It is important to educate little girls to protect themselves and their children's growth. Every problem shows the lack of children's growth. Teaching children how to protect themselves is the development goal of many children. So how should parents educate little girls to protect themselves? Let's have a look!
Teach little girls to protect themselves 1 1. Girls should know how to love themselves.
Many parents who are girls think that raising girls should be rich, and they hardly let their daughters be bullied and wronged. "Rich daughters raise poor children" is true, but it is more important to let daughters know how to protect themselves and love themselves. In order for children to resist temptation and learn to protect their bodies, adults should not only let children know how to deal with relationships with others, but also let them learn to have the energy to love others and become an excellent and popular girl.
Girls need to be strong and independent.
The more determined and independent a child is, the more successful she will be in her study and life, because parents can't always take care of and accompany her, so when a daughter has to face something alone, if she can't show enough independence, she will easily get into trouble. Therefore, parents should say these words to their daughters more often and take actions to educate their daughters to be independent. In fact, a girl's happiness and unhappiness are not obtained by others, but by herself.
3. Girls should know how to protect themselves.
Compared with boys and girls, they are a vulnerable group, so their parents will give their children a sense of self-protection when they are young. They often tell their children that they must learn to protect themselves, and also give their daughters some common sense in behavior, such as not letting others touch them casually. At the same time, parents should also teach their daughters some self-help methods to better protect themselves and save themselves when they are in danger. In addition, they should let their children speak their minds.
What girls want is to learn to refuse others.
Most girls are more sober and gentle than boys, and because they are weak and lack independent thinking, they are often used to doing things according to others' words. In their view, obeying others and helping others will make them more popular. But if you just cater to others blindly and dare not express your thoughts, it is easy to form a submissive character, so you don't know how to refuse others. In this way, you will often come to an impasse. Therefore, parents should teach their daughters how to refuse others, and learning to refuse is also a compulsory course for children.
5. Girls should also learn to be diligent.
Nowadays, many parents regard their daughters as the treasure of the family. If they don't do it, they won't touch it. Children just need to learn to do this at school. However, some children are neglected by their parents and even have poor academic performance. As long as they learn more, they are tired and bitter. At this time, parents love their children and let them rest. Actually, this is not right. Therefore, it is a bit difficult for grown-up children not only to go to places, but also to know nothing.
Summary: Girls are naturally sensitive. Therefore, parents communicate more with their children and know what their children really think. Parents can try their best to let their daughters treat themselves as friends and communicate in time when they encounter any difficulties. This relationship is the most comfortable. At the same time, parents can also keep abreast of their daughters' inner thoughts and help their children become better through words and deeds.
Teach little girls to protect themselves. The world is really full of dangers for girls.
If you have a lovely daughter at home, while enjoying the happiness and satisfaction brought by the child, you will always worry about one thing, and that is the safety of the child. In August, many cases of sexual abuse of girls broke out in China, which caused widespread discussion. Another less noticeable news is that in April, the case of a female writer in Taiwan Province Province who committed suicide after experiencing post-Q depression in her early years was closed, and she was suspected to be the mentor of the sexual Q abuser. Many people feel powerless because of the lack of evidence. Professionals said, "The actual number of juvenile Q cases, the number of cases formed and the number of physical exposures are gradually decreasing." In other words, such events not only exist in the news, but also happen around us. Therefore, as parents, it is understandable to be deeply worried.
Of course, when girls grow up, the danger they face is not only sex Q, but also others. Because their bodies are weaker than boys, their emotions are more delicate, and they are more likely to become the weak side in social communication.
It is easy to tell children about the danger, but it is difficult to protect the sense of security and trust.
It is very easy to tell an adult that "the world is dangerous". Just tell him the high-risk group, time, scene and so on. None of this will greatly affect an adult's view of the whole world. However, if you want to tell a little girl, it is a very nerve-racking thing. We know that people who may hurt a girl may be almost anyone, not only the "strange corn" and "tramp" on the street corner, but also familiar people, such as neighbors, relatives, teachers, classmates, security guards ... So, if you tell a girl that you should be careful of these people mentioned above, then the child really has to doubt that he lives in a world full of demons. Moreover, the safety of girls is often related to physical injury, often related to sex. If the child is too young, you can't fully explain the sexual confusion with the child.
