Get out of the misunderstanding of love
A mother talks about such a thing with a heavy heart: at ordinary times, she regards her son as a treasure and gives him all delicious and fun things to enjoy the satisfaction of "exclusive". Once I took my son to a friend's house for dinner, because I caught a chopstick, my son lost his temper and shouted, "Don't eat it, it's mine!" " These are all mine! "I cried and made trouble on the spot, which made me very embarrassed. Mother said sadly, "strangers can still repay their kindness." I love my son so much and do my best for him, but I still can't change a bite of rice in the end. Why is my son so cold? "
In fact, children's fickleness is that "illness" is on themselves and "root" is on their parents. There are two misunderstandings in "love education": First, parents abstract the dogma of love to their children, ignoring the enlightenment of love to their children from the little things around them. When the children touch the grass with their hands, we always pull them away and say, "Don't get your hands dirty." When children want to take care of injured animals, we say coldly, "Put it down quickly, there are too many bacteria." In this way, rich educational resources are lost from us, and children's feelings are gradually polished to a single barrenness. Secondly, the doting of parents suppresses the natural growth of love in children's hearts, and makes children live in self-happiness and narcissism, which deviates from the track of correct understanding. Children who grow up in this environment only know how to accept love, but lack the understanding and feeling of love, lose the ability to distinguish love, and become unable to cherish and pay.
Love your son moderately and teach him well.
Children's love is not forced to instill, nor is it cultivated overnight, nor is it bought with unprincipled and irrational doting. It is gradually formed through natural imitation and subtle infiltration. To achieve this effect, the educational methods adopted by parents are particularly important.
First of all, let children understand the love of their parents. Let children know and cherish the "care" of parents and others from an early age, which should be listed as an indispensable content in family education. Many parents mistakenly think that "my parents are good to me" is objective rather than subjective because of the wrong way of giving, so they enjoy the status of acceptance and don't think about the deep feeling of licking their calves hidden behind the act of love. In the long run, love will only be from top to bottom. Parents should seize the opportunity in life, tell their children what love is, why family ties are precious, and how to express love to their families ... Teach the word "love" with practical actions and emotional experiences, and children will naturally resonate psychologically and know how to cherish and appreciate their parents' love.
Secondly, let children learn to give love and master the way to give love. Giving love means teaching children to care for others, help others and cherish all good things. Parents should pay attention to emotional education on weekdays and let their children grow into compassionate and caring people. To achieve this educational effect, parents can grasp the trivial things in daily life for education, such as raising small animals, taking care of sick relatives and making way for the elderly. Let children know that "love" is not an empty slogan and a vague concept, but around all aspects of life; Love is not only confined to parents and children, but also reflected in various relationships between people, people and society, and people and nature.
Suhomlinski, an educator in the former Soviet Union, once said: "Good feelings will never be cultivated in the future if they are not formed in childhood." Love is the foundation of human behavior and the cornerstone of society. It is not only human nature, but also an ability. It can even be said that it is an ability that will affect a child's life. Just as parents try their best to give their children love, teaching their children the ability to love is also for their healthy growth. The education of love is related to the development of children's emotional intelligence, the happy experience and the assurance of the future. For the sake of children's tomorrow, please ask parents to carry out correct love education!