Real guilt can make people fall into the present situation because of what happened in the past, which is a negative emotion that destroys self-confidence. When raising children, parents often use guilt to limit their behavior. Although the original intention of using this emotion is only to control children and prevent them from playing pranks, it may bring more internal and external social problems to children in the next few years. No matter whether adults' intention is to strengthen children's guilt, guilt will only bring negative emotions to children. Negative effects include panic, fear, introversion, insomnia, shame, lack of initiative and loss of self-esteem.
When parents use guilt as a way of discipline to stimulate their children, their goals may have been achieved, but at this time the children are completely controlled by anxiety and their emotions are occupied by anxiety. No matter how old your children are, when you use this guilt as a means to try to make them behave in the way you want, or try to make them feel uneasy about what they have done, you are actually accelerating their anxiety. People who are occupied by this kind of emotion show anxiety, tension and worry everywhere in their behavior.
For a simple example, when parents and children play games and pretend to be unhappy, such as crying or angry, they will force their 3-year-old child to kiss you because she can't bear to see you sad. Parents will make their children highly anxious because of this little game. In this way, the child has no choice, because from now on she will pay attention to those who make her feel uneasy in life. In other words, when she grows up, all her decisions will be dominated by this emotion, which is not what her parents want to see. Being a parent is not simple. What parents do will have a great influence on their children, not only in their adolescence, but also in their future.