First of all, both husband and wife should have a unified purpose for their children's education, which is beyond their control. No matter what you think, children must be moving towards the goal of kindness, independence, gratitude, professionalism and all-round development. Both strict education and loose educational ideas are moving towards such a goal. Since the purpose is unified, it is only a small problem in terms of the operation of the process. So what kind of talents are the key to cultivate children's growth.
Secondly, the operation behavior under each concept will not be so bad that some time-sharing operation methods and steps are the same, but the addressing methods are different. Therefore, the two sides should not just talk on paper, but talk about their own operation methods, so that they can know how to do it more reasonably, which is beneficial to children and more suitable for their current age characteristics and environmental characteristics. It is better to sit down and talk than to do it.
Thirdly, once there is a difference, we must stop digesting at the parents' own level and never bring it to our children. Some parents like to argue or belittle each other in front of their children in order to gain their obedience and sympathy or support. This brings children into the whirlpool, which is a kind of harm to children.
Parents often say to their children, "Look, it's no use learning from your father. You will regret it then, and your mother will not help you. " There are many similar words, and they compete with each other, and the children become middleweight.
Finally, the most terrible thing is that when the two sides are fighting, the child must be taken care of by him, but once the child really gets into his hands, he does not manage it well and does not operate the details well. In the end, he didn't get a good effect on the children.
It seems to be a person's nature to control the rights of others, but once the control is in hand, it is not easy to operate. On the contrary, it is an excuse and a reason.
For example, Zhang San, at home, must let his parents' husbands and children listen to his distribution, and finally won, and the power of the family also came to him. However, due to his laziness or habit of playing mobile phones, he did not guide his children's growth well, which led to his inability to learn, poor performance and disrespect for teachers. Eventually the problem came, but he didn't take responsibility. On the contrary, it is an excuse for him to be lazy and for his children to be spoiled by others.
Therefore, we can't let another concept die out, but should coexist. We can all unite our strength on our children and let them grow up in an all-round way, which is a rare thing in our life.
In a word, there is no dispute about the right or wrong of ideas. The key is to learn to take the cultivation of parents as the purpose, praise each other in action, and let children grow up healthily in a unified environment and concept.