family education. It is conducive to helping children to successfully pass through the education of young convergence stage. First, the important role of family education in early childhood education. Family education generally refers to the process in which parents and other adults in the family educate their minor children. Its educational goal should be: to ensure the healthy development of children's body and mind before entering the society to receive collective education (kindergarten and school education), and to lay a good foundation for receiving education in kindergartens and schools. Every parent should realize that the cultivation of children's abilities and habits is more influenced by the acquired environment besides their own inherent ability characteristics, and this influence is the key to the success of bridging education. The sudden change of environment (that is, from kindergarten to primary school) will certainly cause educational difficulties, but good adaptability is the key to solve this problem. Who should people with good adaptability train? Family, of course. Suhomlinski, a famous educator in the former Soviet Union, once compared a child to a marble. He said that it takes six sculptors to shape this marble into a statue: family; School; The collective to which the child belongs; Children themselves; Books; Accidental factors. From the ranking order, the family is ranked first, which shows that the family plays an important role in shaping children. When a child has a good educational foundation, his own ability has been well excavated and cultivated, and such conditions will inevitably help him solve the problems of learning and life difficulties encountered in the transitional stage. Secondly, family education is the foundation of school education and social education. Children receive family education from the first day of birth. Cultivating children's independent and strong personality in the family will be of great help to children to solve their psychological and behavioral discomfort in learning, especially in the transitional period. We know that the early life of Taoist priests and even the living environment before they are minors are mainly family, followed by school, so the biggest factor affecting our ability to cultivate good adaptability is of course family. Therefore, how parents should educate their children in the convergence stage is worthy of further study. Obviously, this family really went to the right place. It is not enough to pay attention to the relationship between the old and the young only in kindergarten and primary education. More family education is needed, and the joint efforts of families and schools can achieve better educational results. Compared with school education, family education has its unique advantages. Family education is almost one-to-one, with more concentrated educational power and more obvious educational advantages, which is more suitable for individual education. Therefore, it is more worthy of attention to carry out early childhood education in the family. Second, the analysis of the current situation of young bridging education (I) Problems in young bridging education In order to understand the development of young bridging education, we visited teachers and parents of students in nearby primary schools. During the conversation, we found that children's problems in school are very prominent. The primary school teacher said that children who have just entered primary school from large classes will inevitably experience three periods of excitement, tension and anxiety. At this stage, children entering primary school have strong personality, weak self-management ability and unstable mood. After entering primary school, the environment they face will undergo new changes. Children gradually transition from relying on parents and teachers to being independent in everything; Children's game activities have become learning activities, and they should preview, review their lessons or do their homework after class; In addition, learning is mainly based on oral language and changed into textbooks written with words or symbols. Due to the practical difficulties in primary school coordination, newborn children have more or less learning pressure and communication pressure, and even find it difficult to adapt to the rhythm and methods of primary school learning, and then appear anti-rejection psychology. In the conversation with parents, it is found that many parents pay attention to the cultivation of skills but ignore the all-round development of children, pay attention to short-term effects and ignore the lifelong development of children. Some parents, out of their aggressive psychology, even went beyond the previous training, and even handed over the textbook content of the first grade of primary school to their children. They are concerned about whether their children learn to write, pinyin and arithmetic at school, whether their children are smart or not, and neglect the cultivation of good habits in life, which leads to such a situation after children enter school: they feel relaxed when they start school, are not attentive in class, and do their homework carefully, forming bad learning attitudes and habits. With the deepening of learning content and the increase of difficulty, reserve knowledge? If you run out of it and lack the habit of studying hard, then there will be difficulties in adaptation, which will lead to learning failure! No stamina? Waiting for questions. Therefore, it puts pressure on the teaching activities of kindergartens and primary schools, and it is difficult to smoothly connect young children. Judging from the interview results, it seems that children have difficulties in study, life and interpersonal communication. In addition, it also shows that children lack self-confidence, forget things easily, are in a bad mood and hate learning. It can be seen that the connection between children is not only a matter of kindergarten and primary school, but also influenced by family and social factors. Parents should understand their children's characteristics, grasp their current development situation in time and accurately, and make family education more targeted. UNICEF and the State Education Commission conducted a survey on +0990- 1994! Research on connecting education between young and old? The results show that: firstly, the real reason why children feel learning difficulties after entering school is the low level of children's ability development, that is, the poor ability of abstract logical thinking, which shows that students can't understand, understand and master the symbolic learning of primary school learning content (words, pinyin and numbers are symbols). Secondly, another aspect of children's insufficient preparation for school is that their adaptability to society has not been well developed, that is, their initiative, independence, sense of rules and sense of task have not been well developed, which directly leads to some children's inability to complete their learning tasks actively and independently after entering school and to complete their homework according to the requirements of teachers. The study also shows that there is a very high positive correlation between the two preparations, that is, children with low level of social adaptability have worse academic performance after entering school. Therefore, the key is how to cultivate children's social adaptability, because it affects children's behavior from the inside. (II) Causes of the problems From kindergarten to primary school, children have undergone tremendous changes in social roles, living content, living environment and interpersonal relationships. As a result, many children show difficulties in study, life and interpersonal communication. In addition, it is also manifested as self-distrust, forgetfulness, bad mood and weariness of learning. All these discomforts take a long time to change, which is undoubtedly harmful to their psychological development and academic success. So why do children have these unsuitable behaviors lies in the obvious difference between kindergartens and primary schools. 