Lecturer in Preschool Education, School of Child Development and Education, Women's University of China
Research fields: cultural psychology and education, children's moral development and education.
For example, family, as a social cell and unit, has the same periodic characteristics as individual death.
Duval scholars divide the family life cycle into eight stages.
Dink family, no family planning;
The best reproductive period, female 22-28 years old;
The child is born to two and a half years old;
The high-speed period of the first development;
Role adaptation: The role of being a mom and dad has changed, and the way of seeing the world is different.
Economic problems, pace of life (the development of sleep habits will change the pace of life of adults)
2 and a half years old-6 years old, enrolled in nurseries and kindergartens. From family to another social organization.
Problems faced: nutrition problems, economic problems brought by education, school choice problems;
6 years old to 13 years old, primary school;
Problems faced: children's physical and mental development problems (sex education, school problems, social families have many requirements for children: listening, speaking, reading, writing and calculating), and acquired psychological tools "psychological tools"
Puberty, adolescence, 13-20 years old, stormy period;
Problems: Socialization and puppy love;
Leaving home from the first child and forming another family;
Problems faced: the relationship between parents and children has become the relationship between adults, and the authoritative family and family style have changed; Loneliness faced by parents; The problem of mate selection, the words of parents' matchmakers,
Retire until both husband and wife die;
Problems: psychological dependence on family, loss of friends, changes in social activities, etc.
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If you don't look up, family members must live together, and living separately will cause some problems.
The principle of motherhood and the kindness of mothers to children will be rooted in the good thoughts of children.
The principle of paternal surname: set rules for children and admonish criticism.
Father is suitable to play strict father;
A mother is suitable to play a loving mother.
Husband and wife have common hobbies and lifestyles;
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Impulsive divorce: who will do the dishes because of the divorce?
Division of housework will also lead to differences; Child care;
Conflict of values leads to divorce. Are you willing to adjust and improve your acceptance of each other?
In the state of marriage and family, I am far away. Not giving in to each other;
Parents are fully responsible for disputes, one party does not wash dishes and the other does not cook.
Responsibility allocation, I won't do it if you don't do it when it's not good.
Other factors such as divorce, extramarital affairs and marriage are excluded.
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High conflict families, low conflict families, divorced families.
Parental conflict is the common cause of divorce and children's psychological and behavioral problems.
Parental conflict before divorce will increase the negative impact of divorce on children.
There is interaction between the experiences of parents' divorce at the age of 4-9 in childhood.
Parents with high parental conflict have little influence on their children after divorce;
Parents with low conflict have a great influence on their children after divorce;
Conflict is high, divorce and children's problems will be less;
● Conflict and divorce will cause more problems for children;
Within 2 years of divorce, children's anxiety level will be high. So two years after divorce is the best expectation.
Affect children's subjective happiness and marital happiness;
Differences between men and women: girls from divorced families have obvious performance, which has a great influence on girls' happiness and behavior.
It has great influence on the relationship between mother and son, but little influence on the relationship between father and son.
After divorce, parents will also involve their children in their own contradictions.
Divorce itself and the contradiction between parents after divorce have the same influence on the psychological development of children and adolescents.
After divorce, the contradiction between parents is obviously reduced, which has much less influence on teenagers' psychological development level and self-awareness establishment.
Parents who can cooperate after divorce have a positive influence on their children, and their children have fewer internal and external psychological and behavioral problems.
For a child, the biological father and mother are her home, and the conflict between parents after divorce has the same influence on the child as that of a complete family.
The contradiction between parents after divorce will weaken the father-son relationship and increase the probability of children's problems.
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The serious influence of parents' divorce on children said:
After the divorce, the disposable economy of mother and son plummeted.
The influence of divorce on children is time-limited, and there is a time limit. I felt a lot of pressure in two years, and it dropped a lot after two years.
Families with children, divorce and family reorganization. Benign divorce.
For mothers, the cooperation of parents will reduce their conflict and hostility and enhance the warmth of their education;
Increase the contact between father and son, and then improve the quality of father-son relationship, and finally reduce the internal problems of children.
Children dig up their fathers and mothers to provide them with a good upbringing.
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