"I will always love my son,

It feels good to be back home。 "

Single mothers are a special group in society, with a large number and in a weak position. Single mothers not only have to face the double pressure from material and spirit, but also have the obligation to educate their children, which is of great responsibility. Especially for single mothers with sons, because of gender differences, there are many inconveniences in communication and life, and the secretion of more androgen during the growth of boys makes the contradiction easier and more intense. So how should a single mother educate and guide her son?

[Breeze] [Breeze] 1. Don't shy away from your own marital problems, always tell your son clearly that his parents love him to increase his inner security.

When children begin to be sensible, they should try to objectively explain why they are divorced, avoid taking personal feelings, and don't bring the historical problem of marital conflict into their son's education. It is necessary to tell children that people will inevitably encounter contradictions after marriage, but some contradictions can be solved and some cannot be solved. If you can't solve the contradiction but still live together, it will make everyone feel very painful, so you can only choose to separate.

Most importantly, a single mother must tell her son that although she and her father are no longer in love, they still love their children, which will never change. Remember to help children recall some past interactions with their father, so that their son can feel that his father actually has him in his heart.

[Breeze] [Breeze ]2. No matter what causes the divorce, don't slander your father in front of your children.

The reasons for divorce are very complicated, and many mothers have suffered great grievances or even injuries and have no choice but to divorce. No matter what causes the parents to divorce, remember not to slander the father in front of the children and not to let the children have hatred in their hearts. Even if his father is really bad, you should give the child a reasonable and acceptable explanation. Never let a child feel inferior because of his image.

[Breeze] [Breeze] 3. Try to communicate and negotiate with the father of the child to ensure the normal communication between father and son.

No matter what emotional needs children show, it is really indispensable for children, especially boys, to need father's love in the process of growing up. Fatherly love can make a son more masculine, bright, strong and brave, and can also avoid the Oedipus plot caused by his son living with his mother for a long time and only getting along with his mother alone. If we can ensure regular and normal communication between father and son through consultation, we can minimize the harm caused by divorce to our son.

[Breeze] [Breeze ]4. When the father is unable or unwilling to have normal contact with his son, he must let the child contact with male relatives or friends and increase gender awareness education.

Because of physical reasons or personal special circumstances, the father can't meet his son often. In this case, the mother must let the children get in touch with male elders who can imitate and learn from them, such as the children's uncles and uncles. And consciously try to choose a male teacher for his son during the cram school. Although these men can't stay with their sons every day to influence them, their frequent appearance and communication can enhance their sons' male consciousness and be of great benefit to their character development.

[Breeze] [Breeze ]5. Don't spoil your children too much because of psychological compensation, but love your son especially moderately.

Many single mothers feel that their sons lack the pity of their fathers in family life, so they give their children too much love. Some single mothers even regard the growth of their children as their whole life, but ignore their own living arrangements. Don't overcompensate and spoil your child, treat your child's life like a child in a normal family. Material compensation and connivance can not replace children's spiritual deficiency, on the contrary, they may be the source of willfulness and violence. Children should properly participate in family affairs, and sometimes they can properly participate in family economic opinions. In this process, sons will understand your difficulties, and when they are adults, they will also have the heart to feed back.

Breeze 6. Don't take it out on the growth of your son and father simply and rudely.

Contrary to overindulgence and overprotection, some mothers simply and rudely impose their serious negative feelings on their sons because of their unhappy lives. Coupled with the double pressure of work and life, the emotional pressure of being single and the pressure of public opinion, single mothers may be irritable and easy to beat and scold their sons, making their children live in panic all day, and their personality development is seriously inhibited, forming such bad qualities as timidity, loneliness, stubbornness and self-distrust. Reluctant to go home for fear of punishment and looking for "warmth" outside, it is easy to be dragged down by bad guys and embark on the road of crime. Therefore, single mothers should not be simple and rude when educating their children, but should pay attention to correct guidance.

[Breeze] [Breeze ]7. Pay special attention to cultivating the son's sense of independence and promoting his foreign and interpersonal communication.

Most single mothers live alone with their children, who are their only support, and everything that mothers do for their children in life is appropriate. I'm always afraid that something will happen to my child, and I always like to limit my child's activities. In fact, this practice will make my children lack independent consciousness and easily form an "Oedipus plot". Once I leave my mother, I don't know how to face the difficulties and setbacks in life. Therefore, mothers need to let go of their hands and feet, let their children undertake some things independently, and cultivate their sense of independence.

In addition, children in single-parent families are often sensitive, always subconsciously feel that they are out of place with others, and even think that they feel the discrimination and prejudice of others, so they tend to become introverted, depressed, inferior and even withdrawn. Encourage him to communicate with foreign countries and form a friendly circle of friends.

After all, in the future, he will need more independent and confident personality, perseverance and the ability to communicate with others. It is of great benefit to him to lay a solid foundation in childhood and cultivate a strong and kind character.

Breeze, breeze. Pay more attention to your moral cultivation and create a good family culture atmosphere for your children.

As the only fixed partner in the process of son's growth, single mother plays a vital role in the growth of children. Pay great attention to your words and deeds, and don't show bad habits such as lying, breaking your word and being irresponsible in front of your children. According to children's hobbies, if economic conditions permit, we often take our children to bookstores, parks, museums and movies, and do interesting or meaningful things with them, so as to create a good cultural atmosphere for them, so that they can get rid of the pain of lacking father's love and companionship to the maximum extent and develop a cheerful and confident character.

Boys who grow up with single mothers are bound to lack emotional experience because of the lack of father's presence and participation in the growing environment. The educational methods should be more planned and scientific to protect their healthy growth.

[Breeze] "One day Dapeng rose with the wind,

[Breeze] Soaring in Wan Li. "

I hope

[Breeze] Teenagers all over the world

[Breeze] Everything is fine.