1, the change of living environment. Children tend to be anxious at the beginning of school. After the family entered the kindergarten, the teachers and friends who were familiar with the kindergarten were replaced by new teachers and classmates, and the scope and objects of communication were expanding. The parent-child relationship in the family is the relationship of protection and protection, while the partnership in the kindergarten needs friendship, trust and cooperation. Children must get along well with friends in order to gain a sense of security and self-confidence and adapt to the environment well. Research shows that children with good interpersonal relationships can reduce the communication difficulties caused by suddenly entering strange teachers and friends after entering school and adapt to the life of primary school students more quickly. 2. Changes in the learning environment. First of all, in the way of education, kindergarten children interact with the surrounding environment in the form of games. After entering primary school, it has become a way of cultural learning, and the class time has been extended. In kindergartens, activities with the main goal of cultivating children's good emotions, attitudes and behavior habits are replaced by regular learning activities. There are also differences in homework, courses and assessments. Secondly, the change of teaching methods. The teaching tools in kindergarten are intuitive, interesting and diverse, that is, learning while playing. The primary school emphasizes systematic cultural knowledge education and training of basic skills such as reading, writing and arithmetic, which requires hard work to complete the learning task. Third, the change of teacher-student relationship. What I advocate in kindergarten is! Pay equal attention to education? That is, kindergarten teachers bear the dual roles of conservation and education. After entering primary school, with the continuous improvement of children's physical and mental development, the color of conservation gradually decreases, while the components of education gradually increase, the practice with students gradually decreases, and the relationship between teachers and students changes. In reality, most parents don't realize the difficulties and problems that children may face in the process of interacting with young children, thinking that it is enough for them that kindergartens will make relevant education plans to ensure children's nutrition and make good material preparations anyway. Therefore, many parents missed the best opportunity of education, making their children feel hard and hard after entering primary school. In fact, although the role of schools is very important in the work of connecting young children with young children, there is no doubt that parents play an irreplaceable role. Third, the countermeasures of family education in the stage of children's connection. Because family education takes place in the family, compared with kindergarten, school education and social education, it has advantages that other education does not have. As long as parents see the existence of this advantage, correctly guide education and lay a good foundation, they can help their children successfully complete transitional learning. Specifically, we can prepare for the connection between young and old in thought and action. (A) parents' ideological understanding 1, the early nature of family education. Family is the first place for people to receive education after birth, that is, the first classroom in life, and it is an important period for people's physical and mental development. Many basic abilities of people, such as language expression, basic movements and some living habits, are formed at this age. If children develop good living habits and good adaptability at this stage, it will lay a good foundation for the education in the connecting stage and even the education of the whole life, and the impact will be lasting. 2. The timeliness of family education. The process of family education is the individual education behavior of parents to their children at home, which is more timely and targeted than kindergarten or school education. Parents and children get along with each other day and night, and they can be said to know their situation like the back of their hand. As long as children are found asking questions, they should be educated and corrected in time to eliminate bad behavior habits in the bud. The stage of young convergence is an important turning point and formation stage of children's personality, living habits and study habits. This stage of education will directly affect children's study life after entering primary school, and will affect their future life and study for a long time. Therefore, parents' timely and correct education can not only help children form good behavior habits before entering kindergarten, lay a good foundation for receiving primary education, but also make up for the lack of school education and care. (2) Parents should take actions to help their children adapt to primary school life. We believe that internal factors are the decisive factors, and promoting children's development to a new stage on the original basis is the key to solving the problem. Under the same school environment, classes and requirements, children's adaptation to primary school life varies in length, and the problem lies in individual adaptability. Therefore, to solve the problem of children's connection, we must first develop and improve children's own internal adaptability, improve their psychological quality and strengthen the cultivation of their abilities, so as to reduce or shorten the process of inadaptability and achieve the goal of smooth transition to adapt to primary school life. 1. Enhance children's confidence in solving problems successfully. Children who are about to enter primary school have difficulties in learning and social adaptation. Parents should be firm and confident, let their children learn to appreciate themselves and believe that they will succeed. For example, letting children complete a task, learn a skill and get some achievements are all examples. However, it should be noted that when encouraging children to do some challenging things, don't just seduce them with materials. It is best to regard them as people with certain intelligence and ability, and inspire them with the self-esteem and honor of the 2008 album of Fujian Forum # Social Science Education Edition, so as to keep the motivation lasting and in-depth. At the same time, let children feel fun rather than pressure when solving problems, and cultivate their tolerance for failure. When encountering difficulties, parents do not help their children solve problems, but guide them to find ways to do it themselves, so that children can understand that even if the result is not so ideal, it is their own decision and there is no way to blame others. 