In TV series, Xu Lang, the leading actor, can carry out his educational philosophy, demanding children strictly from childhood, and children are sensible and excellent. The heroine is free and unfettered, allowing her children to take all kinds of risks and suffer all kinds of injuries. Of course, not in life, our thoughts will be restricted by the environment.
Sometimes I think that no matter what ideas, as long as they are carried out as always, they will bear fruitful results. Although the fruit education is strict, there is a father who understands her. At every step of her growth, her father was cautious. Is it possible for parents not to make plans at all? Isn't it the common wish of parents all over the world to make children better?
In life, children like Guoguo, more often, will become other people's children. When we see severity, we actually ignore gentleness as a father. This part of tenderness is natural and cannot disappear. Such a balance naturally exists in life. The so-called extreme is more of a projection in our hearts.
Doudou's mother Ann is an artist. It was all kinds of external uncertainties in life that got her out of marriage. But look carefully, in her education, freedom is fully implemented.
Such freedom often makes us sweat. As a lawyer, Xu Lang said that complete freedom brings the greatest non-freedom. In my own mind, there is always such a tight spell that I am always ready to tighten it, so that it is naturally difficult for me, such a child, to relax completely. I think in life, too many parents are in such a state that they want to give their children freedom, but they dare not give too much. The formulation of rules naturally has such anxiety.
As parents, there are always all kinds of anxiety. Recently, there are many parents who have been in contact with each other, and the feeling of anxiety is common, but the degree is different. But Ann in the play, as a mother, did take her freedom to the extreme. She said, I haven't found that the decision made by the child is unacceptable to me. Are you really not worried? How is this done?
We have studied psychology and all want to do it, but there are too many norms in life and we are used to being bound by rules and regulations. What we fear most is that there is no constraint. We can't live without constraints. We don't know what a child will look like without constraints. That's the ideal state!
Recently, the situation of children has been frequent, and everyone says that I am too used to children. She has no fear, no rules. I feel too nervous and used to being bound by rules. Subconsciously, am I resisting those rules? And I, in charge, am used to contradictions and bring contradictions to my children. Is this what Xu Lang said, no rules can bring the greatest freedom to children?
After thinking and thinking, I thought that I was firm in my three views and educational concept, but in the actual operation process, I found myself hesitating too much, too vague and self-inconsistent. So, what is my educational philosophy? Is it often that I just go with the flow and follow the crowd? Swing from side to side?