We have received so much education, but in fact we have not lived our true selves. Realizing oneself and living oneself are two concepts.

Man is a primate and the spirit of all things. Tens of thousands of years ago, human beings lived by feeling and spirit, without education and learning logic, and were tamed by habits. Later, in order to rule, the imperial power set up the imperial examination system, which respected Confucianism alone, and all the dignitaries in the past dynasties began to pursue official careers. The emperor also personally wrote advertisements to persuade talents to enter the exam. "There are thousands of millet in the book, a golden house in the book and Yan Ruyu in the book." . Since then, this chicken soup has become a golden marriage that future generations believe in, biting into the bones, and it is necessary to gain both fame and fortune. The four books, the five classics and the eight-part essay are all decadent feudal thoughts, and the more you learn, the tighter you get. The official career makes people practice mask skills from now on, just like a game. They will kill the enemy by going through the customs and seize the mountains to get pleasure.

Later, with the development of the times and the derivative of academics, people who read PhDs flocked to them. PhDs were gentle and knowledgeable intellectuals. What happened to these people after graduation? Are they all happy? Have they all realized themselves? No, the ego is just a delicate personality mask used in society. I found that many friends and executives around me have a delicate personality mask, which looks glamorous to outsiders because it is the credit of "education". Once they enter the circle of education, they can't stop, and they dare not take off their jobs, even if they are sad and painful, because they don't know how to dismount, let alone study. Maslow has a pyramid demand theory, and the highest demand of human beings is to realize themselves in society. Self-realization here refers to the realization of self-worth in the secular world, not only to achieve material prosperity but also to contribute to society. As a result, this theory has become a new and final successful conclusion all over the world. It implies that to realize oneself, we must learn to study, get a high degree, work hard to make money, and finally give back to the society. What a tall cycle this is, which can make people all over the world envy and admire. According to this theory, there are Bill Gates, Buffett and others. After acquiring huge social wealth, they will donate it to the society naked, because their self-realization pyramid has reached its peak, and wealth means little to them.

There are three self-theories in psychology, namely, id, superego and ego. Id is the real me, superego is the educated me, and ego is the realistic me. In fact, the mainstream of society and the education system all emphasize the realization of the highest degree of "superego" among the three egos, the acceptance of the ultimate higher education, the observance of social ethics and the avoidance of emotional id. Only when the superego is promoted and used can human beings continue to evolve, society will be better and the country will be stronger. Id is our natural appearance, natural innocence, which corresponds to the "brain protection" in the three brains, namely emotion, instinct and intuition.

The self-realization of the highest peak of Chinese and western life is achieved through education, rationality and WTO entry. Then it is not "success" to follow your heart and intuition. If you want to pursue success, you must have a Bisona (personality mask), which must be carefully designed to be perfect and not arbitrary. Didn't the Analects say "self-denial and benevolence"? A gentleman should restrain himself and make his behavior belong to the aspect of ceremony, that is, it is suitable for ceremony. Smart gentlemen cultivate a pair of exquisite personality masks, which are perfect and noble to the outside world and can be loved and worshipped all over the world. Scholar-officials only succeeded, which is the game rule of social interpretation. The ego is infinitely magnified and competition is emphasized, so this is the success of the ego and is maximized. To live a good life, the "I" here actually refers to the ID. I was born, not domesticated, educated or sculpted. Therefore, a person can say that he has realized himself, but he does not necessarily live himself. Few people can use both at the same time, such as Jobs and Oprah. Starting from the id, they not only live their true side, but also realize the highest self-evolution in the secular world. For example, those who are promoted and made a fortune in the officialdom only realize their highest self, while those poets and artists who truly live their true selves are those who abandon the officialdom and live in seclusion in the mountains. They pursue their true selves, don't wear personality masks, live in their true state, and don't participate in the rat race made by society.

Everyone's "three ones" ratio is different. Some people are born with rational brains and like to be bound by norms. Some people have a strong sense of self, and prefer intuitive inner expression to affectation. These two I go their own ways, and no one needs to serve anyone, but you have to choose which "I" you want to live in, and then you must be loyal to your choice to the end. So, what you think of realizing yourself is not living yourself. This is why many people find themselves unhappy after success, because success is only a secular personality mask, and the real self is not defined by "success". It is not defined, but exists naturally like jade.

I'm constantly thinking and looking for answers. How should we balance the relationship between id and ego? The ego is the product of the nourishment of secular society, but the id is the source of happiness. I have been groping for so long and found that the only solution is to admit that I live in the secular world, complete the tasks of secular people, and at the same time take into account the connection with the ID. Sometimes I feel that I am pulling back and forth between the two and it is difficult to have a complete balance. Because there is no once-and-for-all solution, we can only constantly adjust ourselves, so sometimes it will be very painful. I don't want to completely join the WTO and be controlled by myself to compete for resources and fame. These are the standards of socialization. But I don't want to hide in the mountains. I only deal with natural art every day and live in a safe bubble. I received so much education and learned so much knowledge just to realize myself and do something valuable and recognized. I want to be a bridge between China and the United States, and bring what I learned in the United States to China to empower others.

Life is short, do we participate in the game to get through all the barriers or live a free life? Do you want to live your true self or create a beautiful personality mask? A thousand Hamlets have a thousand answers.