Family is very important to life, because all of us start from the harbor of family. There are four most important places in a person's life: the first is to feel the changes in the outside world through his mother in the womb. It can be said that family education actually began in the mother's womb; The second is family. His first cry when he came to this world was the first declaration of independence. At this time, his communication with the outside world is mainly through his family and parents. The third is the classroom. Is there any intimacy in the classroom? Can you grow up healthily? Leaving school to work and entering the workplace is the fourth place in life. There are many things to deal with if you want to fight hard in the workplace and get promoted. However, if you are tired in the workplace, you can talk at home. Therefore, family is the place where life can never be separated, and it is the most important and warmest harbor in life. Life begins here, and life will return from here.
Parents are the first teachers of the children.
Parents are their first world to children. Parents are the first and longest teachers in a child's life. Parents influence the development of children's life. French educator Francois Froebel said: The hand that pushes the cradle is the hand that pushes the earth. Mr. Liang Qichao also said: Therefore, governing the world is the second, saying: Be upright and recruit talents. And the foundation of both must be cultivated; The foundation of training must start from the mother's teaching; The foundation of mother education must begin with women's studies. Therefore, women's studies are a great source of survival and strength in the world. Habart (Swedish educator) also said: "One father is better than a hundred principals."
At present, the focus of social attention is school education, and parents pay more attention to school education, ignoring that they are the real educational foundation and the key to determining the fate of their children. In fact, the most challenging and complicated work in adulthood is the most important task of human society.
Many parents think that their job is to make their children eat well, dress well and be healthy, and education is the job of schools. In fact, no matter where the child is, it is always inseparable from the influence of parents and the education of parents, including every word at the dinner table, which the child sees in his eyes and remembers in his heart. Parents don't educate their children, and children will become bad; Parents don't educate their children in the right way, and children may become bad. Usually, behind the outstanding children become outstanding talents, there is always the shadow of a warm and harmonious family; Similarly, when a person forms an imperfect personality, factors full of conflicts and contradictions can also be found in the family. Because most parents have not received scientific training and scientific parenting knowledge training, they are prone to make mistakes.
Good parents don't regard educating their children as boring responsibilities and obligations, but as their own "a kind of fun, a kind of enjoyment and a kind of abundance". Only those who can enjoy education can interpret the splendor of education.
Childhood is the most critical stage of life.
Suhomlinski said in the trilogy of educating people that childhood is the most important period of life, not the preparation period of future life, but a real and dazzling unique and unrepeatable life. What kind of person today's child will become in the future depends on how he spent his childhood, who led the way hand in hand in childhood, and what has entered his mind and heart in the world around him. People's personality, thinking and language are all formed in preschool and early school age.
The secret of childhood is far from being discovered. We know that in the long history of mankind, children have never been treated as human beings, including today, many of us still do not treat children as human beings. It was only after the Renaissance that children were truly discovered and treated as human beings that they began to respect their status. Especially since the United Nations Children's Charter, it is stipulated that we must respect and care for children. However, with the Children's Charter, do we really treat children as children? No, let alone treat him as an independent person.
Tolstoy once said that a child's wisdom, emotion, will and personality from the world around him during the period from birth to 5 years old are many times that from 5 years old to the end of his life. This sentence is very interesting, which shows the importance of family education and the significance of family education to children before the age of 5.
Family education is the weakest link.
The educational value of family is far from being recognized. British scholar Huxley said: To build a great nation, we must start with family education.
Driving without a license's "drivers" are everywhere on the way to home. You can't drive without a driver's license, and you will be fined if you violate the rules. However, parents can go their own way without any training and certificates. In fact, being a parent is a hundred times more complicated than driving. Every aspect of a child, from physiology to psychology to parenting style, from knowledge learning to character cultivation, is a university question. However, we can be parents and give orders to our children without any training. If the territory of a country is full of "drivers", it must be very dangerous.
Montessori once warned us that ignorant treatment of children is more terrible than ignorant treatment of adults. If children are not properly taken care of during their growth and development, they will retaliate against society when they grow up. Ignorant treatment of children is much more terrible than ignorant treatment of adults. This will create a huge obstacle in the baby's mind, and then form a personality that hinders the development of the world. (Absorb the mind, page 59) If parents didn't treat their children in ignorance, the world might be much better. We can't count how many families and parents are not familiar with the common sense of education, and they hurried on the road without their parents' "driving license". But you can often see such parents in your life. Ignorant treatment of children is more terrible than ignorant treatment of adults because children are weak, passively accepted, resigned and irresistible, while adults are conscious, selective and irresistible.
Home-school cooperation is the most effective education.
Home-school cooperation and co-education refers to strengthening the home-school co-education mechanism and establishing a new home-school cooperation model through home-school interaction, parent-child co-reading, new parent schools and home-school cooperation committees, so that parents can participate more in school life and lead parents and children to grow together, so that family education and school education can complement each other and promote each other, and finally realize the coordinated development of family education and school education.
1. It is conducive to the educational function of the family.
2. It is conducive to the establishment of a modern school system (modern school system is an institutional arrangement to coordinate the relationship between schools. The modern school system regards the school as an open organization, which not only pays attention to the internal operation process of the school, but also attaches importance to the interaction process between the school and the family and society. Emphasize the role of school stakeholders in system construction and development. 20 12 in order to promote the construction of the modern school system, the Ministry of Education issued the Guiding Opinions on Establishing Parent Committees in Kindergartens in Primary and Secondary Schools: fully understand the significance of establishing parent committees, regard them as an important part of building a modern school system with legal education, independent management, democratic supervision and social participation, as an effective way to give full play to parents' positive role in educational reform and development, and as an important measure to build an education system closely linked with schools, families and society.
3. Conducive to improving the quality of education and teaching;
4. It is beneficial to improve the satisfaction of school education;
5. Conducive to the formation of a good relationship between teachers and students;
6. It is conducive to building a harmonious family relationship. (Suhomlinski said: Childhood is like a year. To enter the mysterious palace of childhood, you must be a child to some extent. Only in this way, children will not regard you as a person who accidentally broke into their fairy tale world. -trilogy of educating people, page 6);
7. Conducive to the common growth of parents and children.
From many examples of "home-school cooperation", we can see the great power brought by parents' participation in school management offices, which makes parents change from resistance to encouragement, from opposition to friendship, and changes the ecology of schools. Many parents in China, on the one hand, complain about education, on the other hand, are doing many things that violate the laws of education. Because they don't understand education, they desperately send their children to various cram schools, which takes up their time and prevents them from growing up freely. Through parents' participation in school education, parents can gain more educational knowledge and ability, which will become a positive force of education in China and form a positive energy. Family education plays a key role in this process.
(This article is excerpted from Zhu Yongxin, Deputy Secretary-General of Chinese People's Political Consultative Conference, full-time vice-chairman of the Central Committee of the Democratic Progressive Party, vice-chairman of the China Education Association and director of the Family Education Professional Committee of the China Education Association, who gave an abridged speech at the "20 15 International Forum on Family Education". )