Having dinner with a friend, my friend told me that he was very tired at work every day and had to work overtime when he got home. The children always come to talk to him, which makes him particularly annoyed. He couldn't stand it, so he hit the child a few times. After that, the child didn't want to talk to him anymore, and he also hid when he saw him.

"I don't want to be fierce, but I'm really tired. How can I make up with my children? " The friend said wearily.

Before reconciliation, parents should be clear and simple, but things that are not good for their children are not simple. How do you know if you are doing right or wrong, and how to remedy it? Then talk to your parents.

What did parents do wrong to their children 1. Complain about their children's bad behavior.

All parents want their children to be excellent, and they all want their children to be the best among their peers. This is good for children, so that children have face, and then sign up for a large number of cram schools and interest classes for children. From Monday to Sunday, there is not a day when they are not on the road. They study and write all kinds of homework every day.

If the child is a little reluctant or does not do well, parents begin to complain about the child, thinking that the child can't do this or that, and can't do anything well. How can such a thing happen? Then I began to talk about myself, how hard I work every day, for whom I work so hard, and you still fail to live up to expectations. You'll know how to play in a day. Look at you now. Are you good enough for me? Parents vent their unhappiness in endless blame, and they are in a particularly good mood, no matter what happens to their children after listening, whether they are doing something wrong or because of their parents.

2. spit out bad temper to children.

It is understandable that parents are tired from work every day and have a bad temper or a bad mood, but before entering the house, you should adjust these bad moods and bad tempers in time and don't take them home. You are tired at work and have a bad temper, which are not reasons to beat and scold your children. The child is innocent.

Whether these problems are children's or not, many parents always find some reasons to get angry with their children. If a child wants to be close to you and play with you, you will feel very upset. Not only will I not accompany my children, but I will continue to beat and scold them. After a long time, children will have a great influence and feel that everything is their own fault and will not be close to their parents again. The family atmosphere is no longer harmonious and warm, but very cold and serious. Children not only go home without a good rest environment, but also live in fear.

All bad things depend on children.

Parents often blame their children for all the mistakes and bad things when their children are bad or quarreling. It is said that such a bad thing happened because of children, who became the punching bag of the poor and the vent of parents.

Parents always blame their children for the misfortunes in life, and even euphemistically say that it is all for the good of their children, otherwise I will live a better life. However, the children didn't get any benefits, only anxiety, fear and worry. They are afraid that one day their parents will come and scold and beat themselves, and they are worried and uneasy because they have done nothing. Children become an excuse for parents to be unhappy.

Adults always blame others for their faults, so after returning home, children become the best outlet, children are no longer the crystallization of love in marriage, and children become the most pitiful scapegoats.

4. scold the child without knowing the truth.

Many parents always scold their children regardless of facts or real reasons. I think everything is the child's fault. If something goes wrong, don't worry about the children first, but whether your money or other things are damaged first. If a child has a fight with other children, parents will not investigate the cause of the incident, but will talk about their own children first.

No matter at home or at school, as long as there is something wrong with the child, the first thing to do is to scold the child instead of investigating the cause. As long as something goes wrong, no matter whether the child is right or wrong, it becomes a reason to scold the child. Over time, children don't want to explain, and they don't believe that their parents can treat themselves fairly, because it is wrong whether it is their own fault or not. So children don't care if what they do is right or wrong.

The correct way for parents to give their children 1. Control yourself.

Parents are under great pressure, whether at work or in life, so it is understandable that they are out of control and in a bad mood. So when parents can't control it, they lock themselves in a quiet place where no one is there. Avoid venting your temper and causing trouble to children, because many things are not done by children, but our parents themselves will not adjust their bad emotions.

You can also give yourself a smile in front of the mirror after work, on the road or before entering the house, suggesting that you should get off work. Don't bring bad things home at work. My family and children are fine, and it is not an outlet for my bad work.

Parents can also constantly hint to themselves that although there are many unpleasant things in life, there are still many happy things, especially when they are with their families and children. I can see their smiling faces every day and feel that everything is worth it.

2. Know the truth before talking about children.

When children make mistakes, we should not always complain and scold them, but find out the reasons for their mistakes. Sometimes it may be that the child accidentally made a mistake. If parents don't know the truth and scold their children directly, the children will be greatly hit.

At this time, parents should first understand the truth of the matter and then give themselves and their children some time. At this time, let yourself and your child think about the solution, especially let the child bear the consequences after doing something wrong, because this is to cultivate children. You can't hide when you make a mistake. Only by facing it bravely can we solve everything.

3. Accept the child's results.

All parents want their children to be the best, the best and the best, and have always been very strict with their children. However, parents should know that there are people outside and their children have worked hard, but the results are great and small. Parents should not force their children to be like others. Parents should accept all the results of their children frankly, and more importantly, this hard work process.

This process of hard work not only increases children's knowledge reserves, but also cultivates children's excellent quality of hard work, and knows how to accept all the results, so that they can have a good psychology when facing various things in the future. Parents should constantly encourage and help their children in this process, and don't insist on bad results. Also explain to children that the process is more meaningful and valuable than the result.

4. Learn to apologize to your child

Everyone makes mistakes, and adults are no exception. It's good to apologize to your child when you make a mistake. Parents should know that children are not their own accessories, they are also independent people. Children also have their own ideas and self-esteem. Just because the child is born by himself, you can't ignore the child's thoughts and self-esteem, and you don't know how to repent when you do something wrong. I don't have the courage to take this mistake.

Parents can apologize to their children when they make mistakes, which not only increases their courage to face mistakes, but also enhances their courage to face mistakes. It is a good quality to let children know that there is something wrong and admit it, rather than hiding it when they know there is something wrong, which will only muddle through, reduce their sense of responsibility and have a bad influence on their development.

In this society, the relationship between children and parents is intimate and unique. Many things happen every day, because it is the first time to be a parent and a child, so everyone's experience is insufficient. Only by getting along slowly and groping can we sum up our experience.