Fang Zuming was exposed to drug abuse before, and Yu Chenglong was the most injured.
As the old saying goes, "if the son doesn't teach, the father makes a mistake." People can't help wondering how Jackie Chan's father disciplined this "problem son" privately and made him make mistakes again and again.
On the one hand, Jackie Chan is very enterprising. He is devoted to his career and seldom takes care of his family.
When Jackie Chan was young, his family was just Jackie Chan's inn. You can't tell your classmates when your son is out. His father is Jackie Chan, and the father and son met after midnight, but the children were often sleeping at that time. At that time, Jackie Chan and his son Fang Zuming rarely met, and even if they did, there was not much intimacy and communication.
And most importantly, Jackie Chan didn't educate his children on the bottom line!
What is right and what is wrong;
What mistakes will be made,
What mistakes have been made,
There may never be a chance to correct it.
These are all bottom-line education.
-The bottom line is-
What happened? What happened?
China's parents' misunderstanding:
Unfortunately, many parents in China don't understand this. In their childhood, they either spoiled their children, rudely deprived them of the opportunity to make mistakes and grow up, and even did not allow them to make mistakes. As a result, the child did not make a mistake, and once he made a mistake, it would be difficult to recover; Either let it drift, let the children make mistakes again and again, make mistakes again and again, from small mistakes to big mistakes, develop all the way, and eventually lead to tragedy!
The essence of bottom line education is "rule education"
The essence of bottom line education is a kind of rule education, and it is also a kind of "border education" about how to be a man and how to do things. Strictly speaking, this kind of education can be achieved not only by speaking but also by personal experience.
Shortly after Fang Zuming's arrest, it was rumored that Fang Zuming enjoyed "special treatment" in the detention center, and Jackie Chan was using all his connections to try to get his son released on bail and escape punishment.
In this regard, Jackie Chan said, "State-owned laws and regulations must be observed. I have never had anything to do with it. " It is said that some friends and lawyers suggested that Jackie Chan should apply for bail pending trial in Fang Zuming according to law, but he refused.
It's never too late to mend, and Jackie Chan's approach has set an example for most parents.
In fact, many things are not "undertaken" by children when they commit crimes, nor are they "responsible" when they grow up.
For most parents, they should start with daily trifles and consciously cultivate their children's "sense of rules", "sense of responsibility" and "spirit of responsibility" from childhood.
Western bottom line education methods:
In this respect, there are indeed many gaps between China parents and western parents.
In the west, many parents will tailor many rules for their children. These rules are generally agreed by the children and are binding on both parents and children.
Once it is violated, it is necessary to accept punishment in strict accordance with the "regulations" for reflection, so as to cultivate children's awareness of behavioral boundaries. In fact, China's traditional education also emphasizes "rules". As the saying goes, "No rules, no Fiona Fang".
But the problem is that many China parents themselves lack the awareness and awe of obeying the rules. As the saying goes, "Like father, like son", unprincipled parents will naturally educate children who have no right and wrong. If Jackie Chan was made to "pay the price" when he was a child in Fang Zuming, why today?
Jackie Chan once responded positively to the drug-related incident in Fang Zuming, saying that Fang Zuming's life in the detention center was "just a local university". As a parent, Jackie Chan's words are undoubtedly very reasonable, although the price has been very high.
However, compared with Chen Shifeng, the murderer of Jiangge case, Fang Zuming still has a chance to turn over a new leaf for his "mistake" in criminal detention for drug-related. However, how many parents will be inspired by this?
No one wants to make mistakes, but in the whole process of life growth, mistakes are inevitable, and it is difficult to grow without mistakes. However, how many children have grasped the bottom line of making mistakes before they really go to society?