Parents' methods of educating their children 1, key points
Children's education experts believe that only when children first form the habit of concentration can they devote themselves wholeheartedly to their careers in the future and will not be disturbed by other things. The habit of cultivating students' concentration is the most important study habit for first-grade children. At present, from the first grade classroom, some children can listen to the class for almost 40 minutes, and the thinking in the classroom is always for the teacher. Such students can only account for 10% of a class. But some children can only listen to 10 minutes, which is discontinuous and needs constant reminder from the teacher. When students are writing and doing problems, some students can always concentrate on writing, while others often look around or stop writing in a daze. Fast children finish the task in ten minutes, and it is no exaggeration to be slow for an hour, which makes a big difference.
Suggestion 1: Give children a quiet learning environment. Children must keep quiet at home when they are studying or doing their homework.
Recommendation 2: Ask children to finish their homework within the specified time. This is so important! Nowadays, many parents, including middle and senior parents, drag their feet on their children's homework and write, 10 at 9 pm, which is a headache. It is not necessarily that the teacher has left more homework, but that the children have developed the bad habit of muddling along. Therefore, parents must grasp the initial stage of first-grade children. Now you cultivate your child's good habits with your heart, and you won't have to accompany the pain of writing and reading in the future. At this stage, parents should accompany them, but pay attention to the methods. The present company is for the future. Parents should first discuss the completion time with their children according to their homework, and strictly require their children to concentrate on completing their homework in one go within the specified time. Reading and writing assignments can be done alternately. If the child's homework exceeds the time when the child's attention is stable, the child should be allowed to separate the homework and complete it part by part, which will not only help to concentrate the child's attention, but also make the child's study easier and improve the learning efficiency. If parents don't allow their children to rest halfway, let them do their homework for a long time, or even nag at the side, it is easy for them to have resistance, thus losing their interest in learning, and naturally they can't concentrate. In addition, when children are writing homework, it is strictly forbidden to play while writing, drink water for a while, go to the toilet for a while, eat for a while, and talk to their parents for a while. If you can't stop now, you will worry in the future.
Recommendation 3: Cultivate children's intentional attention. It is important to cultivate children's intentional attention. If children can't form a good habit of attending classes at the beginning of school, they will encounter great difficulties in their later study career. Parents can't supervise in the classroom at school, so they can use extracurricular classes to supervise and cultivate. I remember when my daughter was a child, I accompanied her to an English class for a whole year. Other parents accompanied her, holding a small notebook to attend classes, taking notes and tutoring after class. I don't do anything, just look at my daughter's listening state, see if she can respond immediately after the teacher asks questions, raise her hand to answer, and if others can answer from another angle after answering. Communicate with her every time after class and summarize her gains and performance in this class. Encourage praise in good times and criticize education in bad times. From a very young age, I paid great attention to cultivating her intentional attention and paying attention to her listening state. I think it is very important for children to study at the beginning of class, but it is more important for children to study and attend classes, which will be the wealth of her life.
Recommendation 4: Train children's attention. A more professional attention exercise is playing? Circle word game? . This kind of game can train children's attention span, stability, distribution and mobility. For example, in the numbers given below, circle the second number after 4. In order to improve children's interest in playing this game, parents can also prepare two identical charts to play with their children and count their scores according to time, so that children will be happier playing this game and their attention will be improved unconsciously. Read aloud and repeat, often let children repeat what their mother just said, and so on.
Step 2 think independently
It is common to see such a mother. The child is almost always stuck in the mother's hand from waking up in the morning to going to bed at night. What you do and learn at any time is carefully scrutinized and calculated, and all problems are solved by your mother. After a long time, children have no self, no thinking, no ability to think independently and solve problems independently. This is the most terrible. The level of a person's intelligence is mainly reflected by his thinking ability. Children's learning has two purposes: one is to master knowledge, and the other is to develop thinking ability. Most parents and teachers tend to pay attention to the former and ignore the latter, so there are many students with good academic performance but poor thinking ability? High scores and low energy? Kid. It can be seen that cultivating children's broad, flexible and agile thinking ability is extremely important for developing children's wisdom.
Suggestion 1: Parents should not answer questions.
Many children always want their parents to give them answers when they encounter problems. If parents answer their children's questions, although the children's problems were solved at that time, in the long run, children will form the habit of relying on their parents, and they will not think independently when they encounter problems, and they will not find answers by themselves, which is not conducive to developing their intelligence.
Recommendation 2: Let children handle problems by themselves.
