Seeing this news, the first impression that pops up in my mind is, how did this happen again? The other one explains a lot of problems. In recent years, minors frequently use violence against their parents. Not only minors, but also high-profile flyers that premeditated to kill their mothers, Peking University. Since when, children's psychology has become so distorted, and how should children's education be solved?
1, whose fault is it that the girl killed her mother?
After this incident came out, many people talked about it. Some people say that this mother dotes on her children too much, so she educates her children in this way. Is it really just mother's problem? Judging from the child's growth experience, the role of the father is basically equal to absence in the child's life. Everyone is talking about the improper discipline of mothers to their children, but what is the appropriate scope of discipline? Why didn't anyone discuss what responsibility the father should bear in this matter? Is it true that once a child has a problem, it must be the mother's problem? Does the child belong to the mother alone? It's the first time to be a mother, and no one tells her what to do. When she had a headache because of her children's education, no one helped her share it. How helpless and helpless she was when she chose to die at the hands of her daughter.
2. Don't let public opinion become the original sin for children to retaliate against their mothers?
After this incident, many people blamed their parents' education, especially their mothers' education methods. At this time, many children with distorted mentality will think, you see, everyone thinks it's mom's problem, then his approach must be correct and we can learn. But put yourself in the shoes, is it really that the mother is unwilling to discipline her children? No, it's not. Most mothers won't let their children make mistakes, but the difference is that some mothers know how to discipline their children. Like her mother, she doesn't understand. When her discipline is ineffective, her mother will be depressed. Often at this time, she needs the role of father to cooperate with her mother to do the children's work. Psychological analysis shows that in family education, the effect of strict mother and loving father is often much better than that of loving mother strict father and parents' unilateral education.
3. How to solve the education problem?
I think the education of children can't rely solely on parents' education. The whole society should work together to create a social environment suitable for children's physical and mental development, such as controlling some violent factors in games and bad factors in TV dramas. We should also popularize legal education, start from the law, stop from the heart, strengthen moral and cultural education, and let traditional filial piety return to people's hearts.