In the eyes of many adults, children are not fully aware of their emotional richness. Children are quiet or noisy, but in fact, you may not imagine that behind some active or crying States, there are actually "good emotions" and "bad emotions" of children.
In the process of parents accompanying their children to grow up, emotional communication can not be ignored. Therefore, it is particularly important to teach children to manage their emotions and help them know, understand and control their behaviors and feelings when they have bad emotions.
If the child's bad emotions are not released for a long time, or are always expressed in the wrong way, then these negative factors will gradually merge with the child's personality, and over time, the child's temper will also develop in an irritable and sensitive direction.
Especially in the "critical period of character growth" before the age of 6, as the saying goes, "Looking at the old at the age of three" is actually telling us that a person's personality, concept and lifestyle are all influenced by childhood shaping.
From the formation of children's self-awareness, the whole person is like a wet cement, constantly being shaped by external forces, and it is easy to change its shape because of its amorphous characteristics. At this time, family is the main factor of external influence.
Parents' repeated stimulation may be casual, but sometimes the reinforcement of children's bad emotions is real, so we can always see that sometimes children start crying inexplicably. Teaching children to deal with bad emotions in advance is actually to help us better understand the child's growth process.
The first step is to teach children to distinguish between good and bad. Bad emotions come because children don't realize how bad their emotions are, and how much harm that anger or even irrational state will cause. Therefore, teaching children to recognize the quality of emotions is also a way to hinder the fermentation of bad emotions.
As a parent, you can communicate with your child in advance from the child's point of view and remind your child that he is in a bad mood with a more specific description. For example, children who lose their temper are fierce little animals, or children themselves have some contradictory things.
This will not only attract children's attention, but also make the process of dispute and anger too tense. When children grow up, their ability to distinguish is also growing, and parents can be more straightforward. But we should pay attention to remind children not to use their own bad emotions to remind them, otherwise it will only lead to children's imitation. At the same time, the standard of good or bad mood should be objective. Don't take children's "disobedience" in the eyes of adults as a standard.
The second step is to release bad emotions in the right way. There are many sources of bad emotions, which may be that children are misinterpreted, their self-esteem is frustrated, they are bullied by others, and their wishes are not satisfied. But no matter what kind, as a parent, if you want to help your child, you must first understand the source of your child's depression and irritability, so as to better help your child choose the right release channel.
Parents need to communicate effectively with their children, and at the same time avoid bringing their emotions into it, and be a quiet and serious listener. Children's trust in their parents is not necessarily what you have done. Being a good listener can also help children to let go of bad emotions and solve them from the outside. After understanding the real demands of children, the way parents guide their children's emotions can be more targeted.
In addition, the release of negative emotions is closely related to children's ability to resist adversity, and most negative emotions are produced by the difficult situations experienced by children. Adversity brings pressure to people, which constantly suppresses people's hearts and makes children with resistance become tough in this process.