The way a child is raised is related to whether the child can become an excellent person in the future. However, in raising children, parents often have different views and ways, which leads to contradictions between the two sides.

Teacher Li Meijin pointed out that on the issue of parenting, couples should follow three principles:

Take care of the children, one side is in charge, and the other side does not intervene.

Because everyone's growing background is different, educational ideas and methods are also different. If husband and wife educate their children together and use their own tricks, your differences will easily confuse the children, and the children will not know what to do.

And your ever-changing educational methods will lead to the damage of parents' authority. When the child sees that you don't listen to anyone, he will firmly think that you are both wrong, which will lead to the child not listening to anyone!

In the variety Diary of a Freshman, Liu Xuan and Elvis Presley are two people with completely different educational ideas.

Because Liu Xuan is an Olympic champion, she firmly believes that only hard work and hard work can make her an excellent person. Therefore, she has always adopted the policy of "iron blood" to correct her son and is very strict with him.

On the contrary, Wang Tao believes in Buddhism more. Wang Tao thinks it is unnecessary to be too strict with children, so he is a good man. But for Liu Xuan's educational model, he never told me what to do, but firmly centered on his wife's educational model, and he played an auxiliary role.

In one issue, when Liu Xuan was helping her son write, there was a contradiction between mother and son. Correct crying and refuse to write. Elvis Presley immediately stepped in, told Liu Xuan to have a rest and offered to help the children write.

In the process of tutoring, he made various associations with each word, which made the new words lively and interesting and aroused the children's interest.

Secondly, in the process of correcting writing, Wang Tao constantly praised her son. The mother was confused by two pages of new words, and the child finished writing in a blink of an eye.

In the face of the contradiction between mother and child, Wang Tao did not accuse his wife of being too strict, but gave her a considerate rest and took the child over for counseling.

In this process, Wang Tao not only maintained the authority of wife education, but also solved the problem in his own way.

Disciplining children is actually a cooperative process, with one party leading and the other assisting. Parents must determine who is in charge and who is in charge.

Now that you have made a decision, you should grasp it well. If there are differences, we should solve them behind our children's backs and reunite.

Don't argue in front of the children that Xiao S has been married for so many years. The news of domestic violence is always constant. In the reality show "Adventure Life", Xiao S played a video of his youngest daughter's birthday. After singing the birthday song, I made a wish and said, "I hope the three of us will never get married."

Xiao S asked her, "They all have boyfriends, but what if you don't?" Xu Xi 'en said, "It doesn't matter, because I don't want to get married."

Whether Xiao S has experienced domestic violence or not, the truth is unknown, but judging from the children's performance, they are really hurt by their parents' quarrels and even affect their feelings.

Parents quarreling in front of their children, especially domestic violence, actually do great harm to their children. Children are insecure and always on tenterhooks for fear that their parents will disagree and quarrel again.

Children who live in this environment for a long time always suffer from loss and gain, which will cause great psychological harm.

Therefore, if there are problems between husband and wife, we must choose to shut up in front of the children, and all problems must be solved behind the scenes.

Don't criticize the old man in front of the children.

There is such a short story that the child asked his father, "What are you doing with a basket?"

Father replied, "I'll carry your grandmother to the back hill and throw it away."

The child said, "Dad, remember to leave the basket. When you are old, I will use it to carry you. "

Parents are role models for their children. If you want your child to be filial and have a grateful heart, please be yourself first.

In family life, young parents and the older generation will inevitably have various contradictions and differences because of their different concepts. Young parents must remember not to talk about the old people's right and wrong in front of their children.

The child seems to be ignorant. In fact, he listens to everything you say and keeps it in mind. These words will be internalized into his thinking mode. Slowly, children will agree with your disrespect for the elderly and your various criticisms of the elderly. He will also imitate your behavior, showing no respect for the elderly and parents.

How can such a child know how to be grateful!

In the process of raising children, parents must pay great attention to their behavior. Perhaps your careless words and small actions will have a far-reaching impact on the growth of children.

The more in front of children, the more cautious parents should be in order to educate their children to become excellent people.