The first trick: set an example. After her daughter was born, her parents-in-law were so happy that they spoiled her all day. My husband and I are worried that our daughter will be spoiled. In the education of our daughter, we have "three chapters" with our parents-in-law: pampering moderately and filial piety first. My parents-in-law accepted our parenting style and actively cooperated with us to teach our daughter.
When doing housework, what my husband and I say to my in-laws the most is: "Mom and Dad, you should rest quickly. Leave these tasks to us!" " "When my in-laws rest, my husband will help them rub their backs and shoulders; At the dinner table, my husband and I often put our favorite dishes in bowls; My mother-in-law's arm is injured. When I wash her feet at night, I will help her carry a pot of hot water ... My young daughter will imitate our behavior: when her mother-in-law takes medicine, her daughter will pass the pills; When my father-in-law's leg hurts, my daughter holds a small fist to help.
The second measure: often tell allusions. My daughter likes listening to stories since she was a child. My hometown, Dongtai City, Jiangsu Province, has a beautiful legend of "Yong Dong and the Seven Fairies". We told our daughter the story that Yong Dong betrayed herself to bury her father. After listening to this, she wiped her tears and said, "I gave Yong Dong the money in the piggy bank so that he could have the money to bury his father!" " When our daughter was studying at Saint Amethyst, we told her the story of filial piety that "at the age of nine, we can warm our seats". When we take our daughter out to travel, we don't forget to take her to visit the scenic spots with the legend of filial piety.
I remember that on my 35th birthday, I received my first birthday present from my daughter. It was a picture of a sleeping mother sitting at the cradle, shaking a paper fan for her sleeping daughter. The daughter said, "Last year, you took me to visit Dunhuang Mogao Grottoes. Before the mural of "Parents' Love Changed", I looked at the mural and listened to the tour guide's explanation:' A mother pushed a four-wheeled stroller and two safety belts stopped the car to prevent the baby from accidentally climbing out of the car. "I think, on my mother's birthday, I will send her a picture I drew. Thank you, dear mother! "
The third measure: experience the socialization of filial piety. In our big family, it is common to take children with relatives on holidays. During the long vacation, I will take my daughter and stay in my house for a few days during menstruation. Living in the countryside during menstruation, my mother-in-law was paralyzed by illness. There are five grandchildren in junior high school and high school during menstruation. After school, they will compete to take care of the old people lying in bed. The daughter quickly integrated into it. They looked after her menstrual mother-in-law, peeled fruit for her to eat, and gathered around to listen to her stories. My daughter told me: "The old woman praised her brother and sister for their filial piety. Sister Xiao Qi also bought a walkman for the old woman with the prize money she won in the math contest. "
When my daughter grows up, she will visit relatives in winter and summer vacations. At a relative's house, the daughter feeds her second aunt with Parkinson's disease; Go to the field with my cousins to help my aunt water the crops; Learn to cook with cousins; Go to the welfare home to help the elderly clean up.
These "three tricks" are the magic weapon for us to educate our children and inherit filial piety. Not long ago, my family won the honorary certificate of "honoring the elderly" issued by the relevant departments in Shijiazhuang, and my daughter immediately announced a "major decision": "In the future, I will contract my grandmother to cut her toenails!"