2. Cultivate children's independent living ability. It is difficult for children who rely too much on it to establish a good self-image and things will depend on others. Therefore, children should know that when they grow up, they will soon become primary school students. They should not rely entirely on their parents and teachers in their life and study. They should learn to live, learn to live, learn to study, learn to work, learn to do their own things, and learn to find ways to solve problems and difficulties by themselves. We should cultivate children's self-education ability. In study and life, self-observation, self-experience, self-supervision, self-criticism, self-evaluation and self-control should be used to cultivate children's concept of time, so that children can know when to do something and customize it. When not to do things, control your will and behavior. Therefore, to cultivate children's self-care ability, we should start from every little thing in life. Parents should guide them to learn how to dress, wash their faces, fold the quilt, tidy the room, serve food, wipe the table, sweep the floor and wash simple clothes, such as handkerchiefs and socks. Consciously cultivate children's habit of doing things in an orderly way. Buy a small schoolbag for children, let them put what they need in it, and teach them to form the habit of sorting schoolbags. Let the children tidy up before eating. Let the children tidy up once in a while. Only in this way can we form independent living ability and cultivate self-confidence. At the same time, parents can also work out schedules with their children, arrange their children's studies and activities reasonably, and let them become the masters of time. In the process of making a timetable, parents should consciously guide their children to match activities with activities, so that children can firmly establish the concept of playing after finishing homework and promote the development of their abilities in all aspects. 3. Strengthening children's interpersonal skills The importance of children's interpersonal skills is reflected in their adaptation to the new interpersonal environment after entering school. Children with poor interpersonal skills are timid, unable to actively communicate with their peers, or unable to get along well with their peers, and dare not go to the teacher to reflect or ask for help if they have problems. As a result, they feel lonely and depressed, their interest in learning is greatly reduced, and the attraction of the school disappears. Therefore, in order to eliminate children's strangeness to the environment after entering school, we should start from the small things around us and cultivate children's communicative competence. These things seem trivial, but they are conducive to creating an atmosphere of friendly cooperation and enhancing children's communication skills. Parents should let their children make friends with children of different ages, take them to neighbors' homes, play games with other friends in community squares, and make friends extensively, so that their children can become people who are willing to communicate and be good at making friends. In this way, children will gradually transition from thinking, habits and cognitive ability, and it is easier for them to adapt to school life after entering school. 4. Guide children to develop good study habits. Parents should be caring people, pay attention to their children's words and deeds, immediately stop the existing bad habits and teach their children the right methods. Generally speaking, we should start from the small things around us. For example, if we finish the task today and on time, parents should persevere and catch it to the end. After long-term training, children will form good habits. Some children like to listen to old stories and music before going to bed. Parents should not only try their best to protect their children's thirst for knowledge, but also encourage their children to get answers in their own way. Parents treat their children's problems enthusiastically, guide them to know and explore, and cause more problems, then children will stimulate their desire to learn knowledge and skills, and form the habit of studying hard. You know, good study habits play an important role in learning, just like strong interest in learning and correct learning methods. Once children have good study habits, they will benefit for life. 5. Stimulating children's interest in primary school is the best teacher for people to explore and follow things. When a person is interested in something, he will pay special attention, observe it carefully, understand it thoroughly and remember it firmly. Therefore, how to protect children's interest in learning is the most important issue for parents. Parents should guide their children to love and enjoy learning, and adopt a step-by-step approach to cultivate their interest in learning. For children who know nothing about primary school knowledge and life, becoming a primary school student is a new and exciting thing. Therefore, first of all, parents should let their children have the desire to go to primary school and be a primary school student. For example, if you send your children to kindergarten in the morning, you will see many primary school students carrying schoolbags to school on the way. At this time, you might as well say to your children: Look, how proud these brothers and sisters are! ? Let the children feel envious. After returning home, you can take your children to a neighbor's house (with primary school students) to play with your brothers and sisters, and feel the rich knowledge of your brothers and sisters in the process of getting along, resulting in the desire to become a primary school student as soon as possible. Secondly, maintaining children's enthusiasm for knowledge and the spirit of exploring the unknown world can also stimulate children's inner desire to go to primary school and become primary school students, which will help them to prepare psychologically for admission. Children's preparation for school is a comprehensive preparation, not only for learning ability, but also for cultivating children's social adaptability, because it inherently affects children's behavior. This kind of preparation and ability training takes a long time to form, so we must rely on the family. Parents should fully realize this, take action before their children enter primary school, and make efforts for their children's learning in the early stage of convergence of thoughts and actions, so as to better help their children complete this transitional stage.