Xiaohua's temperament has suddenly changed since she entered junior high school. She is no longer a docile little cotton-padded jacket, and she no longer has any communication with her parents. She shuts herself in after school every day.

Xiaohua's parents are busy with work every day. Although they know Xiaohua has changed, it should only be regarded as adolescent rebellion. It will be fine after this stage, so don't take them seriously.

Some time ago, the mid-term exam ended, and Xiaohua's grades plummeted. Her mother casually said a few words to her, and Xiaohua slammed the door impatiently and shut herself in the bedroom.

When dinner was ready, my mother repeatedly asked her to come out for dinner, but she threw out a hard sentence: "Don't eat, don't bother me." Grandma sympathized with her granddaughter and said earnestly, "How can you be a child without eating?" Grandma did it ... "Before grandma finished, Xiaohua interrupted her and shouted angrily," Eat and eat, and you will know how to eat. Why don't you die? "Say that finish mercilessly shut the door.

Grandma and mom didn't expect Xiaohua to say such a thing, and they were shocked at once. Grandma almost collapsed and kept saying, "How did this child become like this?"

Many people say that today's children are used to their parents' inappropriateness, poor sensitivity and tolerance. When they are educated, they can neither be light nor heavy. The hope of the whole family became hopeless, even desperate. What should we do?

In fact, education has never been achieved overnight, let alone a set of methods, because children's growth process is staged, and the characteristics of each stage are different, and the education methods are different, especially when children are in a rebellious period.

The first rebellious period: 2-3 years old, some people call it "terrible 3 years old". During this period, children's autonomy gradually formed, and they began to have self-esteem, possessiveness, willfulness and arrogance, often self-centered.

The second rebellious period: 9- 10 years old. During this period, children will feel that they have grown up and are unwilling to let their parents call their birth names and hold their hands. At the same time, they may show dependence, crying and irrationality.

The third rebellious period: 12- 18 years old. This period is what we often call the rebellious period of youth. Children will become very grumpy, willful and paranoid, especially when 13- 14 years old, and they like to fight against their families. See your parents as enemies. This situation may last for two or three years.

The period of hating the rich is actually the awakening of children's self-awareness and consciousness. With the development of brain and thinking, children will have some of their own cognition and ideas, but they don't know how to express them correctly. If parents interfere too much, children will have resentment, and in the long run, they will have hatred for their parents.

Many people think that the period of hating the rich will last for two or three years, and it will be all right after that, so they don't respond positively and let their children develop, and what's more, they are even more violent than children. Children and parents are against each other, either scolding or fighting.

This will only make children more and more disappointed with their parents, and the parent-child relationship will become more and more alienated. Children who grow up in this way will not be filial in the future, and their parents are likely to have a miserable life in their later years, and ultimately they will suffer.

1) Be a good friend of children.

As parents, we should not condescend, let alone use feudal paternalism in children's education. In fact, parents are not only children's relatives, but also children's intimate friends. They should meet both material needs and psychological needs.

For example, listen carefully to your child's words, understand his real thoughts, and listen to his opinions or suggestions. Even if you don't agree, don't deny it immediately, but exchange opinions. Water trees and roots, teach people to teach their hearts, and think about what children think, so that children will be willing to get close to you.

2) Understand and tolerate children.

To err is human, let alone to be a minor child. It is normal to make mistakes. Parents should know how to guide education correctly, understand and tolerate their children, instead of beating and cursing. This will only make children feel that they have nothing to do, and will also increase their hatred for their parents.

Although children at this stage have self-awareness and their own ideas, they are not very mature, and some cognition and ideas are often naive. Parents should help their children correctly understand their own shortcomings, not confrontation.

3) Respect children

Both boys and girls need to be respected, so parents should never keep their children as "pets" and children should not blindly learn from their mistakes. In the long run, children will feel that they are not respected and stand on the opposite side of their parents.

Therefore, parents must give their children enough sense of participation, and everything at home must be discussed with their children. If they agree with their parents, their opinions will prevail. If they disagree, they can discuss it again. Only when parents know how to respect their children will children respect their parents, thus bringing the parent-child relationship closer.

4) Don't criticize children in public.

A true story, a very bitter mother, placed too much hope on her son and showed extreme hatred of iron not to produce. Once, my son forgot a simple English word, and my mother sneered in public; "I knew you wouldn't, how could you? If you can, everyone will. "

The son bowed his head in shame. At this moment, what is the child's young mind like? Cold to the bone? Tears welled up? Shame? The mother's self-centered revenge words completely ignored her son's need for face and respect.

Due to the long-term inferiority complex, the child suffered from head tremor. He is very nervous, afraid of saying the wrong thing, afraid of being looked down upon, afraid of being laughed at for doing something wrong, and his mother regrets it now. So parents must give their children face when they are outside.

In addition to the above emotional communication education, parents themselves should set an example, influence their children with practical actions, and set an example. For example, respect the privacy of others, including the privacy of children; Handle things calmly and don't be aggressive; Be polite and loving to your elders, and don't quarrel and abuse in front of your children.

Every child's growth process is more or less rebellious. What matters is how parents accompany their children through this period. I hope this article can help parents and let their children grow up healthily and sunshine!

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