What should I do if my child locks the door during the rebellious period?
1, find the reason.
(1) began to pay attention to protecting privacy, hoping to be respected.
When children grow up, they will have a sense of protecting their privacy. They don't like their own things and are rummaged by their parents. Children have this awareness since they were seven years old, but many parents don't know how to respect their children, so they always protect their self-esteem in this way.
(2) There are obstacles in communication with parents, and they can't always talk together.
Many children will have some changes in their feelings towards their parents when they grow up. This is because parents don't understand their children's world more and more. Every time a child chats with his parents, it ends in discord. After a long time, children don't like chatting with their parents, which is a sign of separation. They avoid getting along with their parents by closing the door, and children with this mentality are generally prone to rebellious behavior.
I want to have my own space, so I will lock the door.
When I was a child, everyone didn't know what privacy was, but as I grew older, I gradually became conscious. At this time, children will have many secrets. Children need a privacy space, so they will lock the door when they get home. Parents should also learn to respect their children's behavior when they lock the door. Don't always act arbitrarily, give him some space appropriately. Although they are parents and children, they also need to have a sense of boundary when they get along. Especially for parents of the opposite sex, it is very important to establish a sense of boundary. Parents should understand that children are not their own unique property, but also need to be as independent as adults and have their own privacy.
2. Parent-child relationship also needs a certain sense of boundary.
(1) Parents of the opposite sex need to know how to establish a sense of boundary for their children.
When we were young, we could often kiss our children, but when the children grow up, such behavior will gradually decrease. You can use a simple behavior like touching your head instead, especially for parents of the opposite sex. This approach can not only build a sense of boundary for children, but also be less strange. No matter how good the relationship is, you need to have a degree. This is the most scientific education.
(2) Parents should learn to respect their children and protect their privacy.
The child will grow up sooner or later, and in the process, he will gradually understand what privacy is. Although parents have the right to monitor their children, they can't just look through their children's diaries and other personal items. Sometimes this kind of strong behavior of parents will make children dislike you, and in serious cases, there may be rebellious behavior.
(3) Harmony between parents can give children a better growth environment.
Many families put their children first, and when they are born, they will ignore the feelings of the other half. Actually, this is not right. Parents should show great love in front of their children This kind of influence will make children feel more secure, and don't let the parent-child relationship surpass the husband-wife relationship. Especially for parents of the opposite sex, too close parent-child relationship is not conducive to the growth of children.
Parents should respect their children's private space.
(1) Be sure to knock before entering the children's room. Simple behavior can make children respect you more.
Simple behavior will affect children's impression of you. In life, many parents don't know the truth of caring, and always suppress their children's thoughts with the attitude of adults. In fact, sometimes thinking about this problem from another angle can have different results.
When a child locks the door, it means that he needs a personal space, and he wants to get the same respect as an adult. At this time, parents must respect his ideas, and they need to knock on the door when entering the child's room. Although the action of knocking at the door is relatively simple, it also represents your respect for children. When you respect him enough, he will respect you more in life.
(2) Establish equal parent-child relationship and communicate with children more.
Communication between people is the best way to communicate feelings, and the most important thing in communication is to understand another person's thoughts. Now many parents also know how to learn scientific education methods, so they will communicate with their children when educating them, but sometimes the results of communication are not ideal. It is because parents do not communicate with their children on an equal footing.
Try to put yourself in the other's shoes and communicate with your children in a friend's way. This is effective communication. In the process of communication, we must show respect for children's ideas. Don't always try to educate your child with your own ideas, try to accept his ideas.
(3) Educate children without any emotion.
When children make mistakes, parents always get angry uncontrollably, and sometimes they scold their children. Although the child is young, he has to save face. Therefore, when educating children, we also need to take into account his self-esteem and learn to control his temper. Choose a more peaceful way to communicate with your child and let him understand his mistakes. Only in this way can the child get enough respect, and this method will make him more acceptable.