A person's growth and development is accomplished in interpersonal communication. Therefore, cultivating students' interpersonal skills is not only the need of quality education, but also the unshirkable responsibility of our educators. In the teaching process, I mainly pay attention to cultivating students' interpersonal skills from the following aspects. First of all, guide students to understand the important role of training their interpersonal skills. If diet, housing and air are the material environment on which people live, then the relationship between people is the psychological and social environment on which people live. Just like air and water, people can't live without interpersonal communication. "the weather is not as good as the geographical position, and the geographical position is not as good as people." In the growth and development of mankind, "human harmony" is the most important. A well-connected person will never be lonely anywhere, and others will be willing to help him if he is in trouble. He will feel at home, at school, and his heart will be smooth. Therefore, good interpersonal relationship and excellent interpersonal skills are very important for the growth of middle school students. First of all, interpersonal skills can establish good interpersonal relationships, stabilize emotions and promote learning progress and intellectual development. "A person who studies without friends will be ignorant". The main task of high school students is to study, and the friendship between high school students is mostly established in learning activities. When friends do homework together, they can exchange learning experiences, discuss learning methods, talk about extracurricular knowledge, discuss various problems and enlighten wisdom; At the same time, it can make learning easier and avoid taking many detours. Second, having interpersonal skills can give you a sense of security and belonging. This is the basic psychological needs of people. When a person comes to a completely unfamiliar environment, he will feel nervous and anxious because he suddenly breaks away from the support of the original interpersonal relationship and the new interpersonal relationship has not been established. "One fence, three piles, one hero and three gangs." Having communication skills will quickly establish good interpersonal relationships. When we encounter difficulties, we will help each other, tide over difficulties and share risks, which will eliminate fear and panic. In addition, each of us wants to be accepted by our own group and respected by others. With a good interpersonal relationship, we will feel that we are an independent person, a valuable person in communication, get respect and friendship, enjoy friendship in the group and meet basic psychological needs. Third, good communication skills are conducive to the healthy growth of individuals. Only in communication can a person fully express himself, let others know himself, and establish confidence in being a man and doing things through the positive evaluation of others; Only in the process of interacting with others will we consider observing social norms instead of going our own way and taking responsibility for our words and deeds. Self-confidence and sense of responsibility make students go into battle lightly in their study and life, winning without arrogance and losing with grace. Through communication, we can also communicate information, increase our knowledge, update our concepts, open up a wider field and move towards higher goals. Second, make students clear the basic principles of correct communication. First of all, we should respect others and allow others to be imperfect. In communication, we should respect others' personalities, feelings, habits and hobbies, and be more tolerant and understanding of others' shortcomings. "Nothing is perfect, no one is perfect", clearly respecting others is the principle of communication first, thinking and doing things should not be centered on me, attach importance to others, and recognize the value of others: keep your promise, speak kindly, and don't hurt others without saying a word; Even if others give us little help, we should express our heartfelt thanks. Secondly, treat people sincerely and naturally, don't pretend, don't put on airs. Truth, true feelings and sincerity are the magic weapons to establish good interpersonal relationships. "Open your heart to others", be pure and honest, and show your feelings; Dare to tell the truth and don't hide your shortcomings. In communication, if you behave appropriately and talk generously, and your expression, movements, intonation and words are very natural, you will leave a good impression on the other party. On the contrary, unnatural expressions in communication, such as formality, confusion, affectation, exaggerated expression and deep affectation, will give people a false feeling. What you pretend is disgusting and repulsive. Being too formal will make people feel uncomfortable and insecure. Third, teach students interpersonal skills and methods 1, and pay attention to establishing a good first impression. In interpersonal communication, few people can get along with each other day and night. In the brief contact with others, the first impression of both sides is very important and has a decisive influence on whether the two sides can continue to communicate. How to make a good impression? (1) sincerely interested in others; 2 smile-don't forget to smile at any time; (3) Remember other people's names and mention them frequently; Be a patient listener, listen to other people's conversations, and don't interrupt others at will; ⑤ Talk about topics that meet each other's interests; 6. Make the other person feel important in a sincere way. 2. Initiative and enthusiasm. When you meet someone, take the initiative to say hello, take the initiative to say hello, take the initiative to pour the first cup of tea, and take the initiative to extend a warm hand ... This kind of active courtesy will make you respect others as well as others. In communication, enthusiasm for people can make people feel friendly and increase the attraction of both sides. 3. Learn to praise others. It is a common psychological need for people to hope for recognition and praise from others. "A kind word warms three winters", sincerely praising others will make the other person happy and make him feel happy. So, first of all, always pay attention to the people and things around you, find the advantages of others, and sincerely praise the people around you; Secondly, we should grasp the discretion, praise should be appropriate and appropriate, avoid "touting" and exaggeration, praise should be appropriate, objective and sincere, and make the other party happy and comfortable. 4. Positive self-suggestion. For those students who are afraid to associate with others, let them often give themselves positive psychological hints. For example, mentally say to yourself: "I am a popular person, I can do it!" " "There's nothing to be nervous about. Imagine yourself as a good communicator in your mind, and let students communicate with others easily and naturally with this mentality. 5. Be good at finding common ground with others and like others as you like yourself. 6. Be good at empathy-understanding. When communicating, think from the other person's point of view and put yourself in the other person's shoes. You can constantly improve your empathy and believe that the other person will like you. 7. According to different communication targets, different communication strategies are adopted, and what people see and what songs are sung in what mountains. The language, attitude and method of communication should also change with different communication objects, so as to achieve the expected communication purpose. The most important thing to exercise interpersonal skills is to practice repeatedly in practice, to encourage students to take the first step bravely, not to be afraid of failure and frustration, to grow their talents in practice, and to convince students that they can become "communicators" and "activists".