Like all mothers, when I gave birth to my first child, I always wondered whether God would give me a boy or a girl. What will this child look like in the future? But both boys and girls are gifts from God, and each child has its own uniqueness. It is the responsibility of parents to explore and cultivate their children's talents and choose the educational methods suitable for their children.
There is a nursery rhyme about boys and girls: boys are made of frogs, scissors and puppy tails, while girls are made of spices, sugar and all the beautiful things. In the usual contact with children, I found that boys always can't sit still. They like adventure and have good spatial thinking ability. When you see a boy playing with a toy gun naughtily, the girl next to him is quietly dressing the doll. Most boys prefer to study mathematics, physics and other subjects, while girls are more interested in literature and art and are more sensitive to emotions. This is due to the interaction between male and female brain cells and the differences in the overall structure and function of the brain. They control the brain in different ways. The male brain controls logical reasoning and abstract thinking, while the female brain is better at language and intuition.
Milam Stobode, an Australian educator, observed that girls prefer cooperative toys and games in the school environment. They tend to avoid those particularly naughty boys and tend to choose quieter activities related to reading. At the same time, they are more anxious about math and other activities related to numbers. They are generally willing to cooperate, so they are less criticized by teachers.
In contrast, boys prefer to play energy-consuming games, such as climbing trees and chasing each other. They like toys related to mathematics and spatial sense, and they are often obsessed with solving a math problem. Boys are more destructive when they are not noticed or encounter difficulties. This means that teachers need to spend more time and energy on them.
Boys have the advantages of boys and girls have the advantages of girls. There are no advantages or disadvantages in gender itself, but there are some differences between the two sexes. Physical gender is innate, and a person will not be born with gender identity. After a series of social cognition, he will know his gender in his growth and become his gender role and social role.
Psychologists have found that children are more affected in early childhood than in adolescence, and a considerable number of people with homosexual tendencies will trace their experiences back to early childhood.
Awei, a young man who works in Guangzhou, is in his twenties. Now he can't stand the fact that he is a man. When he was born in his hometown in Henan, his mother raised him as a girl and made him wear girls' clothes and do what girls do until he went to primary school. Every time he finished housework, his family and relatives praised awei for doing housework, and he felt very happy. But with the advent of adolescence, awei found that his beard had grown out of his chin. He was so disgusted that he began to shave constantly. He told the reporter who interviewed him, "Now I shave twice a week, and then I think I should be a girl."
I think parents should first respect their children's gender and let them establish gender awareness from an early age, which can help them establish a sound personality and correct gender relations. If children lack correct guidance in infancy and fail to complete the task of gender awareness, gender bias will appear when they grow up in the future. For example, parents should tell their children that you are a boy (girl), what are your physical characteristics, what you should be like as a boy and what you should be like as a girl.
When parents choose education for their children, they should first consider their nature. For example, a naughty boy often runs around and makes trouble. His parents have trained him to be cautious, timid and full of powder. It is better to cultivate children's self-confidence, determination and generosity. However, it is not good for parents to define their children's personality too much, which limits their behavior, and education cannot be as harsh and absolute as defining concepts. He is bisexual, and boys are naughty? Eggs can also read quietly, and girls are quiet and beautiful, and they also have perseverance, in a certain way.
Lin Huaimin is the father of modern Asian dance. He is the founder of Cloud Gate Dance Collection in Taiwan Province Province. Mr Lin Huaimin is the only choreographer in Asia who can be called a master. His reputation is well-known at home and abroad. Mr. Lin's father is a successful politician. He named his son "Huaimin" in the hope that he would care for the people and serve the society in the future. Lin Huaimin did this, but the place where he showed his talent was not the political stage, but the stage where he really danced.
1952, our family took 5-year-old Lin Huaimin to see the Hollywood movie The Red Scarf. He loved it and watched it seven or eight times in a row. He bounced around the house and danced on the table. The slippers at home were all worn out because they were used as dancing shoes by him.
196 1 year, Lin Huaimin, 14 years old, first appeared in the literary world, and published his first novel "Children's Song" in the supplement of United Daily News. The dream of dancing was budding secretly, and he took the first ballet class in his life with the money he could get.
1967, 20-year-old Lin Huaimin was a junior majoring in journalism at Taiwan Province University of Political Science, and paul taylor came to Taiwan Province Province to perform. He spent 60 yuan to buy a front-row ticket. He said, "That was my pocket money for one and a half months, and I never regret it."
1969, at the age of 22, he has published the novels Deformed Rainbow and Cicada, and the writer's road has been paved. Successfully won a scholarship to study for a master's degree in the novel creation class of the University of Iowa. No one knows that he secretly brought a pair of dancing shoes in his bag.
After graduating from college, he went to new york and studied at Martha Graham Modern Dance School. It was a time when hippie culture was prevalent. He walked barefoot in the streets of new york and was free.
1973, Lin Huaimin was 26 years old and returned to Taiwan Province province. It was an extremely conservative and closed era. The boys who danced were abnormal and the girls who danced were not serious. He said loudly: "I have a dream to create a modern dance company of China people."
1974, 27-year-old Lin Huaimin founded the Cloud Gate Dance Collection. It is the first professional dance company in Taiwan Province Province and the first contemporary dance company in the Chinese world.
Lin Huaimin's father said to him when he first set up a dance troupe: "A dancer is the greatest of all artists because he uses his own body, but you know, dancing may also be a beggar's business." After all, every time Lin Huaimin rehearses, my father goes to see it. Father discussed many aspects of dance thinking with him. The Cloud Gate Dance Collection has been done for a long time, and Lin Huaimin's father will introduce himself to others and say, "I am Lin Huaimin's father."
If Lin Huaimin's family forced him to give up this interest when he was a teenager, there wouldn't be such a master dancer now. When his dance company was established, his father gave him great support and was proud of having a dancing son.
In my opinion, this is not just a question of gender. Every child has a unique place. Parents should know how to explore and respect their children's interests and talents, but talents and gender are not exactly the same. Maybe a girl with a talent for mathematics will make some achievements in engineering, such as Madame Curie and Ms. Lin. Maybe a boy behaves differently, but these talents do not conflict with gender. Gender is like a foundation, and talent is a building built on it. Just like Ms. Lin, she is not only accomplished in architecture, but also wrote many poems and essays, which are both intellectual and feminine for women. Therefore, gender roles are the basis for developing talents.
Talent and potential are always hidden in the ordinary. The little girl who likes sewing is ingenious, which is also a gift. It is also a gift for a child to do things in an orderly way and arrange the room reasonably and properly. Everyone is not necessarily a genius. It is very realistic and reasonable to give play to what he is best at and turn it into a competitive advantage in society and life.
Therefore, parents should pay attention to what their children are good at, what their interests are, teach students in accordance with their aptitude, create a suitable environment, let their children naturally show their talents, let their children grow up in a free and relaxed environment, create more opportunities for their children, and let them contact more fields.
God endows men and women with different qualities and makes the world more colorful. Boys and girls learn from each other's characteristics, for example, women are beautiful and strong, men are strong and delicate, which makes up for their own gender weaknesses and makes this harmony more perfect. If all children are of the same sex and their personalities are unified, how gloomy and monotonous the world will be, just as the forest will be full of vitality and color without an identical leaf. Therefore, although the gender has been decided, the education of parents determines the future of children.
(selected from "Love to help the poor is better than love to help the rich")