Mr. Tao Xingzhi once said: "Without love, there is no education." From this point of view, infecting children with love and caring for them with love is the foundation of family education, and the influence of family education on children plays a vital role in their lives. So what should families do?
First of all, families should create a good living and learning environment for their children.
As the saying goes, "those who are near the ink are black, and those who are near the ink are black." Obviously, family environment plays a positive role in children's success. Italian poet Dante said: "If the seed of white pine falls into a crack in the stone in England, it will only grow into a very short tree;" However, if planted on fertile land in the south, it can grow into a big tree. "This particularly emphasizes the role of the growing environment.
Secondly, families should make full use of their children's innate advantages, develop their intelligence and cultivate their talents.
For example, some children are naturally noisy, with pure sound quality and wide range, which provides material conditions and possibilities for cultivating them to become singers; Some children are born with keen observation, which provides favorable conditions for them to learn painting and engage in experiments. Children with good memory may succeed in learning a foreign language; A thoughtful child may have an optimistic prospect in learning science and thinking ... According to the child's genetic quality, making the child feel like a duck to water can effectively give play to his genetic advantages and train him into useful talents.
Third, families should filter the influence of social environment and constantly cultivate their children's abilities.
The closed education era of "turning a deaf ear to things outside the window and reading only sage books" is gone forever. The disintegration of traditional unified moral concept and the change of social environment directly affect the emergence and development of various moral education sources in the family moral education environment, the dissemination of various moral information on the social moral level, the radiation of a large number of moral media and social influencing factors have obviously enhanced the role in the formation of children's ideological and moral quality. All these make family moral education go out of the closed mode in the big environment and face the eight winds of social change. The arrival of the open era has led to the collision and exchange of multi-cultures. With the dialogue between traditional moral culture and modern civilization, the emergence and accelerated formation of social group stratification has put family education in a society with conflicting moral concepts. The binding force of traditional moral norms is weakened, social control is gradually relaxed, and various new moral problems and moral problems are placed in front of parents.
Children are confused in the face of justice and evil; Faced with the extreme expansion of personal interests, materialistic, greedy and utilitarian, children are greedy and selfish; Children are vulgar, lazy, laissez-faire, rude and jealous. Therefore, it is necessary to break the closure, implement openness, strengthen guidance and strict requirements, boldly let students contact the society, understand the society, analyze and dissect its ugly phenomena, carefully read and understand the complicated textbook of society, guide and train students to distinguish, judge, criticize and educate themselves about the right and wrong, good and evil, beauty and ugliness of society, learn to automatically screen social information, and enhance their own immune function. First, establish the supremacy of the state and society. Adhere to the belief that ill-gotten gains should not be taken, illegal gains should not be accounted for, and money should be used properly to benefit the world. Cultivate children to be lively, cheerful, generous, studious, honest, modest, gregarious, knowledgeable, love labor, clean, punctual and trustworthy.
Fourth, the family bears the responsibility of cultivating children's multiple abilities.
Parents should try their best to help their children learn and master life skills in their daily life. The so-called "life skills" here not only refer to the "survival" ability of washing clothes, cooking and doing housework, but also include a person's social ability and psychological ability. This is a person's ability to effectively respond to various needs and challenges in daily life; It can also make individuals maintain a good psychological state and show the ability to adapt and act positively in the relationship with others, society and environment.
1, let children know their own characteristics and cultivate their self-awareness ability.
Children often don't know much about their own advantages and disadvantages, their own personality characteristics, what they can do, what they are suitable for, and many future goals. In most cases, parents and teachers ask them to do whatever they want. Some children just see their own shortcomings and fail to see their own advantages, leading to inferiority; Some children only see their own advantages and ignore their own shortcomings, thus generating pride and looking down on others. At this time, parents should let them know that everyone has advantages and disadvantages. Only by seeing their own advantages can we cultivate an optimistic and sound personality. We should also see our own shortcomings so as not to be blind and arrogant. Educate them to know how to evaluate themselves objectively, have objective and clear goals in life, do not demand what they can't do, and grow up healthily step by step in a happy mood.
2. Let children learn to listen and express, and cultivate their good interpersonal skills.
Listening carefully to other people's conversations and opinions, and using appropriate language to communicate with others and communicate ideas, these "listening" and "speaking" skills are important links in interpersonal communication. Some children often don't pay attention to what others say when interacting with others, and sometimes even show impatience and indifference, which makes people feel disrespectful and exclusive; Some children are unwilling to speak their minds, and lack a natural and frank attitude when expressing themselves, which hinders communication with others. They can't share happy things with others, nor can they share troublesome things with others. In this way, because you can't listen and speak for a long time, it's easy to shut yourself up in a Xiaotian field, resulting in loneliness, depression or stubbornness, and becoming an unwelcome person.
When communicating with others, parents should help their children to express themselves in verbal and nonverbal ways, express their views, wishes and needs, try to avoid misunderstanding and suspicion of others, form good interpersonal relationships, make more friends, and also let their children know how to live in harmony, be friendly to others, self-denial and treat problems and contradictions in interpersonal communication.