Mao Mao, who used to be cheerful and love to laugh, seems to have changed since she entered primary school. She is often taciturn and doesn't like crowded places. In the words of Mao Mao's mother, children grow up and become more and more disobedient. Every time I meet Mao Mao's mother in the elevator, she will complain to others about Mao Mao's bad behavior. Of course, I won't forget to praise other people's children at the end of my speech, and I never avoid Mao Mao.
Perhaps speaking of which, many people know why Mao Mao has undergone such great changes. In my mother's mind, she is very strict with Mao Mao. I hope he will be sensible and obedient, and completely ignore the other advantages of the child. Maybe it's a mistake for mom that Mao Mao likes to talk and express.
In fact, there are many parents like Mao Mao's mother in life. They take their own requirements as the standard and hope that their children will grow up in this range. However, they forget that children have independent personality and thoughts and should be given enough room for growth. From the perspective of parenting experts, we will find that many parents' bad habits are actually the performance of their children's cleverness.
1, likes to talk and talk back occasionally.
After the age of two, parents will find that their children's language skills have advanced by leaps and bounds, they are no longer as obedient as before, and even talk back to their parents. Indeed, parents can't accept the behavior of their children talking back. At one time, they thought it was impolite and uneducated. Therefore, children will be ordered to correct and will not hesitate to use "violence" to solve problems.
But in fact, talking back also has its good side, which at least shows that the child's language expression is good, his thinking is clear, and he knows how to fight for himself. In this way, talking back is not a bad thing, not to mention a disadvantage. At the very least, it can exercise the child's brain thinking and his language expression ability.
The reason why children talk back:
Talking back is because children's self-awareness begins to develop, they have their own ideas and don't want to be "pushed around" by their parents. Of course, this is also related to parents' "arranged" education. If children are consulted and given some respect, I believe they will not have the problem of talking back. You can try to ask children why they talk back, and communicate with them more, which can strengthen the relationship between parents and children.
2, like to dismantle, a typical "demolition" expert
I believe that most parents don't like the behavior of children tearing things, and even educate them. It's obviously a toy that I've been thinking about for a long time, but after only playing for an hour, it becomes a "part" in the hands of children. What makes parents helpless most is that children can actually piece together the disassembled toys.
Parents may stand on the opposite side of "disassembling toys" and only see the destructive side of their children, but not their hands-on ability, memory and exploration ability when assembling. Therefore, no matter what kind of behavior a child has, it has its good side and bad side. What parents need to do is to look at the problem fairly and in a diversified way.
The reason for the child's disassembly:
In the final analysis, the child is too curious. They are particularly curious about the structure of toys and want to understand them in their own way, so they will take them apart. Of course, this process also needs hands-on ability, memory and groping ability as support, which just shows that children like to use their brains. I believe that in the learning stage, their grades will not be too bad. After all, children who use their brains are very smart.
3, unruly, more active thinking.
For those unruly children, parents really have a headache because their original intention is to think of them. In the eyes of parents and teachers, a good boy should follow the rules and listen to the teachers and parents carefully in order to make a difference and learn more knowledge and skills.
Although children who don't obey the rules will appear "problem of juvenile", especially when they have a lot of ideas, they often create "surprises" for their parents. But in fact, such children are more promising in the future.
Reasons for children's unruly behavior:
In the end, it is often those children who don't like performance when they were young, and there are many tricks. They have their own ideas since childhood, and they don't want to go with the flow, let alone live according to other people's ideas, so they don't obey the rules. In other words, such children are indomitable, they are willing to try new things, and they always retain a kind of momentum.
Don't wear colored glasses to look after the children. The "bad habits" in parents' eyes are actually their "armor". If you think your child's behavior has gone too far, parents can guide them in a gentle tone instead of forcing them to change.