1. Always express your love.
If children's life is full of love, then their emotional intelligence will be high. Therefore, in daily life, we should communicate with our children more. The communication here is not only language, but also physical contact or eye contact.
2. Help children express their feelings
It is also extremely important to educate children and let them know the expression of emotions. Many times, children become angry because they are too young to control their emotions.
3. Help children build self-confidence
Most children with high emotional intelligence have strong self-confidence, so it is usually necessary to build their self-confidence. The common practice is to encourage children and affirm their words and deeds, so that children will gradually become confident.
Let the children decide for themselves.
After children go to primary school, they can make their own decisions about small things, so that children will gradually become independent.
5. Affirm the child's mood
When a child is angry, remember not to suppress his emotions at home, but to communicate with him calmly, ask him why he is angry and help him adjust.
Step 6 acknowledge their achievements
Always affirm children's intelligence. Don't say something like "Why did you do XXXXX? You are so stupid. " Otherwise, children will feel really stupid and lose their ability to accept.
7. Cultivate children's optimistic and positive attitude
Optimistic children prefer to look at things positively. And as long as they always face life with an optimistic attitude, then children will live a happy life.
8. Don't spoil too much
Don't spoil your child all the time, and avoid saying "you are not young, this is too much for me", so as not to hurt your child's self-confidence.
9. Cultivate children's interpersonal skills
Create some opportunities for children to get in touch with others, such as taking children to visit or inviting other children to play at home. The more contact with others, the more children will like to associate with others.
Parents should set an example.
Children's earliest learning goals are mom and dad, so parents must be strict with themselves, such as not swearing and not getting angry easily, because you are an example for children to learn.
1 1. Adhere to the consistent family education style.
Parents' love for their children should be rational and principled, not spoiled or partial. Let children know what is right and what is wrong. The requirements for children should also be consistent, and they should not be absent from time to time, otherwise parents will easily lose their prestige and children will not develop good habits.
12. Positive education based on positive affirmation
For children's education, we should give priority to positive affirmation, so that children will develop in the right direction. For example, encouragement can make children more enterprising, and parents' trust in their children can make them more enterprising. Reduce the criticism and accusation of children, because it will make children hate you and refuse to communicate with you.
2. The performance of high emotional intelligence
1. Strong self-control: It means that children can control or dominate their own behavior. For example, sometimes I will order myself to complete a task or stop myself from doing something.
2. Strong self-confidence: Strong self-confidence is one of the representative manifestations of high emotional intelligence, and it is also one of the necessary conditions for a person to succeed. Most children with high emotional intelligence are confident. They know where their direction is and believe that they can succeed with determination and perseverance.
3. Curiosity: Children with high emotional intelligence are also very curious and always want to explore the unknown.
4. Good popularity: Children with high emotional intelligence have good popularity because they are good at dealing with interpersonal relationships. They will care and care for other children, like to share their joy with others, and have little irritability and anxiety, so their popularity will often be good.
5. Strong sympathy: Most children with high emotional intelligence are sympathetic, because they will think from the perspective of others, so they can feel the same.
6. Good mood: Most children with high emotional intelligence are optimistic, always smiling and very enthusiastic and sincere.
3. The performance of low emotional intelligence
1. Like to complain
Most children with low emotional intelligence like to complain. However, complaining is not only ineffective, but also distracts people's attention, which is a very negative mentality. They are unwilling to observe things deeply and do nothing to change their predicament. Therefore, ordinary parents should not complain about things in front of their children, but should guide their children to think optimistically when they complain about things for the first time.
2. "Shun Mao Donkey"
A child with low emotional intelligence is often a donkey, that is, he does whatever he does when things go with him. On the contrary, it is useless to say anything. In fact, this is a performance that will not be judged according to facts and interests. It is easy to be led by the nose and used by people in the future, and it is easy to lose big because of small things.
Step 3 be more willful
Any child will have a wayward period. If parents don't guide him well at this time, children will become impulsive, irritable, unreasonable and angry. It is recommended to give some understanding when the child is willful, and at the same time communicate with the child and do some positive guidance. Never speak with a tough attitude, lest it backfire.
4. EQ education era
EQ education includes how to deal with stress, interpersonal relationship, self-control and willpower. It is a cornerstone of children's growth. So when is the age to receive EQ education?
3 years old to 12 years old is the key period to receive EQ education. As early as abroad, EQ education has been incorporated into the teaching system of primary and secondary schools.
In China, some psychologists have found that children who have received formal emotional intelligence training in the critical period are better than those who have not received special training in academic performance, interpersonal relationship, future work performance and marital status. EQ education can not only improve children's academic performance, but also help to form optimistic and confident personality characteristics.
It can be seen that EQ education is a precious asset for children's life!