Being in a big family is deeply touched. The more elders there are, the more they inhibit the development of personality. The feudal traditional concept was passed down from generation to generation, and a qualitative concept was formed between the elders. Their requirements for the younger generation are completely fixed, so they must go in the right direction and instill their ideas into the younger generation again and again until you accept them. The elders are totally biased. In their view, you have some advantages, which are in line with their ideas, so they will think you are excellent, such as study or manners. They will take this as an example to educate other younger generations. In fact, everyone has his own excellent side of development, which is an advantage in the eyes of others, but if the elders don't like it, they will say it is a disadvantage. If they are honest, they think it is boring; If smart, they say cunning. Children in normal families have parents and grandparents, and generally other relatives are less involved in family education. Only two sets of ideas are guiding the younger generation. When the children grow up to 18 years old, they basically accept it and know how to deal with others. At this time, they have also formed their own views and their personalities are basically stereotyped. Parents just need to give them some correct guidance. Some elders teach the younger generation what kind of personality they should have. As the saying goes, "A leopard cannot change his spots." Everyone has his own personality, and the basic moral concepts have been understood since 18, and personality tends to be stereotyped. At this time, it is not good to make qualitative requirements for children. Nowadays, young people are basically highly educated. They know how to treat others and do things without endless indoctrination from their elders. This will disgust the younger generation. It is understandable that some young people do things that their elders don't understand. There is already a generation gap. The education of the elders to the younger generation should be to influence them with their own actions, not "what should you do". Mothers will do better in this respect, which is also the greatness of maternal love. The above is the pressure of children under the dual ideological education. If you add relatives and friends, it will add a little pressure to your child, so that your child's personality development will be completely lost and you will be afraid of contact with your relatives. They live within the rules and lose their freedom, and every behavior and action will be monitored. Such children are prone to mental illness. But the elders think they have good intentions, but they gild the lily and gild the lily. After children receive normal moral education, they should let the law develop in the direction they are interested in or willing to, so that there will not always be news reports that children run away from home. This is the advantage of the American education system. After children 18 years old, parents let them live independently. They can do it, why can't we? The reason is that the concept of China people is too backward. Can such ideas and education contribute to social development? Why does China today lack inventions and always imitate them? Why? We can't help but sigh, it's all the fault of "mom and dad"!