Strong mothers are generally self-righteous, like to tell others what to do and find fault with their husbands and children. Often manifested as: you must listen to your mother, and your mother has the final say; Closely monitor the child's every move and know his whereabouts and behavior like the back of his hand; All activities of the child should be reported to her, and if necessary, permission must be obtained before action; Blind guidance on children's lives, indiscriminate interference, and unreasonable manipulation of children's public and private lives. In a family, if the wife is too strong, the husband is often under great pressure, which will easily lead to disharmony between husband and wife.
Because the right to control and dominate the family is occupied by the wife, patriarchy cannot reflect its dominant position. If the family wants to maintain relative harmony, the father can only "resolutely support" the mother's opinions and suggestions, otherwise it will be a quarrel or a cold war. Therefore, the weak father gave up the family leadership position. When a husband can't get the respect his wife deserves and can't find his position and sense of value in the family, he will go outside to seek comfort, and the probability of his cheating will increase.
Moreover, psychological counseling found that when the father's role in the family becomes more and more marginalized (the father becomes a castrated man), the mother will become stronger and replace the husband. In this vicious circle, women become more and more powerful and controlled, while men become more and more evasive and incompetent. Such a family structure, interaction between husband and wife and family atmosphere will inevitably affect children's personality development. Children will identify with same-sex parents when they grow up-daughters identify with their mothers and sons identify with their fathers.
In a strong mother's family, the daughter will become a strong daughter. In many families, the tense mother and daughter are often mothers and daughters with the same personality, that is, a strong mother must have a strong and overbearing daughter; A grumpy mother will pass on her grumpy problems to her daughter. Sometimes you will find some interesting phenomena. A strong mother has a good girl, but when the good girl reaches puberty or enters a love marriage, she becomes autocratic and controlling, and even shows her inner control in a gentle way.
If a daughter is too angry with a strong mother when she grows up and can't resist in a tough way, she will fight back in other ways to protect herself from being swallowed up by her mother. When a daughter resists her mother's tyranny, she secretly inherits her mother's tyranny, which will naturally bring her future relationship with her partner and children. If a daughter always sees her mother angry with her father when she grows up, she will unconsciously transfer this emotion to intimacy when she grows up, and she will always be angry with her boyfriend or husband inexplicably.
The restraint and control of a strong mother will also make children lose self-confidence and inferiority, leading to emotional instability, lack of self-confidence and excessive dependence on their parents. However, too strict discipline can easily obliterate a child's personality. Many mothers regard raising children as a way of self-realization and often attach their own values to their children.
Their children's success is their success, and their children's failure is their failure. Therefore, many mothers invisibly impose their will on their children, shape their children according to their own wishes, make their children's nature distorted and depressed, lose themselves in various constraints, become inferior, and feel that everything they do is for their mothers, and they can't generate motivation to do things inside. Under the pressure of power, children know that fighting is useless. Although I say "no" in my heart, I can only express obedience on the surface, so many children have a good life when they are young.
But the more you get to the back, the more tired you get. If no criticism or encouragement can impress him, you will become bold and enterprising; Faced with things that you can't control and don't want to do, you often take a negative attitude, and lazy work will appear.