After reading the book Family Education by Chen Heqin, I know "How to be a parent and how to educate children?" This is a knowledge that needs to be accumulated with enthusiasm, patience and sincerity. The book expounds the life education of children from waking to sleep, from laughing to crying, from eating to sleeping, from health to illness, from treating others, from playing to learning. I have benefited a lot.
How to educate children in the family is a very serious and complicated problem for our parents. As the saying goes, children's first teacher is their parents, so the quality of family education will directly affect their development and growth. It is as important as school education, and both are indispensable. Therefore, family education plays a vital role in children's growth.
Today's children are smart, lively, generous, competitive, confident and easy to accept new things. However, in the face of difficulties and setbacks, they often seem helpless and don't listen to others' advice. Now most children are only children, and parents love their children very much. This kind of love will turn into doting, which is not good for children's growth. "Children are really difficult to raise." "Children are not only difficult to raise, but also difficult to teach." In family education, the author provides many methods to raise children, which are relatively easy to master, and how to educate children is a deep knowledge.
It is mentioned in the book that "parents should set an example". Children's observation and learning ability are sometimes beyond imagination. Inadvertently, we teach our children one thing and do another, so that she will look at you with suspicion and ask, "Why can dad do this and mom do that?" , I can't? "
Her view of right and wrong will be confused, and she will be skeptical about what you say in the future and will not be so obedient. Therefore, setting an example is very important, but setting an example is very simple, but it is not easy to implement. We should get rid of bad habits and be more competent as parents in living habits and dealing with people.
Selfishness seems to be a common problem of children nowadays. At home, it's best to leave her favorite food only for others to eat, and refuse to give her favorite toys to others to play with, and she has a bad habit of losing her temper easily. Therefore, it is mentioned in the book that educating children should teach them to get rid of selfishness, not to fight for too much food, not to possess toys, to show kindness, to teach children to put themselves in others' shoes, to guide children to develop selfless habits, and to realize that sharing is happier than monopolization.
The core point of the book is that in family education, parents should understand and respect the laws of children's physical and mental development and advocate "game-style education methods". The author believes that "children are naturally active and take games as their life", so parents should follow this law, "Games are learning, and learning is playing". For example, the author suggests that children should be given the opportunity to mold mud. Children sometimes get dirty when they play with mud, but it can cultivate their creativity and imagination. Compared with today, many children have greatly reduced the time and opportunities for playing and games since they started primary school. How can you not be emotional!
Reflections on family education model essays II.
Before reading the book Family Education, I always thought that good children are always good and bad children are always bad. As for why it is good and why it is not, I haven't delved into it. I think maybe this is my parents' fate. But in fact, this is not life, but education.
Parents are the best role models for children, and parents are always the most important teachers for children. The subtle influence of parents is the greatest influence on children, which is the greatest pressure of parents, so to cultivate and educate children well, we must first start from ourselves.
Many young parents in modern times are selfish. Under the guise of creating rich living conditions for children, they pretend to be willing to pay everything for their children, but in fact they are rarely willing to care more about their children. Children are people, not animals. Animals still need love, let alone children. Now that you have brought him into this world, you have the responsibility to care about and love him. Nowadays, quite a few children are not raised by their parents, but are taken care of by the elderly. Many parents only visit them regularly. In fact, children especially need the care of their parents when they are young. It's not that the elders don't care about them, but that this love is nothing else. I am ashamed to say that before reading this book, I sometimes complain and feel very tired. Seeing others enjoying life smartly, I live a life around my family, always with a small tail around me. Now that I think about it, fortunately, for various reasons, I have to take care of the children alone. If you leave your child with your parents, you will definitely regret it later. In the past, children were too stubborn because they were used to being disobedient by the elderly. Fortunately, the child is still young, and it is not too late to correct it. Don't underestimate the child. Don't think he is very young, as if he doesn't know anything. In fact, he knows everything in his heart, but he just can't say it.
I agree with many viewpoints in this book, and I envy the author for cultivating such excellent children. I have also thought about the methods of educating children mentioned in many books, but they are not so thorough. After reading this book, it can be said that it taught me a meaningful lesson and helped me enlighten my incompetent mother.
Every child is an independent individual and has his own innate emotional characteristics. As far as individual education is concerned, there are no standard educational methods, only those suitable for the characteristics of their children. In fact, every child is a genius and every parent is an artist. I believe that as long as our parents choose the right ways and methods and care and educate their children with their heart, then the children in every family are the best.
After reading the family education model essay 3
Today, my daughter has become a middle school student and entered a special group in society. They are in the transitional period from children to adults, with their unique psychological development characteristics and various psychological problems. Therefore, our family education at this stage is particularly important, which not only has an important impact on children's life, but also has a certain impact on the improvement of the quality of the whole society.
I don't have any experience in children's education, but I just want to express my immature ideas and practices so as to communicate with you, learn from each other's strengths and improve together. Here, I want to talk about my superficial understanding of children's growth education. Since it is so important to do a good job in family education for middle school students, what should our parents do to give their children a good family education?
