1. Ethics education with filial piety as the core
Confucius said, "Disciples are filial, and younger brothers are younger. In short, love the masses, be good at performance, and spare no effort to study literature. " Thus, "moral education" is in the first place, and "filial piety" is the core of ancient family education in China.
2, the cultivation of comprehensive knowledge and skills
Mainly parenting education, that is to say, enlightenment education in childhood, to cultivate life skills and basic etiquette norms. Then there are some unique family skills of hereditary families.
3. World education
Ancient families attached importance to the education of children's determination, and thought that determination was the basis of self-cultivation and a powerful driving force for human behavior.
Family education classics (family guidance):
Yan Family Instructions by Yan Zhitui in Sui Dynasty —— The earliest monograph on family education in China.
In Yan Family Training, firstly, reading and being a man are the core of family training, secondly, the correct life idol is selected, and the principle of family education is re-established.
The contents of the book basically meet the needs of Confucian scholars in feudal society to educate their children and grandchildren, and put forward some practical educational methods and ideas, as well as a new concept of practical talent training that advocates "governing the country and managing the family well", which inherits and develops the traditional educational thought of "sincerity, sincerity, self-cultivation, keeping the family in order, governing the country and leveling the world" with the aim of "respecting human relations".
Ways and means of ancient family education;
1, teach students in accordance with their aptitude, step by step.
Because people's qualifications are different, if you want to train talents, you must teach them in accordance with their aptitude. Gradual teaching method appeared very early. In the Western Zhou Dynasty, aristocratic families had a set of procedures for arranging education according to their children's age.
2, lead by example, imperceptibly.
Laozi's so-called "don't talk and don't teach" is the subtle education carried out by his own behavior. Yan Zhitui widely used the method of example in family education, and most of his children were unconsciously educated in activities.
3, exhort and guide, temper justice with mercy.
People who are good at teaching their disciples are not only admonishing, but also paying attention to persuading their children and admonishing righteousness in emotional blending. Of course, this kind of education was not entirely in ancient families, and there was the idea of "filial son under the stick", which is not advocated in today's society.
Parents usually use the model of elders to regulate, instill what parents think is right, and ignore their own ideas. At present, this phenomenon still exists, and it is also a problem worthy of parents' reflection.