Intergenerational education refers to the upbringing and education of grandparents to their grandchildren, which is a concept relative to parenting education. This way of education enables grandparents who have had the experience of raising children to take good care of their children in all aspects, but the problems it brings will also be presented to us more and more, which will bring many negative effects on the growth and development of children. This paper mainly analyzes the negative effects of intergenerational education on children and puts forward some targeted solutions.
Keywords intergenerational education; Problems; Countermeasures.
First, intergenerational education and its forms.
Intergenerational education refers to the upbringing and education of grandparents to their grandchildren. It is a concept opposite to parenting education and a kind of family education. Due to work pressure, social competition and other factors, more and more young parents give their children to their parents to raise, making intergenerational parenting a natural and common phenomenon in family early childhood education. The society is paying more and more attention to intergenerational education, and the importance of this form of education is beyond doubt. We can make full use of the social experience of our ancestors, not only give full play to their residual heat, but also liberate young parents. However, the disadvantages of intergenerational education cannot be ignored. This paper mainly analyzes its negative effects and puts forward feasible countermeasures to solve this problem step by step.
Intergenerational education can be divided into complete intergenerational education and incomplete intergenerational education. Complete intergenerational education means that parents are separated from their children for a long time, and their children's life and education are entirely borne by their ancestors. This form is mainly in rural areas, because some parents work outside the home all the year round, and their children have to be raised by their ancestors; Incomplete intergenerational education refers to the temporary separation of parents and children. For example, parents in cities are temporarily taken care of by the elderly for work reasons, or grandparents live with their parents to raise their children together. At this time, in the process of getting along with children, grandparents will also have a certain influence on children in some ways, so we call it incomplete intergenerational education.
Second, the disadvantages brought by intergenerational education.
It is true that intergenerational education has its reasonable side, such as rich experience in raising children for the elderly, which helps to narrow the scope? Generation gap? Gap, reduce the burden of young parents, etc. However, the author believes that intergenerational education also has many disadvantages, mainly as follows:
(A) easy to lead to excessive doting on children.
Grandparents will spoil their children more than their parents and will do everything tirelessly for them. Old people will try their best to meet their children's excessive demands. This kind of overindulgence will cause many problems.
1. Life: All the problems in life are arranged by grandparents. Children don't need to consider any problems, just wait for enjoyment, resulting in less common sense of life and poor self-care ability; Excessive satisfaction of children's material needs, excessive inhalation of nutrition, poor physique and little exercise make children's physical fitness poor, and with the passage of time, people will become more and more aware of the influence of physical fitness on study, life, work and even personality.
2. Ability: On the one hand, children have poor frustration ability and poor problem-solving ability. Because children are used to their grandparents' parents listening to their own opinions in everything, when they leave home and face different opinions from themselves, they often feel at a loss and complain about others instead of thinking and seeking solutions to problems; On the other hand, doting leads to poor independence of children. Children are contracted by grandparents, so they don't need to think and solve problems by themselves. Once they need to face problems alone, they will become helpless.
3. Personality: I am aloof and self-centered. Because in the family, the child is the center, and grandparents turn around him. Once you leave the family and enter the society, it is easy to lead to emotional loss and even go astray after finding that you are not the focus of attention. In addition, doting leads to selfishness, children are used to being taken care of, and there is no concept of caring for others at all. So, although the old people have paid a lot or even all of themselves for their children, it is very likely that they will eventually raise one? Baiwenhang? .
(2) Hinder children's intellectual development.
For the elderly with higher education, the negative impact may be smaller. For the elderly with low education level, the task of educating children is beyond their power. Because they can't keep up with the rhythm of the information age, they don't understand the standards and requirements of modern society for talents, lack the sense of the times ahead, have no strong concept of early education, and have no scientific understanding of the characteristics of children's physical and mental development. They educate their grandchildren with outdated concepts and routines, and experience replaces science in the process of education. They cannot develop children's intelligence correctly, timely and effectively, which leads to the decline of children's education quality.
The most prominent thing is that children are at the most curious stage at this time and will ask all kinds of questions. Some questions, such as common sense of life, are easy to solve, but when children ask about scientific knowledge or other knowledge (such as some questions in 100 thousand why), the elderly may not be able to answer because of their narrow knowledge. At this time, if they don't help their children solve problems, or rudely criticize them for not asking so many questions, or make up some answers to mislead them in a perfunctory way, it is likely to lead to the children's enthusiasm being reduced, their thirst for knowledge, their curiosity about the world, their innovation in things and their desire to explore the secrets of the world. This will stifle children's nature, hinder their intellectual development and have a far-reaching impact on their future. Once the best education period is missed, many problems presented by children will be more difficult to solve.
(3) It is easy to form children's bad habits.
Suhomlinski said:? Every moment, when you see a child, you see yourself; While you are educating your children, you are also educating yourself and testing your personality. ? This shows that parents' words and deeds, lifestyle, behavior habits and value orientation will have a profound impact on children's living habits, labor habits and moral habits.
Children are at the beginning of life, which is the key age to cultivate good behavior habits. However, children of this age group have poor self-control ability. If parents do not pay attention to training, it is easy to develop bad behavior habits, which will cause irreparable defects for the healthy growth of children in the future. In intergenerational education, grandparents' parents have mixed feelings about the cultivation of their children's behavior habits.
Many grandparents' parents, especially the elderly without higher education, have a more worrying negative impact on their children in this respect. For example, some old people have bad behaviors such as spitting and littering, which are likely to be remembered by children, and children have the strongest sense of imitation, so they are likely to take these behaviors as their own learning objects, which has brought great negative effects to children. Not only the influence of living habits, but also the negative influence of value orientation and concept may affect a child's life.
(4) It is easy to cause contradictions in family education.
Grandparents do have certain advantages in educating their grandchildren because of their long-term work experience, rich life experience, a lot of social experience and a lot of experience in educating their children, while their parents have relatively high education level, more modern concepts and more theoretical knowledge in educating their children.
Due to the differences in social experience, education level, background of the times and lifestyle, grandparents and fathers have the differences mentioned above, which leads to many differences and differences in the theory and content, standards, emphasis and specific methods of family education between grandparents and fathers. Without effective communication, it will easily lead to contradictions in family education. In family education, everyone goes his own way. Without a unified educational method, children are at a loss.