If children don't fight back, but just avoid it, how can they be educated?
Parents can intervene in the conflicts between children, and they must intervene, but the "intervention" here does not directly refer to parents, but tells children how to deal with them correctly. Children will eventually leave adults to live independently. If they want to face conflicts from fighting to bullying, they must learn the following five things. Safe growth is more important than success! You may meet two or three children when you usually brush videos or are around. One of them pushes, slaps or even kicks another child angrily, and the bullied child may clench his fist in injustice, tears can't stop flowing, and he doesn't know how to fight back. Then the question is, should children call back when they encounter this situation at school? Support children to fight back, but they are afraid that children will learn violence. If you don't fight back, you are afraid that your child will be bullied and wronged. If a child can hurt people with his hands, then the parents of the other party must have problems with parent-child relationship and education. What should I do? In fact, what is more important than calling back is that parents must do these five things. The first one is the first one. Dad can accompany his children to do more fighting training at ordinary times. The slapstick training here refers to training children's defense ability. Second, don't beat and scold children. After beating and cursing again and again, the child lost his self-esteem and self-confidence. If they dare not say anything at home, can't they expect him to dare to fight back outside? Third, teaching children to "quarrel" is to call for help. When someone bullies them, they should say loudly, "don't move, don't touch me!" You can't do this to me, I want to call someone. " This is to scare each other. Article 4 is particularly important. Children should be taught a sense of boundaries, such as the difference between "accidentally touching" and "intentionally hurting". If it is intentional injury, such as being slapped, it should be dealt with immediately to establish the child's awareness of self-protection. Fifth, what should I do if I can't beat you and shout at you? At this time, it is necessary to educate children, find parents, friends and teachers, and find all those who can find help to avoid secondary injuries. Safe growth is more important than success. When there is a conflict between children, adults can't completely stand by and sometimes they still need to intervene in time. The purpose of intervention is not to judge right or wrong, but to help children ease the deadlock. In other words, you should not be a policeman or a judge, but a "lubricant". The method of intervention is not to reason, but to provide practical help to children according to specific conditions.