However, it is obvious that appreciation education in the true sense is not as simple as praise and encouragement. Appreciation education seems easy, but most parents are also easy to fall into the cognitive misunderstanding of blindly following the trend. In other words, many parents don't know how to praise their children accurately. Cultivate children according to belittling others' abilities and test scores, help children avoid being incorrect according to shirking responsibility, and teach children to be overconfident according to excessive boasting. When parents' praise makes childhood sour, children can't get proper encouragement from it, and finally they are trapped in parents' false reports.
Praise and killing are two different things. If parents don't grasp the boundaries, they can only cheat the baby. In fact, praise and encouragement are only part of appreciation education. If parents can't master the standards and proper limits of praise, it will easily lead to mistakes in children's cognitive ability. Arrogance, so a generalized self-knowledge management system can easily become an obstacle to children's pursuit of progress.
Praise without a principled bottom line will make children taste the bitter fruit of "killing". Obviously, this has put the cart before the horse with parents' initial intention of appreciating education. Praise is not to please and flatter children blindly, but it will make children more unable to see themselves. As adults, it is already a kind of dereliction of duty for parents to let their children lead by the nose.
When children are young, parents who are used to beating and killing can help them cultivate their proud personality and prevent them from having strong adversity quotient to meet the big waves. When the "false report about the world" created by parents is shattered by reality, they can only become vulnerable if they have to accept the reality.
In appreciation education, parents had better convey three ideas to their children in advance, and don't let the direction of cultural education deviate. Concept 1: It is very important to establish correct self-values, self-appreciation and appreciation of others. Before carrying out appreciation education, parents must correctly guide their children to realize that affirming their own abilities is as important as recognizing others' test scores. Only by not complaining about others and being arrogant can appreciation education become the driving force for children to relax and be timid, so as not to get lost in praise and envy others in failure.
Concept 2: To treat unsuccessful and frustrated correctly means not to ignore the harm caused by unsuccessful and frustrated. Unsuccessful and frustrated people are miserable, but they can't hit people. When children can correctly deal with failures and setbacks, these people will also have the courage to deal with them bravely when they are disappointed. Summing up experience and lessons in failure, tempering inner beliefs in setbacks and keeping the adverse effects of big setbacks unchanged can help children draw strength from motivation.
Concept 3: Don't be afraid of market competition. Understand that grasping the opportunity to gain self-growth in the test and market competition is all the time. Just because you are afraid that you are "incomparable" and avoid hiding, it is useless to accept more praise and encouragement. Only when children have the fighting spirit to seize opportunities and dare to challenge themselves can they truly achieve self-growth. Far-sighted parents are not easy to be too obsessed with using certain educational methods. They know how to temper their children's minds, help them create correct self-worth, and give them recognition and encouragement under moderate circumstances, which will become the real driving force for their growth.