Of course, the main concern is to hurt children's trust in the world. When I was a child, my elders often said at night, "Don't go out at night, or you will be taken away by monsters." Later, we were not caught by monsters. However, since then, I have left a deep fear of darkness in my heart.
The American film Trust tells a series of stories about a girl who was sexually assaulted ... The film emphasizes the pain outside the girl's body, that is, the secondary injury caused by her father's persistent revenge and the protection of her friends, which leads to the collapse of her trust in the world. At the end of the film, the girl's father cried bitterly at the girl: "You have that kind of self-confidence and trust, and you sincerely trust people and things around you. This trust makes me proud and even jealous. It is my father's responsibility to maintain trust and confidence in your future life. If I can't even protect you, what am I ... "
We know that life sometimes feels happy, largely because we are safe and accepted, and the people around us can be trusted. And once our trust and sense of security in this world are destroyed, it will be tantamount to living in an endless night of terror. If parents don't tell their children properly, the dangers in this world are everywhere, which is a great harm to an effective child.
Use the rules of love to ensure safety, not intimidation.
Therefore, loving children is an instinct, while "loving" children is a skill. How to ensure the safety of girls without exaggerating the darkness of the world is a technical job that needs to integrate "emotion" and "law".
Fortunately, there is never a shortage of loving and intelligent mothers in the world. Shen, the young mother of an 8-year-old girl, is one of the most enlightened people. She is also deeply worried about her daughter's growth. Once, because she saw too many negative news events, she was nervous, neurotic and sensitive to almost neuroticism. My daughter rehearsed the program with the kindergarten teacher. As soon as she heard that there was a man in the accompanying teacher, she got cranky and fidgety. She calls the teacher who leads the team every once in a while and can't wait to pick up her daughter at the first time. Every time I give my daughter a bath, she carefully asks if anything special happened today, and if anyone hugged or kissed you. Even the male elders in the family want to take their daughters out to play. I am reluctant to let my daughters spend the night at relatives' homes. ...
What changed her was the movie A Beautiful Life. Di Naiying tells the story of a Jewish father and son who were sent to a Nazi concentration camp. The father lied with his own imagination that they were in a game, and finally the father let his son's childlike innocence not be hurt. So, she decided to build a firewall of love for her children. She used her daughter's favorite Barbie doll to set 88 "princess rules" for her children. Of course, to make children accept these rules, you can't learn them by rote. She personally changed many classic fairy tales and incorporated these 88 safety rules into them. The addition of these codes also adds some warmth and love to those classic fairy tales. Now, these codes and stories have been compiled into a book, which has become the daughter education book of Chinese mothers and the princess code of Barbie School.
Use fairy tales to convey safety rules and avoid negative feelings about danger.
In this fun "Barbie School Princess Code", Snow White's story will tell the children: Don't cry when in danger, calmly deal with the bad guys and make conditions; Don't sleep in a strange place casually-if you must sleep, please lock the door; Men and women are different, girls can't sleep in a room with boys; Close the doors and windows and close the curtains when you take a shower and change clothes. The story of the frog prince will tell girls: girls can't give up their principles for what they love; Girls can't promise others' unreasonable demands for their beloved items; Learn to refuse; Be firm in the face of others' entanglement; Repaying others' help should be reasonable and reasonable, not casual; Don't just look good when choosing a partner. Hai's daughter will tell her children that everyone should do the right thing at the right age, and it is not necessarily a good thing to try something too early. The ugly duckling will tell the children that it is not advisable to run away from home. ...
In this way, children can not only learn valuable safety rules, but also avoid the fear of the real world through symbolic fairy tales. Compared with the traditional method of making children aware of danger by creating a feeling of terror, this method is more loving, reduces children's fear of the cruel side of real life and protects their sense of security in the world.
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We used to be "afraid" because of "love" and were full of worries about our children's lives. However, wise parents will not educate their children with "fear", but build protection with "love". Complete the establishment of children's safety awareness in warm parent-child reading again and again. When one day, they finally walked away from our sight. We believe that they can take care of themselves. Because we know that they not only have safety rules to protect themselves, but also have the power of love.