Nowadays, there are more and more variety shows, and the themes are getting closer to people's lives. For example, "Where's Dad?" This is a trend of parent-child variety shows a few years ago, focusing on the lack of companionship of fathers in the process of taking care of their children. Recently, children's education has become a social pain point, and there is a variety show "Dear Little Desk" accompanied by a lovely child's schoolwork education.
In the program, several stars play substitute teachers, participate in the teaching assistance work of several children's after-school care classes, and record the children's study life after school. Many topics about parenting have also caused many netizens to discuss.
In several programs, I was deeply impressed by Fu Seoul's way of bringing a baby.
Fu Seoul had participated in The Story of Chipa before, when she often talked about how happy her son was.
These classic quotations of Dole: (1)
Fu Seoul: "Mom has a little friend, can't she play with you?"
The son said, "Then my classmate has nothing to do?"
Fu Seoul: "Students play with you during the day, and younger brothers and sisters play with you at night."
The son replied, "You didn't know how to play until one day ..."
(2)
Fu Hancheng hasn't seen his son for over two months. He hugged his son on the high-speed rail, and his son patted his mother calmly: "Nothing, I have been trying to remember that I have a mother."
(3)
Fu Seoul advised his son to brush his teeth well: "Son, you must brush your teeth well, or the female classmates will not like to play with you!" " "
Son: "Do you think I won't brush my teeth properly if I take care of them?"
(4)
Fu Seoul advised his son to work hard: "The ugly duckling became an ugly duckling through hard work."
Son: "if you don't work hard, you will become an ugly duckling." You can't fool me into trying. "
(5)
Dole was selected for the broadcast gymnastics competition.
Dad said, "son, you have to understand that you were chosen not because you are good at doing exercises, but because you are handsome."
Son: "Oh, so you became my father because he did a good job?"
(6)
Foer and her husband reissued the wedding.
Duo Le was invited to give a speech on the stage: "They got married without my consent for the first time, and they still got married without my consent for the second time. What does this mean? My father only looks at my mother, and my mother only looks at work! She can marry the same person again as long as her job requires. "
The image of a humorous little boy jumps from the page.
Children have such a personality, and the family atmosphere must be very good!
At that time, I was very interested in Fu Seoul's educational methods. She once mentioned a word in a debate called "dynamic praise", saying that praise should be skillful, dynamic and specific in order to be effective. This time in "Dear Little Desk", Fu Seoul personally demonstrated how to "dynamically praise people", and the children who were praised by her were happy with their naked eyes. If nothing else, parents should really learn to praise others.
Xu Jingkai is a little boy who is strictly required by his mother and takes the initiative to do his homework.
Fu Seoul came to accompany him in his homework and saw Xu Jingkai using an eraser. Fu Hancheng said to him, "Don't you think it's beautiful? Erase the rewrite, right? " How can you have such a good son? Who raised such a good son? "
The child is a little uncertain. He replied, "Mom says I'm not good."
Fu Seoul was not affected by the child's depressed emotions, and continued to encourage the child in a relaxed and humorous way: "You go back and argue with her tonight. You said that I think you are the happiest woman in the world, with such a good son as me! I envy you and hope you can be satisfied. "
"You are the best. Next time mom says you are not good, you can say that Teacher Fu says I am the best. "
"Do you know why your mother gave you so much homework? Because you are so smart! She knows that you are too smart, and doing your homework is so easy for you! "
"You know, Xu Jingkai, it's a piece of cake for you to do these things. You can do them as fast as Teacher Fu! "
There is also a little girl named Xie Yufei, who also looks distressed when doing her homework.
Fu Hancheng came to her side and began to fantasize about rainbow fart.
"You look beautiful. Let me see how your handwriting is! I can't help it I am good-looking, and I write well. What should I do? I don't know what to do about my Excellence, do I? I understand you! "
After Fu Seoul's praise, Xu Jingkai, who was originally unsmiling, also showed an embarrassed smile. Xie Yuxi, who doesn't want to do her homework, looks happy. They are all more confident, in a better mood and more devoted to their homework.
Other guests and experts at the scene praised this method of praising children.
The importance of praising children is self-evident. A study in Japan shows that children who are often praised by their parents but rarely praised by their parents have a success rate five times higher than the latter!
Mr. Chen Heqin, a famous educator, said: "No matter what you want your child to do, become, learn, learn, you must have a magic weapon."
It is "encouragement".
In contrast, we usually praise children, that is, "great", "really good" and "really obedient" We are helpless when our vocabulary is insufficient, and we can't praise and encourage our children at all.
So, how to be promoted from a novice player of Rainbow Fart to a praise expert? First of all, be sincere.
The real praise is to find each other's bright spots and praise them realistically.
Don't say that children have no advantages. This mentality that children have no advantages is problematic.
Every child has his own unique place, and everything has two sides. Children who procrastinate may be careful and inattentive, and often have more divergent thinking. Children who are disobedient are more likely to have their own opinions. ...
The best educator is a person who is good at discovering the advantages of every child.
As parents of children, why should we belittle our children to the end?
Let go of your empty expectations, let go of your anxiety about academic performance, look at your child's behavior with your eyes, feel your child's sincerity, and you will naturally find your child's advantages.
After discovering it, you can praise the child in detail.
There is no road to sincerity, because sincerity itself is the road to everything.
When praising children, you are sincere, not just talking. You can look him in the eye, give him a positive look, or give him a hug and be willing to share your achievements with others, which will make the child very happy.
When Fu Hancheng praised two children, she praised them from their own characteristics. She praised Xu Jingkai for her high demands on herself, for his cleverness, and for Xie Yuxi's good looks and beautiful handwriting. She could find the children's specialties at the first time.
Second, the way is changeable.
I have to say that Fu Seoul, as a writer and debater, has a good vocabulary and language skills.
Then, as parents with poor expressive ability, let's see how Fu Ma exaggerates people in a fancy way.
Summary:
Summarize the child's behavior, say what the child thinks, and then give a positive evaluation.
For example, Fu Seoul can try to understand the child's psychology and praise this behavior after getting the child's intention when he sees that the child clearly writes correctly but wants to erase it.
Comparison formula:
Sometimes praise is abstract, and children don't know how good it is. At this time, you can find some references for yourself, such as when your mother was a child, now your mother, teachers, other children and so on.
Fu Seoul casually praised this method: "You write as fast as Mr. Fu" and "You know, you could have made money from this in ancient times" ...
Boast:
There is another way that is more grandiose, but the effect is also very good, that is, praise children with exaggerated language. Although the child knows that this is an exaggeration, he will be very happy.
It's like a corny love story. Although it's a bit trite and meaningless, when we show it in a "performance" way, we can suddenly close the distance with our children, create a relaxed and humorous atmosphere, and let them feel love.
Restrain before promotion: Of course, it is not good to praise blindly. Praise should also be combined with reality. Children should be praised for doing well and pointed out for not doing well.
Then the structure of criticism and praise can be first suppressed and then promoted, or first promoted and then suppressed, or the "sandwich style" that many mothers are familiar with, with affirmation from beginning to end and negation in the middle.
The three methods can be flexibly selected and used according to the child's personality and specific situation.