Professor Li Meijin is a 6-year-old child-rearing expert. The child was born in 10 after the mother worked hard. After giving birth, we need to be responsible for the child, and we need to teach a lot. Let me take a look at Professor Li Meijin's 6-year-old parenting dry goods with you.

Professor Li Meijin's 6-year-old parenting dry goods 1 1, how to correct children's wrong behavior;

When he does something wrong, don't yell at him to correct him;

Because you make a hullabaloo about, he will reinforce the impression of this matter, so he is afraid of making such a mistake again.

And he doesn't understand why you make a hullabaloo about. On the contrary,

He did something wrong, you ignored it completely, pretended not to see it, and he passed.

When he does the right thing, you will praise him strongly.

You said, oh, you are so smart today. Hey, you are so clever in this matter that he will know that it is right.

2. Who takes the children to sleep at night:

People's psychological development is from sensory perception to memory to thinking, and the earliest development in this process is feeling;

When he is crying, whether you come in time or not determines the length of his pain.

If we can't read the child, he will have a lot of physical painful memories.

So if you don't raise your own children, you can't go on studying.

3, adolescent parent-child relationship:

As long as the child does not reach puberty, this process will be remedied in time, that is to say, well, one is that you should not worry.

Secondly, be patient with children, because when children grow up,

He will be frivolous, I don't know who is right or wrong,

When you see that he is wrong or that he is not friendly to you,

One thing you must have is tolerance and patience. In this process,

He is in life, and you solve his pain, especially when the child is sick.

When a child does something wrong, and then he gets scared,

That is, as long as he does this, he will slowly,

I still have a good close relationship with you, but don't wait until 12.

4. Important work to reduce the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law:

When a wife gives birth to a child, just bring her mother-in-law, and parents can come and have a look. Hurry back and let her take care of her.

Is her own mother. If she loses her temper, the old man will leave it alone. In this era, the most reasonable thing is that mothers take care of their daughters best.

5. What if busy couples have no time to take care of their children for a long time?

You must find a pair of old people, either grandparents or grandparents, to let him spend his adolescence.

6, why some children can't sit still:

We can find a phenomenon that old people have a lot of time because they are retired.

So he can love a lot, so when he loves more, plus they have no rhythm at this time,

Therefore, the elderly take care of the children. He is close, easy-going and friendly, but he can't sit still.

7. How do old people help children?

Communicate with the elderly more, and then affirm the hard work of the elderly.

Let the old people know how to say it and tell the children rich vocabulary and various words.

8. At what age do you go to kindergarten?

I advocate sending it to kindergarten after the age of three.

9. How old is it to live on campus?

Kindergartens and primary schools should never send him to boarding school. I am firmly opposed to boarding in primary schools.

I am firmly opposed to kindergarten boarding system, because it was cultivated one-on-one in early human beings.

If you can't solve his one-on-one relationship, he will have many psychological problems as an adult.

10, how to teach children patience:

Is to teach children emotional vocabulary, such as the word patience. My son taught him patience when he was two years old.

It is because you can't see the word patience in your daily life that a large number of parents don't teach it at all.

So this book tells you that emotional guidance is the most important tool.

For example, my son was drinking big milk at that time, and I cried when I wanted to drink big milk at night, crying badly.

Then I couldn't see it well at this time, so I was so impatient, and then I brought him milk, and then one day I told him,

Because I don't think I can always yell. I just said toot toot. Do you know what patience is? He said I don't know ~

When I say patience, I mean don't cry when big breasts haven't come, that is, give him a definition first and let him know.

1 That day, I said it was over. Did I cry again the next day? Then I said, hey ~ Dad told you about patience yesterday, remember?

Then he cried. He said he wouldn't cry without big breasts ~ Then I said, try to show your patience to your mother.

So he endured, endured hard, and then when his mother came over, I said:

"Look, your son has shown patience. Your son is very powerful and has learned to be patient! "

This is called emotional guidance, so you helped him do it right, because adults should help children grow up.

After you have done the right thing for him, you must tell him that it is right. This is called patience, and it has a definition.

1 1, the root of children's compulsion and anxiety:

You know, every time you yell, it makes him nervous,

What will happen to him easily in the future? It is a kind of tension caused by internal organs.

So obsessive-compulsive disorder and anxiety disorder are often not handled well when we talk about anus, that is, he is 2~3 years old at this stage.

12, how to deal with children crying:

So in our family, if the child cries, although we can't satisfy him, I will say:

Dad knows that you are in a hurry, and parents can understand that you are under great pressure. Are you sad at the moment?

Because of this, there is an academic term called reaction emotion.