First, pay attention to the "health" of children. "Health" here refers not only to physical health, but also to children's mental health. It is necessary to cultivate the habit of starting from one's own behavior, overcome the anxiety and fear of suffering, and correct the careless habit; Work and rest on time in life, do your own thing, don't be picky about food, don't spend money indiscriminately, don't be self-centered, and stand up to criticism and setbacks. Improve children's ideological and moral quality, scientific and cultural quality and health quality.
Second, create a good family learning environment for children. At home, I first create a good family study environment for my children and have a relatively independent and quiet study place. Treat children with a normal heart, make friends with children, make children feel at home, dispel the sense of pressure, be willing to tell you something, and be willing to complain to you if you have difficulties; The second is to adopt the method of giving priority to encouragement and supplementing criticism. Spend more time with your children and communicate more. Praise more, encourage more, criticize less and blame less. Everyone is lazy. It is natural for children to play, and so are we adults. After a hard day's work, you also want to have a rest, play cards and chat with friends ... so, you should not blame your children for their playfulness, but encourage them to finish their studies quickly before playing. Check homework from time to time. Check homework to let children know that we are always paying attention to him. Parents have to make sacrifices at some point. Read and watch TV with your children, so that they can feel your care and love. I believe that "there are gains and losses", you will find that your child's heart is close to you, your child will become sensible, and you will find that what you have paid is worthwhile. In the past, my son didn't like to communicate with me and didn't take the initiative to say anything. He didn't know when he asked, and he didn't care. He asked a lot, he slowly observed and learned to think. He always tells me what is happening at school now. The third is to cultivate a sound personality, encourage him to participate in more collective activities and enhance the sense of collective honor. For example, I suggest parents encourage their children to participate in various activities organized by the school, so that children can have a strong team spirit. Because only in activities can children feel the collective strength and their real happiness!
Third, treat children as friends, understand more, praise more, encourage more, criticize less and blame less.
People need to communicate, and parents and children are no exception. I think: if we can find the right time to communicate with our children, get to know each other, put ourselves in their shoes and give them more care, then this kind of effort will definitely pay off. As a child, everyone wants to be the best, but it is impossible to be the first every time. I often say to my children, "We should have no regrets, we should have a clear conscience." I don't want my children to do great things, but I want to do every little thing well. You don't care about the result, but you must pay attention to the process. When a child fails the exam, help him analyze the reasons, find the gap, and don't make similar mistakes in future exam assignments. My purpose has been achieved.
Fourth, actively cooperate with teachers and schools. Teachers are children's knowledge givers and road guides. As parents, we must actively cooperate with teachers and schools to do a good job. Teachers are not saints, nor can they be as perfect as our parents. Teachers want every student to succeed. Imagine that there is only one child at home, and we often feel very tired and it is difficult to educate. There are dozens of children in a class, and the responsibility and difficulty should be imaginable. Only when parents actively cooperate with the school can they form the greatest synergy with the school, help their children grow up and let them get the greatest development.
Fifth, we must first treat children's academic performance correctly. It is every parent's wish to "look forward to a child becoming a dragon and a woman becoming a phoenix". In today's era when educational achievements are measured by the enrollment rate, the essence of family education is often concealed by academic achievements. Most parents only care about the scores of middle school students, but don't know how to guide middle school students to make continuous progress and improve themselves in their studies, so as to succeed. In fact, for every student, not all students have good academic performance and high test scores, and they will certainly experience success. Success or failure depends on students' attitude towards the test results. Therefore, parents should tell their children that they should be satisfied as long as they listen attentively in class, study hard and work hard, no matter how many points they get in the final exam, as long as they are better than before. Because progress is to surpass yourself, and surpassing yourself is a kind of success.
Sixth, let children learn to be independent. By being close to nature and contacting society, we have broadened our horizons, cultivated our sentiments, exercised our bodies, tempered our strong character and cultivated our love for nature and human beings. He gradually learned a lot about being a man, truly realized the value of nature and life, felt the mystery of life, and began to pursue his own ideals.
Of course, parents also need to study, either to find a book on education or to study. Learning keeps pace with the times, the child is growing, her concept will change, the requirements of educational concept will change, and the requirements of the times will change. I like the exchange and learning platform created by Dafang, Ruisi and other educational institutions for parents. I like to listen to lectures by masters of Chinese studies and educational experts in Hubei Library. I like to go back to Beijing psychology class to be a student. I like to get together with parents to talk about interesting things about my children. I like to read some good books recommended by netizens online. I like to leave some time and space to think about my children's things ... Because of my children, I have the motivation and gain again. As parents, we can actually grow up and make progress with our children.
Watching children change day by day, as a parent, I see it in my eyes and like it in my heart. I know that every progress she has made is inseparable from the teachers' earnest teaching, the selfless help of her classmates and the hard work of her parents. I have reason to believe that with our company and the scientific guidance of teachers, the children will grow up healthily and she will be our pride!
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