In children's study and life, they often encounter various problems, such as conflicts with classmates, wanting to be a small cadre, and wanting to ask teachers if they don't understand. Parents should not solve their children's problems, but should discuss and design solutions with their children. In this process, children need to analyze and summarize and imagine solutions and procedures, which is of great benefit to improve their thinking ability and ability to solve practical problems.
3. Reading habits
The famous educator Suhomlinski once said: The way to make children smart is not to make up lessons or increase homework, but to read, read and read again. ? Our parents should not only look at how many points their children got in the exam, how many words they learned and how many questions they can calculate. We should consider the cultivation of children from a long-term perspective. All outstanding students are not taught by teachers, and almost all outstanding students have the same good habit, that is, reading and reading a lot. Reading is the soil where all lessons are rooted, and its poverty and richness are related to the development of children's life. A famous teacher said yes? Even the smallest fish is hard to keep in the sea! ? Although our children are only in the first grade, from now on, teachers and parents want Qi Xin to work together and try their best to stimulate students' interest in reading and lead them into the door of reading. Once you walk in, you can stand by and watch him keep moving forward.
Suggestion 1: Create a reading environment. Parents should provide a good reading environment for their children. Parents can build a small bookshelf for their children and put their own books, such as fairy tales, children's pictorial, masterpieces and so on. Once they have their own bookshelves, children will be willing to stay under them for longer. Children who can have their own books may become lifelong book lovers in the future.
Recommendation 2: Picture books are the best starting point for reading. Picture books, also called picture books, are a kind of storytelling form with pictures as the main body, simple words and beautiful pictures. The picture books and comic books we read when we were children. I used to think that picture books were naive, just a primary stage of reading, and I always expected my children to finish reading black and white as soon as possible. It seems that only in this way can we have real appreciation and thinking. People with this idea are not familiar with picture books. Many articles about the situation of out-of-school children in poverty-stricken areas have less impact than Su Mingjuan's Big Eyes Longing for Reading, which makes the Hope Project deeply rooted in people's hearts. Picture books can not only lead children to feel the joy of reading, enhance their imagination and experience the ability of spatial expression, but also promote children to pay attention to subtle, humorous and interesting details in the book, enrich their open thinking of solving problems and let them learn to find more value in the development of stories. Let our children (old and young) always accompany the picture books, and let them learn the unique happiness, warmth and creativity of childlike innocence from those classic picture books.
Recommendation 3: read with children. Reading a book with children and sharing the fun and gains in the book is the most effective way for parents to lead their children into reading. Reading a book with children can be done: Step 1: Introduce stories. Discuss the titles and pictures on the cover of books. Please guess what this story is about. Introduce the author of the text and pictures. Step 2: Read the story aloud. Read aloud and vividly, showing obvious excitement about the story and language. At a convenient place, pause and let the children guess what will happen next. Ask short questions to see how much children understand and stimulate their curiosity. Step 3: stage summary? Ask your child which part of the story you like best or least. Ask questions about the story, such as why some events happened. Ask questions related to the story, such as whether they have had similar experiences, or what they would do if the protagonist of the story changed them.
Recommendation 4: Continue reading silently. Continuous silent reading should be a must for children at home every day and a necessary means to cultivate children's lifelong love of reading. Set 15-20 minutes every day. During this time, let the children put down anything at hand and read books purely for fun. They can choose to read books or magazines. In the continuous silent reading time, it is very important for parents to enjoy reading by themselves. If we simply tell children that reading is important and books are interesting. But what if it's on them? Real? I have never seen an adult reading in the world, which will form a gap in understanding. We hope that our children can see how our parents read and enjoy during the continuous silent reading time. 15-20 minutes is often enough to arouse a person's interest in a book, so once the continuous silent reading time is over, children often can't wait to find a book to read at the first time.
Suggestion 5: Take children to bookstores or libraries. You should take your children there once a week. Don't buy too many books at once. Try to respect children's choices in the lower grades. If you buy books that you think are valuable and force your children to read them, reading will become a burden. If children are forced to lose interest in reading, it will not be worth the loss. So don't do this, discuss with your child and use your wisdom to seduce him and guide him. If parents want to go shopping, you can leave your child in the bookstore or library and tell her to pick you up in an hour.
Recommendation 6: Read classic books. As children's interest in reading increases, parents should guide their children to read classic books. What are the classics that children read? It is a classic children's literature. At present, many educational experts are actively advocating and popularizing children's reading. What is their slogan? Read classic books and be a man with roots? .