So are children. As long as he nods, he may be in a good mood.

Is that he can know that someone cares about him and someone understands his feelings.

Unconditional love is not equal to unconditional satisfaction. In the face of children's mistakes, you can't lose love.

13, the role of parents in educating children:

Special emphasis on loving father and strict mother!

14, the child was bullied:

First, fight back, exercise children's strength, strengthen their physique and fight back, but there must be principles, such as not hitting the eyes, giving up when you fall to the ground, and having a bottom line.

Second, don't worry, let him grow up slowly.

I think children will get used to being bullied when they grow up. In the future, when he enters the society,

When he meets something again, he won't think I'm so kind to you. Why are you doing this?

Moreover, we will find that some people were particularly well protected and educated by you in their early years.

This kind of child has no ability to protect himself when he grows up.

Professor Li Meijin's 6-year-old parenting dry goods 2 1. Children's problems are often created by adults. Every psychological or behavioral problem of children must be related to parents' behavior and parents' education methods.

2. It's best for the mother to raise the child before she is one or even three years old. Man is helpless at the beginning of his life, and all his needs and happiness are closely related to the dependents.

When the baby can't turn over, every time you respond to his crying, if you take care of it properly, the baby will remember your smell, your voice and your appearance. When he started to recognize people from 4 months to half a year old, you kept appearing beside him. At this time, attachment began to form, and recognizing people was the earliest emotional phenomenon, so parents could gain psychological capital to raise their children.

If a person is not treated well when he is young, you can't expect him to treat the society well when he is an adult.

4. A truly loving upbringing must be nagging, that is, having something to say. It's called family rearing. When I grow up, I am introverted, and I like to do things but I don't like to talk. He raised it for a long time in his early years, and he must have lost that nagging in his ears. This is the lack of family support.

5. Say "no" before the age of six. The child is 3.4 years old. Sometimes he has trouble with his parents, who are very determined. Children roll on the ground at most, but when they are 14 years old, he has several ways to make trouble with you. One is to run away from home, and the other is to commit suicide by jumping off a building. Therefore, before the age of 6, parents must be firm and do what they say, so that children can know that their parents are trustworthy people from an early age!

6. Prevent children from being grumpy, be self-centered, and family members should form a circular love for their children. During the upbringing before the age of six, and during adolescence, families should not focus on their children. When the mother feeds the child, the father should focus on the mother, not the child. Mom said to have a rest, and dad took the children there, including when grandparents were here. The same is true of love that forms a cycle.

7. The most important time to educate children is before the age of six. Children before the age of six are plastic, and plasticity is the best opportunity for education. The first six years when parents take their children seriously are equivalent to the first step of education, and the relationship between parenting education will be smooth in the future.

8. Please ask parents to be more patient with their children and less blaming them. There is a process in raising children. Parents should be psychologically prepared, not anxious and nervous, be bold and calm when things happen, think more about solutions, lose their temper less, be more patient and blame less. Don't magnify the children's problems.

9. Children can't chase after feeding if they don't eat. First of all, it's too indulgent for him. Secondly, it's bad for his health. When the child is over one year old, he can be trained to eat independently, and then his mother will feed him a few mouthfuls at the end. If you are older, call him at dinner. He didn't come, it was out of date, so he waited for the next meal and didn't dare to leave.

10. If the child does something wrong, try not to hit him. Parents should be speechless when children do something wrong. If you don't resist hitting him, then he will know that hitting him is your bottom line. Next time you make a mistake, you won't take it seriously. I feel like I'm your child and you can't kill me.

1 1. When parents find that their children are not dominant in one aspect of learning, parents need to study whether their children have other advantages and develop their own specialties. Since God has given them talent, let them find jobs! .

12. With these words, children are getting better and better. What mom didn't expect, you thought of it; I like the way you smile; What you said is very reasonable, go ahead; I feel very happy with you; It is clever of you to solve this matter in your own way. No matter what happens, mom and dad will accompany you.

13. Advocate strict mother and loving father in family education. Parents should be lenient and strict, mothers should be strict, and fathers should be patient and easy-going, so that children are not under much pressure.

14. If the child has a problem, don't blame the child for the first time. Parents should first reflect on themselves. For example, children contradict their parents. First, parents have not established good family norms. Second, parents don't respect their children.

15. Good family rules are established from the dining table. When the parents cook, the children are responsible for clearing the table, placing dishes and chopsticks, and arranging seats for their elders and peers. Parents should sit at the table before their children can serve. Parents should move chopsticks first, and then children should move chopsticks. After eating, they will say to the elders on the table, please eat slowly after I finish eating, and then leave the table.